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Originally Posted by Scotland
I was watching LOST and I heard Locke say something that I thought kind of summed up Plan B.

Originally Posted by Locke from LOST
"There is a difference between doing nothing and waiting. This is waiting."

I just watched it a bit ago and saw that and thought the same thing! LOL!







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Great minds think alike eh? HEHEHEHE

Olive branch part deux was planned for May2nd. As WH's bday is Saturday. laugh And it is gonna be the Top Gun movie. BTW, the bank account is still shared(OW must HATE that teeheee) so WH is going broke too. HEHEHEHEHE Yea, I know I know, drop my loonie in the pickle jar. That is only 3 for today so far :P


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Hey Scotty! Sounds like you are doing pretty good today.

Just a suggestion: Open a bank account for you - just to protect yourself. I am really glad that I did as WH decided to wipe us out one day (and you just never know with waywards...). Luckily, I had anticipated that WH might get desperate with $$. If you are going broke, then protect at least your income.


On the lighter side...
Saw at T Shirt at WalMart today that said

MOM
She's better than Dad

It made me smile because it's true in my sitch!

I apologize to all the BH's, as in their case it certainly does NOT apply.



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Well, I only had to put 6 LOONIES in the pickle jar today. That is great. Much better than the 20 from yesterday. It does a great deal of good to see it.

So on another point, I have a new dining room light. BIL came over to put it up for us. There hasn't been a light in there since we moved in 11 years ago. DS9 wants to know when we are getting the pool table. I told him we would have to save up for that(hmmm the pickle jar perhaps, hehehehehehe).


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Loonies for a pool table? That sounds awesome but at the same time I hope you don't get there THAT fast... ;-)


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If the dining room windows are visible from your driveway, make sure the new light is shining brightly when WH brings the boys home this weekend!


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It's not visible from the driveway, but I will still turn it on. It will be noticed. Geez, I know I know, drop my loonie in the pickle jar and move on. laugh


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Well, we have a new addition to our family. Scooch, a 9 week old, border collie/shepherd mix came home today. She is so cute. She is very gentle. Quiet, she only whines a little when she has to go out. We are having a few accidents, but it is to be expected.

I had my wisdom teeth out today. IT HURT. No more wisdom in my head though(hehehehehe). Pain pills are AWESOME(don't worry it's only Ibuprofen, but 600mL).

So DS7 came home from school today and he said, "Mommy, I made 2 cards today. 1 is for Scooch, but I didn't know how to write her name so I wrote"Puppy". The other one is for Daddy. It tells him that he needs to come home." Broke my heart. S7 said he is going to give it to WH tomorrow, which is interesting, since it is WH's bday. I am sure that's not the card you expect on your bday from your 7 year old son.


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Congrats on the new puppy!

You have a very smart (but hairy) pup on your hands. Scooch will be such a wonderfully loyal addition to your family (although, she may want to "herd" your kids).

Enjoy!


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Yes, do be careful of that. Herding dogs may occasionally nip at kids so take care if you have smaller nieces or nephews or other kids around.


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Absolutely!!!!!! Congrats on the new puppy, there is nothing better than being greeted by a little hairy being who loves you unconditionally. I don't know how I would have survived if not for my dogs.
My little one is with me; and I go out while WH is at work and see the other 2 once a week.
Dogs are the best!!!


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YAY!


Puppy breath?


grats scotty sounds like you have a winner


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I hope you enjoy your new puppy too! Good luck with Scooch. I like the name by the way. Your S7's card brought a tear to my eye. I can only imagine what WH will think about it.

By the way, I downloaded some good ole' loud angry music today (some Offspring and Rise Against) and thought of you. I'll be singin' along all the way to VA tomorrow.


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Congratulations on the puppy! I love collies, despite the hair issues.

DS7's card made me cry, too. I love kids - they see everything so clearly. Why can't adults see things through their eyes?



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Oh, I forgot to mention that I feel for you on the wisdom teeth. I had mine out at 18 and everything went really well, except for the pain meds. They gave me codeine, which made me really, really sick. I am glad they gave you ibuprofen. That shouldn't make you sick. Hope you feel better fast!


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A sweet puppy and a very good boy, well two very good boys - your house is overrun with blessings!


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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You are so right Neak. My house sure is. I didn't do too badly today. Only 8 Loonies in the jar today. That is 50 in total. Now that is SAD hahahahaha.

Well, I have an interesting one for you all. This is the email sent to the IMs. I know I shouldn't have checked it. I did. Should I respond and what should I do about this?

"Scotty,

DS7 has expressed on more than 1 occasion that he does not want to come over to see me on weekends.

Since this you convincing him then you can help him decide what he wants to do.

He does not want to listen to me"

Should I even say anything to DS7? I guess this is the response to the card DS7 has written. I just want to talk to DS7 about his feelings but not even respond to this at all with WH. It was an email sent to IMs that was addressed to ME. ARGH. Life is GRAND, wayturds suck azz.


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I think I wouldn't respond.

He can deal with it on his own from his side of the castle walls and you can from yours.

Nice that he is reaching out for 'co-parenting' input but plan B is more about parallel parenting vs co.

At least that is what works for me and my children.

Others might have different input on it. Valid input. Let's see.







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Originally Posted by Scotland
wayturds suck azz.


YES THEY DO!!!
Sorry he is making you and especially your sweet boys sad.
Wayturds are way selfish.
At least you now have a great puppy to fawn over and keep you busy.


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Scotty,

Just curious, but how did you manage to get this message if it was sent to the IM?

Do NOT engage WH directly. That is exactly what he wants. I am positive that my IM has received similar comments from my WH, but they are NOT passed to me.

Melodylane: How would you suggest that her IM respond to this?? WH should not know that this got through to Scotty, should he?

Scotty, does DS7 fight you about going to see his father? If he does not, I am not sure that I would do anything at all. His relationship with WH is up to WH, not you. As long as WH is not being abusive toward DS7 and DS7 is not fighting about going, then you most likely should not do anything.

If DS7 is fighting you about seeing WH, why? Does he give you a reason??


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DDay Spring 2009
WH moves out Summer 2009 and in with OW
Plan A - 4 months
Very dark Plan B Fall 2009
WH files D Summer 2010
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