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Thanks, everyone. I guess part of the problem is feeling so "weird." I don't a lot of "normal" things like drinking, clubs, so I guess the rejection from "normal" guys hits hard.
One thing I have going for me... I rarely go through a week without some guy approaching and asking my number. So they're attracted to the physical... it's just what's inside that trips me up (either I don't want them or they don't want me).
I will keep in mind AGG's comments about how you get better at honing in on the "right" type as you go along.
"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer
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"Normal" is very subjective.
You won't meet the kind of man you want in a club, because you don't like hanging out at clubs. Your best bet is to meet men who like doing some of the same things you do. You can also try new things and broaden your experiences and meet new people.
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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