My lawyer told me that I could not get an emergency hearing until he got served which FINALLY happened on Friday afternoon. So I am calling him again Monday.

So get this.... today he sent me a mean message DIRECTLY.... it said "Need my shorts. Im not paying for ur netflix and dish so u better change that"

The idiot doesn't know I already cancelled netflix, and that I tried to transfer dish into my name and they said they would have to talk to him so I am not worried about it for now. Its coming from an account with my name not on it. He can call and change it.

Since I know you are going to say, block him, and right now I'd really like to.... I have so many small children and I worry they will get hurt and he might need to get ahold of me quickly....

He has only sent a couple messages since going Plan B....

Today the kids came home from visitation all excited about their new toys that daddy bought them .... that they had to leave at grandma's house.

How DO I block a number? Because I think its time. I don't need gems like that. I do worry about the kids getting hurt though.

If you can't figure out how to block his number, you should just change yours.

This is not good for you. This will really send you in a tailspin.

I thought about something else too. Does he leave messages on an answering machine? If so, unplug it. I had to do that at the beginning of Plan B for a while.

Nope he never calls. I think he hates me.

Emails then? How is he contacting you then?

If your kids are hurt, he can take them to a doctors office or emergency room or call an ambulance.
Even if you were a physician yourself......WH telling IM about the emergency would allow as much time for you to collect yourself to get to and attend your child.

He is mean and mad cause of the check you cashed. Tantrum about you not giving it over to him for the car. Plain and simple. Tantrum that he isn't your boss anymore/head of the house.

Text messages only... and like 3 total since he left 4/14....

I am SO SAD. I do not recognize this guy at all. He buys toys for the kids and then won't let them bring them home... its like a bad movie...

Well.... I can't block the number without getting my own account, because I don't have access to the account.... I better leave it alone for now for Money reasons. I will act like I didn't get the text and not respond though. I guess that's it for now.

Mehr, I follow your thread daily. I feel your pain and frustration. My WH says he will quit his job to avoid paying child support. You and your children are in my prayers.

Torn

I believe that you can make a folder for a number and then the texts automatically go in there. Then, you would just not read them.

If he buys them toys, they should stay where he is.

Do you pack the children toys and clothes when they are going to be with WH? He should have his own things where he is. He needs to take care of them himself. That is part of being away from you. If you are doing this, it would be meeting an EN.

His PARENTS are helping him take care of the kids. He still isn't watching all 4 himself. My kids told me how daddy and grandma and grandpa took them to the toy store today.

He sent me two text messages today, one to say "there was a tornado in northern Minneapolis" (where we used to live) -- not sure if he meant to do that or what?

And then a second message to say that our son has some toys he wants to bring home and he is okay with that as long as they come back next time. !!! ???

I am going to have the IM remind him to send messages through them. I am SO down today.... its so boring to be single.... no one to keep you company or something....

Like that tornado message is exactly the kind of text he would send me Before .... little chit chats ....

so sorry you are dealing with this, what part of IM doesn't he understand. it's just jerky. ((((mehr))))

mehr, don't read his texts. Just delete them! I know it's hard but this is going to keep you stuck...

And THEN.... when he and his parents drop off the kids, he COMES TO THE FRONT DOOR and starts telling me about how our 1.5yo fell down and hit his head.... really?? I don't tell him about falls like that, its completely unnecessary. I stood behind the door while he talked and didn't say a word. Then he went away. I had the IM send him a msg saying to please not come to the front door.

Hello you are breaking my heart every day, don't come and try to chit chat with me!!!!

Don't let him get his fix...

How can you prevent this from happening in the future, mehr?

Wait, hold the phone... he's actually attempting to break Plan B.... maybe he cares after all... or maybe he is still trying to live out his fantasy where we are all friends.... hard to say.

Mehr, you are focusing on the wrong thing. your WH isn't unusual. He is the same old typical wayward. And that being said, you need to know that this is the best place for you. Follow the MB plans. Stop focusing on his contacting you. Or if he doesn't contact you. What you need to do is get YOU to stop finding out about it.

You need to plug up this hole. You keep feeding the A and setting yourself up for a fall.