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EVIL GENIUS CLUB is where I got the idea. It was a good little nugget. I am just not stopping it. I made sure to spray it on the backs of their shirts and coats so when they sat in the car, it would be on the seat too. It was just my little reminder. Smell is a great thing to conjure up a memory.


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I almost spit my drink out when I read what he wrote! That was darn funny!

Ok, you need to give your IM some ladyclueless lessons on how to filter email. I HOPE it gives OW migraines and she has to spend the day in a dark room furious at WH!


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I think that my New Email IM understands now. I sent her a note about what she is to pass on. She meant well. Remember for the REAL WORLD(not MB cult world grin ) this is COUNTER-INTUITIVE.

WH didn't call the kiddos tonight. The kiddos didn't want to call him though. Oh well, just another day in the life of a wayturd.


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What is this Evil Genius Club and can I join?

Yep, I LOVE to wreck havac on the AP. I know, I know.... It's not about THEM. But, honestly, it FEELS good when you have that knowledge that you did something -- anything -- to mess with them.

Call it a victory for our mental health. Petty? Yeah. But it feels good. And if it pisses them off and causes a rift... well, all the better.

Spray on, sister!!!

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HH-You can most definitely join the evil genius club. All you have to do is come up with things to do to WSs and APs that are EVIL in a GENIUS sort of way. There are a lot of people on these boards in this club. It's a fun club to be a member of. And better yet, you can NEVER be kicked out. grin


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LTIC!!!

That little gem was probably worth the accidental lapse in PB. Absolutely hilarious!

If your IM needs help or has a question once in a while, just put her in touch with some of us who have been IM's or understand the filtration system. Sometimes it can be challenging to figure out what to pass on or how to respond. Three cheers for your friend for being willing to do this.


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I love it Scotty, You go girl. Before I went to plan B I used to spray my perfume into WH's underwear drawer over all his underwear.


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Originally Posted by Neak
LTIC!!!

That little gem was probably worth the accidental lapse in PB. Absolutely hilarious!

If your IM needs help or has a question once in a while, just put her in touch with some of us who have been IM's or understand the filtration system. Sometimes it can be challenging to figure out what to pass on or how to respond. Three cheers for your friend for being willing to do this.

And sometimes it's hard not to shake the snot out of them for being so stupid you can't believe they remember to breathe.


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Originally Posted by mymissy
I love it Scotty, You go girl. Before I went to plan B I used to spray my perfume into WH's underwear drawer over all his underwear.

I used to put on lipstick to fold clothes and put a lip print on my hubby's CLEAN underwear...just in case he was tempted to take 'em off somewhere else. For those whose WH's are still home and who are still having SF with them, planting a big ol' hickey down there is good, too...just in case he's telling OW that he's not having sex with his wife...you want to bust that lil' fantasy! laugh


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I agree LC. One thing WH stopped letting me do was hickeys. Oh I was so SILLY before. How didn't I KNOW?


So, on a different topic. I was just talking to my Mom. She was calling me from my Dad's house. She is there to take care of his cat while he is in Scotland. She called me to ask me a question about calling Scotland. Then she mentioned something about my Dad's house being a mess, I said, "Why don't you clean it?" Then I laffed. She laughed too. Then I said, "I was telling my friend that it would be funny if you moved back into Dad's house while he was in Scotland. Then you could be sitting there when he got home." She said, "Scotty, that IS what I am planning on doing. I am moving back home on Sunday." I said, "Really?" Then she told me she was worried about POSOM and she felt bad. I told her not to. I told her that she did this once before and she could do it again.

She said that she now knows that what she is living with POSOM is FAKE. She wants to move back in with my Dad. I told her that I only hope that when WH wants to come home, that he would have someone nudging him home too. That's what my wish is for all of the BSs that want their WSs to come home, a gentle nudger. I asked my Mom if she would post on here now? I am trying. I think I will get HNHN back from my friend and let my Mom read it. She needs to read LB too. Well, one step at a time. laugh


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That is AWESOME news Scotty! I know you're happy too. What a wonderful influence you've been on your mom. You'll get paid back in spades for that!


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I feel bad that I didn't put as much pressure on the affair BEFORE. That is my one true regret with all of this. I feel like I should have done more sooner. Well, When I KNOW better, I DO better.


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If only we could have a years worth of experience on MB BEFORE D-day.
The WS's would never have a chance.


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Originally Posted by lildoggie
If only we could have a years worth of experience on MB BEFORE D-day.
The WS's would never have a chance.

Agreed! smile


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A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10

Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10

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Scotty, that is great news. You have been such an inspiration to so many on here and now to have coached your wayward mom into trying to become a FWW is awesome. Good for you.


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Awesome job, Scotty! I am so happy for you that your parents will now have a chance to make everything right.

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Scotty, that is wonderful news. You did a great job of nudging her into making that decision. I wish them luck!


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Originally Posted by NewPetals
Originally Posted by lildoggie
If only we could have a years worth of experience on MB BEFORE D-day.
The WS's would never have a chance.

Agreed! smile

Oh Yeah, most definitely


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hurrayDitto hurray

Maybe you could drop by a little gift -- like a bouquet of flowers, a scented candle, body oil...

OK -- stop me before I get carried away! They're your PARENTS afterall....

And don't feel bad about nudging. She likely wouldn't have picked up on it then even if it was a train barrelling down her throat.

When the wayward is OPEN to recovery, they see ALL the signs... especially the ones that have always been there -- like YOU. You, Scotty, are a LIVING SIGN as to why affairs are WRONG and why she needed to reunite with your Dad.


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"I'm moving on"
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