I'm with you there armymama.

Everytime I see the affair partner refered to as 'the lover' it makes my stomach churn. It's like another twist of the knife in my heart.

Lover my @$$...dirty rotten filthy skanky family destroying POS more like it!

This makes me want to scream and rant and gag and puke!!!!!!!

God's Blessings,

Say

Seeing the truth is sometimes just a matter of perspective.
Look at the picture, tilt your head to the left, and then to the right until you see the word.
Beware of the liar.

Theres your side, then thier side and then the truth.. So many hide from the truth as they try to live life in a fantasy land and blame others for why thier marriages fail. The answers are so simply laid out here thru MB but by the time they get here they are in such an emotional state that they need

.... first to know is we care about them and thier marrige.

then after some time and they have read the material and we want to help them reveal lovebusters, DJs, AOs we can ask questions and maybe even challenge them if we have to.


The practice of critisizing or hammering ppl as soon as they reveal a major mistake is totally selfish and only shows how childish we can be. I too have been caught up in it occasionnally but I try to be understanding of those who come here seeking advice and where they might be in thier life or mindset so in the end we help them.

The marriage vows are to me not some tricky set of rules that are allmost impossible to keep because I want to feel loved by someone else. They are more of a tool that helps me grow and know how to love someone. In that way those rules are a gift from God so I can have healthy relationships and retain the ability to love.

The rules in MB do the same thing and I doubt Dr H wants us to get into arguments using them to beat each other up in some "King of the Hill" battle of who is smarter.

I see what your sayin Pep may we all

SSO, if that is what you consider to be a "RANT", it certainly needs some hot sauce.

Yeah figures huh? Well you know me Pep, Sometimes I think I come across as beating around the Bush.

OK..

Now that should qualify...

Pep,

Now THIS is HOT SAUCE...

Hear Hear!!!!!

To me a pepperocini is grounds for a glass of milk and tacobell hotsauce can sometimes be too much.

Everybody thinks its hilariuos at my house.

I second that hear hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a few choice words for the OP myself that are definitely NOT appropriate for here, and lover is NOT one of them!!!!!!

This rant is off topic but I gotta rant somewhere.

When did the fashion memo comeout making itokay to wear leggings as pants. grown women...everywhere...whereing stuff ment to be wore UNDER clothing...as pants.

My DS11 went WOW mommy you can see her butt...like all of it...shes kinda naked. the other day

Note - if an 11 year old notices...ALLL men notice...

And these are grown women...wearing them as pants with heels and an oversized shirt...to WORK...

they are stockings without feet people...not pants.

If you can tell the shape of your err.........knee cap...then you shouldnt wear it as pants. Its like they painted their skin and said - there...i dont need pants...

Does this mean I am old? when you look at pants and ask seriously - could those be tighter. I wear low rise old navy jeans. They are pretty tight...but at least their is fabric...thickness to them. You cant see my freckles and any dimples i may have through them. If there is a mole on these girls legs you can TELL...

Hey Sistereed, I with ya on that.

When I see girls dressed like that I think of going to the hardware store and getting some "No-pest Strips"

Its nowhere near as attractive to me as the character of a woman who is confidant and gregariuos with good sense, dresses well and can laugh. If they take care of themselves and you can count on them being no pushover then thats someone worth the time to talk to.

The girls with everything hanging out are just so pathetic and desparate to be noticed or dumb if they don't know what they are doing. Im so glad that I am to old now for them to notice me anymore. lol.

it looks like this

skin tight leggings
t shirt
boots

everywhere
in the last three weeks...you can see there neither region with way to much detail. And its not skanky women persay but lots and lots of women. Its the new fashion thing. And not GIRLS...WOMEN...30 to 40 year old women. with kids with them.

We had a special faculty meeting this winter because teachers were wearing sweaters with these leggings. Even when I was skinny, I knew pants were pants. This is what happens when people start wearing white shoes after Labor Day....chaos ensues.

white shoes after labor day...but Clinton and stacey said its okay!

Well Clinton and Stacey best steer clear of the area below the Mason Dixon line!:)

Ok I see but, wait no butt.. seriuosly its just more than I want to see when I am trying to have a convo with a woman.
I mean I have when I was being a wise guy before asked kids with the pants falling off if they wanted my belt. I told em I had enough Butt to hold my pants up.

Whats also strange is if you tell an attractive young woman with revealing clothes to have mercy on you they act like they are tottally unaware of how it can effect guys. "its the style".

Its dangerous for men to think if a girl is wearing revealing clothing that they are looking for a lover or have loose morals but when it gets outrageous its easy to think that.

I just ignore it for the most part and keep my eyes above the waist while I search for some braincells behind the eyes in whatever conversations I might be having with them.

Usually its the young ones I worry about when they follow trends and the wolves gather around them.