Does this mean I go to Plan B?

What was said between you two while on the phone?

PEP is right, don't respond to the email. But TELL HER what I said when she gets home. She is trying to scare you.

Did you tell your daughter about the affair yet? Your WW very much needs to hear from your daughter about this affair.

TELL HER THIS WHEN SHE GETS HOME IF SHE BRINGS THIS UP AGAIN. And if you have any joint accounts, I would RIGHT NOW move that money so she doesn't plunder you. A fogged out wayward is very destructive..

I'm picking her up from school & telling her today.

Not yet.
Too early.

PS

You are doing GREAT !!!!!!!

Your WW's anger and threats are average. Nothing special.
Just so you know.

Wow. Lots of stuff hitting the fan. You are in the middle of a shOOtz storm, it will not always be this crazy, keep your chin up.

I know you are making many descisions, most on the fly, but you ARE on the right course,
Expect your WW to be absolutely out of her mind angry with you... you may want to read the exposure link to see what is coming your way.

It sounds crazy, but almost ALL WS give the same threats, tears, standoffs and anger after exposure. Someone has said on this site it is like they all have the same secret playbook they read from.

The more you brace yourself, (please keep in mind the end goal of a recovered M, or a completely recoverd YOU) the less I hope it will hit you.

Good luck.

She said she was surprised I hadn't called earlier & I asked what she knew. She said her H is very committed, she was very skeptical and defensive. After I emailed her proof she wanted to see more, etc. Really in a state of denial.

Perfect. That will prepare her for the sh**storm her mother has brought into her family. And be sure to tell your DD who the OM is. She needs to know who the enemy of her family is. You should encourage her to speak to her mother about her affair. She has every right to get an explanation about why she is doing this to her family. All for a little cheap fun. I assure you, if you don't tell her the truth, your wife will tell her lies.

Will your wife's mother speak to your wife?


Now, are you prepared for when your wife comes home? You should let her know that you will accept nothing less than complete no contact for life even if it means leaving that job.

And PLEASE pick up the phone and call the OMW to make sure she sent that email and not her H. Please verify this.

Thanks!! that helps!

MM, this is very common tactic of the WS to get the BS back off. Don't fall for this. I can't tell you how many times I have read about WSs here packing up only to return hours later.

My sister's WH actually did this after she killed his affair with exposure and he ranted and raged for days that he was *DONE*. They are recovered today.

Hang in there

OK - how about I send her a txt message?

Sure, if that will work!

MM, please read Susie's post again. Her sister's wayward husband went crazy and her sister remained calm and did not flinch one bit! He never followed through on his threat to leave and they are fully recovered today!

So do not let her intimidate you one bit! You are doing great!!

Ok - I'm going to sign off for a bit and go get my daughter. Thanks for the support!!!!!!!!

If she said she was surprised you hadn't called earlier she knows what is going on. SHE was too chicken to call YOU. I see her as a typical BS...trying to keep her sanity and family intact even though her brain is playing twister. It is a terrible place to be.

I have to get going. I would let BW had a little breathing room and concentrate on the school for now. Plus exposure with DD and other family and friends. If you are able to get somewhere with the district, OM and WW (even BW) will be flipping out and throwing each other under the bus, DJs, AOs...you WILL hear from them one way or another. It is unfortunate if BS chooses to bury her head in the sand.

Protect your family. Be strategic...I know it is a lot to do when your life is exploding before your eyes. The more hammers you have out there, the better. You may not have to use them all but know when to strike and how hard to hit.

Good luck to you.

You don't like to use the phone, do you?

I'm just guessing. I don't much like the phone, either.

You might need to use the phone, though, to look a little more assertive.

MM,

Just read your thread. It's good to see someone listen to the vets here so well. Keep up the exposure. Make this affair VERY uncomfortable for them.

PROTECT your kid.

PROTECT your money.

SAVE all evidence.

No, she did not know what was going on because the OM had spun the story and minimized this as nothing more than an EA. That is why it is so important to keep her informed and to ensure the OM doesn't intercept his emails. As we noted earlier, the email that supposedly came friom the OMW probably came from the OM. That needs to be verified NOW, not later.