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you're all out living your lives happily now. Right?
I'd like to think that's the case since I'l be joining you soon.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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we are happy mostly because we are rid of lies, drama and being manipulated by our exes
I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria
I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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you're all out living your lives happily now. Right?
I'd like to think that's the case since I'l be joining you soon. It's not slow for me.
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words. St. Francis of Assissi
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LOL, Fred. I've noticed Divorce is painstakingly slow and there isn't a whole lot to talk about. Expecially as compared with the SAA board where hour to hour things can be crucially important (e.g. the exposure process, or closing your bank account before you WS gets to it). Dating is also relatively slow and certainly less emotionally charged (ie less interesting). You start out with a date per week typically so there's no need to post or get responses multiple times per day, like in the SAA board. So, MJ, to really answer your quesion: yes, for me personally, once the SAA stuff is over (I was just reading my thread from exactly one year ago...), life is generally MUCH better; even if it sucks a little. I hated being married to a recalcitrant wayward. For me, dating is much more fun. Opt
Me: 43 y.o. BFWH, D-day 11/11/09 (NC since 9/01) Divorce from WW final 9/16/10. Current Status: MB-based Marriage to Nature Girl 12/8/12 (first date on 12/11/10) Mine: S(16), D(11) NatureGirls: S(23), D(21) Another EA Story
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1)The drama is gone and things are more peaceful. 2)Being single again stinks. 3)Too busy being a single parent to post. Those are my reasons..lol
me-36 exh-35 bipolar/addiction issues 2 DS Married 9 yrs / Separated Aug 08 / Divorced since July 2009 Trying to put my life back together......
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Nothing much exciting happening in my life to report...it's the usual commute/work/chores. But it's peaceful and it's definitely much better than being in the marriage I was in. I don't need the drama and anxiety!
Enacting life's lessons into positive change... .
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Lol @ Fred. So the consensus is that everyone seems to be really happy to be away from the drama as the highlight. I'm looking forward to that. Without the drama, I guess I'll have more energy to invest in healthier and happier things. Thanks for all the responses. Sounds like normal lives.
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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I hope you can move on and be happy soon!
Time heals.
Live and let live.
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D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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you're all out living your lives happily now. Right?
I'd like to think that's the case since I'l be joining you soon. For me, yes, absolutely! It really is better on the other side of the D fence. For the waywards, not so much. My ex got pregnant unexpectedly by OM #2, and is now filing for bankruptcy.
Formerly ConfuzedHusband BH WW (Now XW) Married 4 years, No children. EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008. DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008 Divorce final 3/2009.
Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.
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For me, yes, absolutely! It really is better on the other side of the D fence. Awesome. Ray of hope. For the waywards, not so much. My ex got pregnant unexpectedly by OM #2, and is now filing for bankruptcy. Pesky consequences. I pray for my husband.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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