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My plan is to tell my husband to screw my friend so we are even. end sarcasm

I do not have a plan for now im going to wait until febraury 6 when my husband gets home I wont do anything between now and then

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Originally Posted by lokil
My plan is to tell my husband to screw my friend so we are even. end sarcasm

I do not have a plan for now im going to wait until febraury 6 when my husband gets home I wont do anything between now and then

You are a comfortable liar and co-adulterer.

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lokil, the problem is that you DON'T JUDGE right from wrong. That is why you are in this mess. That is why you are dangerous to others.

Your lack of judgment is why you took your panties off and did a married man in his wife's home.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by lokil
My plan is to tell my husband to screw my friend so we are even. end sarcasm

I do not have a plan for now im going to wait until febraury 6 when my husband gets home I wont do anything between now and then

Lol so two wrongs make a right now. Are you like ten years old? I don't even think you are real.

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Originally Posted by sortingitout
I don't even think you are real.
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This person is wasting our time.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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I already know how bad things are just because you keep repeating it it wont make me know it more, I know how bad it is I know i [censored] up I`m a cheating cheater who cheats what else do you want from me people.

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FWIW I think Lokil is real. I recognise sarcasm used as a defense. It's always mine.

I hope you think about we've all said between now and Feb 6. I'm sure you will.

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Ok ..Im sorry but you need deep help and I hope you wake up. I shouldn't be picking on you.

Good luck kiddo

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Originally Posted by lokil
what else do you want from me people.

A change of heart and mind.
Honesty and openness.
Integrity.

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Originally Posted by lokil
My plan is to tell my husband to screw my friend so we are even. end sarcasm

I do not have a plan for now im going to wait until febraury 6 when my husband gets home I wont do anything between now and then

There is plenty to do before Feb 6th, alot of planning on how you are going to shore up your boundaries.

I am going to assume that you are going to tell your husband, cuz I am a crazy optimist. Now, best case scenario IMO is that you and your H would agree on how to tell GF. Since there is so much time before your H gets home, what is your plan for how to deal with OM and his betrayed wife?


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I was supossed to see them this weekend, I want to see them I want to know if she knows, I hope she calls

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Originally Posted by lokil
what else do you want from me people.

a) honesty

b) keep your panties on around men

c) stay away from the OM's wife because you are an ENEMY


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lokil, one more thing before I go.

You came here for something. You could have just let this rot your insides for the rest of your life, hanging on to it until you die.

But you came here. You ask what we want from you. What did you want from us?

I know you've had some tough stuff thrown at you but it's all true. I really do hope you'll calm down and read what people have said, even the rough stuff. It's said to make you aware that all our actions have consequences.

Also, what Pep said. Honesty and openness and integrity.

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Originally Posted by lokil
I want to see them
Nooo



This is awful.
How heartless you are, it's STUNNING !





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Originally Posted by lokil
what else do you want from me people.

a) honesty

b) keep your panties on around men

c) stay away from the OM's wife because you are an ENEMY

Yo know what I`m not your husband I`m sorry he cheats on you. Yes I want to the right thing for us i`m beeing s honest as can be.

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Originally Posted by lokil
how about I never leave my room ever again that way Im certanly wont cheat again.

Carnac doesn't see this ending magnificently. Or even well.banghead

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If you are not going to tell OM's wife at this point, PLEASE have the decency to stay away from her until your H comes home and you can tell her together.

PLEASE do not be the 'ho that drinks with you GF when you have screwed her H in her home. PLEASE don't be that person.


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I came here for someone to tell me that they did what I did and at the end eveything was fine, thats what I came looking here, I did ended up learning your point of view perhaps telling is hte right thing to do. Im not heartless Ive been agonizing through this for 2 days.

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Originally Posted by lokil
Im not heartless I

Prove it by being honest with your "friend".

TODAY




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