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Okay, I need some of the veterans opinions. I called her hotel in Midland today and asked for the OM, sure enough they put me through which meens he was there. So, she has been calling all day and I have ignored it. Should I tell her I know, or just go to plan B/D? I know if I tell her she'll have some excuse and I don't really want to hear it. How would any of you approach this? She comes home tomorrow, should I send an e-mail explaining what I know, or wait and say nothing, just go to Plan B? Thanks for the help.
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Tell her you know. Do not argue. Then plan B...
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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When she arrives home she should find a suitcase of her things sitting on the front steps with your Plan B letter attached.
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I think you should talk to your attorney pronto.
About a temporary order giving you custody and primary use of the home. Put her out, LEGALLY.
Have this done before she returns -- and have her things packed and waiting. Letter on Top.
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Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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When she arrives home she should find a suitcase of her things sitting on the front steps with your Plan B letter attached. DITTO
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Patriot, I wholeheartedly agree with Fred and Lexxy. You have been a champ through this and have acted with great class and selfcontrol. Consult an attorney, write your letter, do things right. Pull the plug on this. This woman does not even deserve an explanation much less a heads up of what is to come.
God's Blessings,
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Me, BW-57
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Get with your lawyer, have her legally removed from the house, and to to plan B. That would be my recommended plan of action.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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>selfcontrol
You've got this in spades, Pat.
I live down the road from you and it was all I could do NOT to jump in my car and go open a can o'whoop@ss on your waynerd.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Okay, I need some of the veterans opinions. I called her hotel in Midland today and asked for the OM, sure enough they put me through which meens he was there. Damn - looks like Pariah called it right on this one. I was hoping for the sake of your M that he was wrong. WW's are evil, evil, evil. Did you actually speak to the OM? I agree on Plan B. Re-exposure too. Persons need to know that she's continuing to see the OM, even though she's denying it.
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Act quickly Pat.
Do it legally. Get an emergency hearing. With her history of domestic violence you need this protection!
Time is on your side right now, with her being out of town.
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Plan on getting your locks changed too! Tonight.
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............and MIDLAND????????????????????
Could there BE a less gross place in the world to get away?
I think not.
Proof positive that she's lost her effing mind.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Empty the accounts and use the money to retain an attorney.
You want spousal support, the house and the kids.
Oh, and she should come home to find her stuff on fire in the front yard for all the neighbors to witness.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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ITA with Pariah about the $$.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I hope you are at the lawyers office right now instead of reading this.
Plan-B, or Plan-D is necessary now
Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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............and MIDLAND????????????????????
Could there BE a less gross place in the world to get away?
I think not.
Proof positive that she's lost her effing mind. Midland good grief time to leave limbo land - time to get regain the initiative. Obviously she hasnt learn a thing and frankly doesnt care who she hurts. Its all about her.
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2 Sons (29 & 23)
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1 GDtr (2.5) precious little girl
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Patriot,
Just for "fun", actually you need to do this, reexpose to his family, your family, her family. She is/was/will lie. Get to the lawyer and get this done.
God Bless,
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Praying for you, Patriot.
God's Blessings,
Say
Me, BW-57
FWH 54
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FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
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