It was gmail not work. They didn't have work emails *that I've found*

IMO, you should never have taken it off. You're not resigning a position, sweetie. You committed to your WH in marriage. Put the ring back on.

Ok good I like it. I took it off before I found mb

That is strange that a company used Gmail for there business emails. Did the HR people have gmail accounts? That sounds funny.

Why don't you just ask him to trade phones with you?

Tell him that it will make you feel more secure to know that OW is not texting him.

He's agreed to end it -- and has sent the letter. He should be done. There should be no "issue". You can always hand him the phone if he gets a call.

Bingo!

No the gmail is his personal (now deleted). His work email is not how they communicated

Yea I can ask him to trade...maybe at least temporarily until I get that installed. I'll try the forgot my phone tonight...I'm probably over worrying. I just don't want to blow my cover

I'm down with this, was waiting for one of you guys to mention it.

Why were you waiting?

Great idea, Lexxy!

His work replied to his request to meet that they are available 830a Monday but prefer a conference call.

(I'm thinking they don't want me flipping out in the building lol)

What a disrespectful request! Oh, they would prefer not to see the wife, would they?? They want to keep you and this whole tawdry business at the arm's length of a sterile phone call that they would control, do they?

You need to be there in PERSON. Look good, put on some perfume and be at your professional best. Tell them you're sorry, but it is important enough to you that you prefer to meet personally.

Ok I'll help him write the reply email

Ok so also his temperament seems ok, but "normal" as opposed to repentant. He is being attentive... Constant questions about what I want etc. He wants to go to dinner...I think his bro and wife are coming..they are bring very close to us. Constantly checking w me morning and night. It's sweet.

I've gotta get that gd phone! Maybe I'll get lucky when he showers

Nope. Heeft the phone out and came back and grabbed it and is playing music on it :-/ I'll have to try the bathroom thing at dinner...doesn't that seem suspicious? For mr to "forget" the phone I've been attached to all day

Oh IDK, didn't want to bombard her with advice, she is doing so well, and I knew someone would see it eventually. The night wouldn't pass though where I would not have mentioned it if she worried about it much longer.

C&T, he should hand his phone over so you can have it during non work hours, and he is not working for a couple of days. This should be part of the agreement you have with him now that he has chose you over skankypants.

You can get the number changed, and then install the spyware tommorow. I would insist on this while the iron is hot if I were you, and yes, if you didn't list it in the agreements letter, you still have the right to ask for the phone. Blame the reason you didn't stipulate it on the fact that,"I'm sorry dear, I am not used to handling an affair, I am learning though!"

That should put some starch in his shorts

confused, why can't you just tell him that you need to exchange phones with him just to feel safe. Until his number is changed. Tell him you need that protection.

If he even hesitates a moment at swapping phones, be very, very suspicious.

We already changed the number. I'll just ask tonight

If he refuses, don't force the issue. Just watch like a hawk, and in the next day or two you'll get the time you need. He can't be on guard every second of the day, and sooner or later he'll make a tiny mistake.

That's all you need, and once you see what's on the phone, you'll know what the next step in your plan should be.

I got it installed!

My only worry : does the blaster phone one track if he opens a new email
Acct and does emails? It shows websites but it doesn't look like it's like the computer one where it records keystrokes or emails