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*sniff* I miss the pig picture. ![[Linked Image from 3.bp.blogspot.com]](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_G3xXGnKXoQ0/SeiAmfFbc2I/AAAAAAAAATc/BuOHnTC1hlg/s320/pig+bride.jpg) I love this picture.....so fitting. ![[Linked Image from smileyvault.com]](http://www.smileyvault.com/albums/userpics/10172/laugh3.gif) On my work email everyone chooses quotes at the end of their signature line. Sometimes I amuse myself and put movie quotes or other funny ones to see who notices. My new quote line is: "Reality check You could put a pig in a white dress but guess what it is still a pig" A couple of coworkers caught it and think it is a riot that it is just out in the open. Maybe I can add this picture for the ones that don't notice it! lol
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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The wheels of court have turned slowly but XH got served today. Got a call from the woman with paperwork looking for his "home" address since all she had was a post office box. She told me she would call after he was given citation.
Enforcement of the divorce decree. He has defaulted on a loan, monies for DD16 car, medical and house repairs.
Just ignores bills and emails with $$ amounts.
Not going to ask anymore, letting attorney take care of it.
process server called me to say he was outside with PP and asked what the package was and she said he was officially served. PP was making oinking noises behind him (literally).
Hate this stuff but need to take care of my own family.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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process server called me to say he was outside with PP and asked what the package was and she said he was officially served. PP was making oinking noises behind him (literally). So, PP was implying the process server was a pig, PP actually laughs like a pig, or PP was jist doin' what comes naturally to pigs?
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process server called me to say he was outside with PP and asked what the package was and she said he was officially served. PP was making oinking noises behind him (literally). So, PP was implying the process server was a pig, PP actually laughs like a pig, or PP was jist doin' what comes naturally to pigs? No she actually turned into a pig and instead of human language she started to speak her true language...gotcha! 
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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process server called me to say he was outside with PP and asked what the package was and she said he was officially served. PP was making oinking noises behind him (literally). So, PP was implying the process server was a pig, PP actually laughs like a pig, or PP was jist doin' what comes naturally to pigs? No she actually turned into a pig and instead of human language she started to speak her true language...gotcha! ![[Linked Image from smileyvault.com]](http://www.smileyvault.com/albums/CBSA/smileyvault-cute-big-smiley-animated-021.gif)
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Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
3DstepChildren24&20
PlanA:01/03/10
PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
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That's great Hope. Continue to hold his feet to the fire. He cannot shirk on his responsibilities to his daughter. She didn't ask for this and doesn't deserve it from the man who is supposed to protect and provide for her. This just makes me so angry for you. Grrrrrrr.....
BTW, you are doing a fantastic job with your daughters. You have really stepped up to the plate for them and one day they will thank you for all you do.
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For about 1/2 nano second I felt a twinge of guilt thinking about the man formerly known as my H and then I pulled up my big girl pants (which by the way no longer fit me because they are too big-lol) and realized that I am only asking for what he agreed to in HIS D.
As long as he is attached to PP, he is an alien that I do not recognize, he can't be a Dad, he can't be a man who had integrity.
PM thanks for the vote of confidence about DDs.
"Very few people realize just how much power they actually have. We have the power to appreciate what we have, the power to love, the power to be happy and the power to forgive. All too many times we settle for so much less than what we want or deserve, why?
"I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me"
Philippians 4:13
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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[font:Comic Sans MS][color:#000099]For about 1/2 nano second I felt a twinge of guilt Don't you dare. This was HIS choice and HIS agreement. Sorry for the dude, but what he agreed to was a legal contract and he can't just not pay if he doesn't feel like it or his pig needs diamonds. It doesn't work that way and the sooner he realizes it the better. Can't help but think that PP must be flaming mad at the moment. I smell her starting to cook. You may have just taken away some of the perks of the big affairage. Skewer her Hope.
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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For about 1/2 nano second I felt a twinge of guilt Don't you dare. This was HIS choice and HIS agreement. I wouldn't feel a bit sorry for him. I refuse to cave in on anything. This is his doing, its his D. and I will not let go of 1/2 of what was the marriage assets and that I helped to build. You definitely need to NOT feel any twinges of guilt; and PM is right your DD did not ask for any of this either, and she certainly did not ask for her "daddy" to not be in her life, I'm sure her "daddy" is welcome to see her, but I'm also sure the the alien is not welcome.
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Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
3DstepChildren24&20
PlanA:01/03/10
PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10
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Wow! Hope dealing with a pig, and HH dealing with a beaver! all these wild animals running around in here!
Me; W 46
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Wow! Hope dealing with a pig, and HH dealing with a beaver! all these wild animals running around in here!
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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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Wow! Hope dealing with a pig, and HH dealing with a beaver! all these wild animals running around in here! Barbiecat...I just spit out my drink when I read this. Priceless. Thanks for the 2x4s. No guilt - no pain!!! Mymissy, during my D I stood my ground and I protected my family. When I went into mediation I wrote on a piece of paper. "I promised DD" meaning keeping her in her home till she got out of school. I was not going to walk away with just my pride while he was slumming with PP. He changed the fabric of our lives and not in a good way.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Wow! Hope dealing with a pig, and HH dealing with a beaver! all these wild animals running around in here! I am still about the above quote. I swear that I still have juice stuck up my nose when I choked on it last night.  Heard XH never made it to work yesterday. I think the karma bus ran over his toe after being served on Monday. What next.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Heard XH never made it to work yesterday. I think the karma bus ran over his toe after being served on Monday. What next. When is the hearing? I bet he is reeling...
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Heard XH never made it to work yesterday. I think the karma bus ran over his toe after being served on Monday. What next. When is the hearing? I bet he is reeling... I should be receiving a letter with the court date. i think he has 20 days to respond maybe? He can't go to his previous attorney because he burned that bridge by stiffing him out of the rest of the money he owed. I think he might have been shocked by the $$ amount. PP probably starting all shades of pink (as in pig pink) If he did not default on the loan since January, the $$ would be much smaller. My Attorney is going for the past due amount and full balance on top of money for DD car and medical/repair bills. On a happy note  to my DD who turned 17 today!!!  She had a great day at school. Her boyfriend who treats her very well brought over roses, locket and a few other presents. Young love ....  Tonight we are going out to dinner of her choice and on Friday she is having a pizza party with some friends. She is a good kid and I am very proud of both of my daughters. I am blessed and will enjoy our night and watch her glow! She shares a birthday with Holyheart!
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I hope I haven't been considered a troll ..... lol
I open someones thread & leave it open , so I don't lose my place.
BTW what the heck is a spider ?
I do understand where your coming from I've made myself invisible just so my h couldn't see I was on here as much as I was.
Also trolling reading my posts.
I need to update my thread so much has happened . I'm in the twilight zone.
Me 38 / H 39 (Haha he is older than me!)
Known 24yrs / Married 18yrs
1 DD 23yrs
Too many D Days to count (King of Trickle Truth)
We both have agreed to 100% Commitment to Make this work or die trying !
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
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ok ... figured out what a spider is lol
didn't realise you could click on the side & see what everyone was reading/viewing lol
I guess I've been one a view times, not to mention a lurker.
But never a troll !!!!
Me 38 / H 39 (Haha he is older than me!)
Known 24yrs / Married 18yrs
1 DD 23yrs
Too many D Days to count (King of Trickle Truth)
We both have agreed to 100% Commitment to Make this work or die trying !
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
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acantha was a Greek name...a nymph....just sayin.
In one tale, she spurns Apollo, in another, she takes him as a lover....
Lucky to be where I am, in a safe place to get marriage-related support.
Recovered.
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Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
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