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The Samsung Facinate had GPS issues when it was initially released. They did push an update that fixed it. The problem was it took it forever to get a position lock.
I am certian that the location reported last night was NOT from the GPS, but from cell tower position calculation.
One thing about spyware on a smartphone ogetting location info comstantly is that constantly turning on the GPS radio drains the battety. This would make an android phone user suspicious of what is causing the sudden decrease in battery life. That being said, don't get too bent over the location reports.
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When you get HNHN get the one for parents. The best thing you can do for your kids is to have a good marriage first. The kids will benifet from having a happy home.
HNHN for parents help you work out the timing but you need to work on building your love bank up with your husband first.
You can help him with withdrawl if you are around reminding him by looking your best and doing your best that he made the correct choice.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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I have a $20 giftcard to a wine bar...or 150 to a fancy steakhouse. Should I create a nice date night? Or should I save it for later? Tonight would be great!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes marital that's true.
Does family time not count in the 20 hours?
Ok...I do want him to go w me to the art show but he won't. I really don't want to go either but I promised gma. It should only be 2 hours. Then the date night?
He likes to shower together nightly (we've done this for a long time, have 2shower heads even)...I'll resume that also. Maybe I can get I
The mood tonight...in case he is going in withdrawal
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I have a $20 giftcard to a wine bar...or 150 to a fancy steakhouse. Should I create a nice date night? Or should I save it for later? I can't think of a better time than the present. However, he may really be getting sick. (I don't know where you're located, but there's a nasty cold making the rounds in my neck of the woods and it's nailing everyone.) That's why I suggested dinner in instead of out. But heck yeah - put on your party duds and go out for a romantic dinner if he's willing!
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Ok I'll surprise him. I'll go make reservations
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...or 150 to a fancy steakhouse. Should I create a nice date night? Or should I save it for later? Save it for when he's EARNED it!
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Nah we all just had that cold...that's part of how his reveal of FR came about. I think the guilt of spending 2 nonstop days w me and without get killed him
I lost 5 pounds since last week so if he wasn't eating either he probably is run down. Plus he does martial arts and the day I kicked hi
Out he basically let himself get the crap beat outta him
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Also dont push him to goto the art thing because if he went and didnt have fun it would be a love buster. You need to do things you both like to do together.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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20 hours per week w no kids? Oof. Ok we can probably get close.
I always feel bad shifting my kids all over to sitters The best thing you can do for the kids is have a GREAT marriage with their dad. Couples that are in love, don't get divorced. And your kids need for you to have a stable marriage for their security. It doesnt hurt them one bit to be with babysitters, but it would hurt them if your marriage broke up. So go out ALOT with their dad.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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UA time is not to be earned, 92. It's to be prioritized and nurtured.
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Well crap that's conflicting advice lol.
Now or later?!
We could do the wine bar and grab takeout on the way home...
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This is one of those times you can practice POJA. Never do anything without the enthusiatic agreement of both of you. While it does not apply to snooping and getting out of the affair it does apply with Rec. companionship.
I'm sure if you explained to you Gma that you are working on your marriage she would understand. Choose your husband over you family.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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Ok what's ua? I forgot.
Part of me wants to sock away every penny but we both really enjoy nice nights out. AND that's something he wouldnt get w her...not to be mean...she's a little...ummm....I can't think
Of a nice way to say it.
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Well crap that's conflicting advice lol.
Now or later?!
We could do the wine bar and grab takeout on the way home... NOW!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Now is the time to have a long, romantic evening. You need LOTS of them. It would be great to dress up and go out on the town. But I would first check with him and make sure he likes that idea. You really need to be alone.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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UA= undivided Attention POJA = policy of joint agreement. Here is a link to the basic conscpets. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/mb.cfm/3/194
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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After you read this, you can click to the left on any you want to read more about. Untill you get the books this will give you a crash coarse to get you started re-building the love banks.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
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What she means is getting his enthusiastic agreement.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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