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I got a fake call like that too, seems pretty standard I guess, till DNA there is no proof.
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I would not do anything. I'm betting she is not and just trying to get him back. She had someone call you becuase "it is not contact that way"
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But what do I do? Do we just wait until she tells us? Or looks pregnant? Or do we try to ask someone?
If she was really on her period on the 4th it wouldn't be likely that she's pg but anything is possible
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When someone farts in the wind, you do nothing.
Except, perhaps move out of the way if it smells really bad.
Same thing applies to this situation.
It is a fart in the wind.
Do nothing.
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Just wait until she maybe shows up with a baby on my doorstep?
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Just wait until she maybe shows up with a baby on my doorstep? IT IS A FART IN THE WIND. DO NOTHING ! Chances are, there is no baby. You cannot react to crap like this.
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When someone farts in the wind, you do nothing.
Except, perhaps move out of the way if it smells really bad.
Same thing applies to this situation.
It is a fart in the wind.
Do nothing.  ITA.. don't giver her the time of day.
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Maybe o should just text him and say "knock it off with xnxx.com" arg. NO! Do not flag him that you know his online activity!
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So what do I do? Do I message her? Pretend I dont know? Wait? Hang on, sweetie. Don't push the panic button. This was an anonymous call. It could very well have been a friend of the ho-bag's. Ho may be trying to yank your chain and get you upset. I would tell your WH.
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So what do I do? Do I message her? Pretend I dont know? Wait? Don't contact that skanky broad or her friend. They get NOTHING from you. NOTHING.
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I told him. He says the last time they had sex was 10/4 and that she said it had to be in the shower bc she was on her period...
He doesn't seem very worried. He says yea it's possible and he's a little worried but it doesn't make sense.
Apparently also she had an abortion last year of her friends baby (a guy friend)...but said shed never do that again.
I don't know what to do myself.
I definately did not remain calm. I hurt my hand and I passed out bc I couldn't brreath. Now I just sit and wait? Its unlikely she's pg...but not impossible
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I told him. He says the last time they had sex was 10/4 and that she said it had to be in the shower bc she was on her period...
He doesn't seem very worried. He says yea it's possible and he's a little worried but it doesn't make sense.
Apparently also she had an abortion last year of her friends baby (a guy friend)...but said shed never do that again.
I don't know what to do myself.
I definately did not remain calm. I hurt my hand and I passed out bc I couldn't brreath. Now I just sit and wait? Its unlikely she's pg...but not impossible Confused, you have no choice but to sit and wait. The two of you will have to deal with a baby if that is, indeed, the case. In the meantime, STOP HURTING YOURSELF. DON'T YOU EVER HARM YOURSELF AGAIN!!!!! Did I make my point? If there IS a baby (and I doubt that) the two of you will deal with it. You don't need to deal with it right now. What is going on with his employer?
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Well...I hit HIM that's how I hurt myself >.>
I didnt mean to he just made me so mad.
His employer hadn't replied. He says he doesn't want to go back now. He says he can't stomach it.
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How could I deal w a baby?! There goes "no contact"
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How could I deal w a baby?! There goes "no contact" You have enough to deal with right now, so worry about what is in front of you, not what could be. There are too many "could be's" for you to deal with. There are people here who HAVE dealt with OC, but until you need that advice, you'll get what you need. It's normal to freak out, it's how you respond to it that matters. You're in GREAT hands here.
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Well...I hit HIM that's how I hurt myself >.>
I didnt mean to he just made me so mad. Don't do this anymore. I bruised my H so much that I could have been arrested for assault and battery if he'd chosen to pursue it. All that did was make me desperately ashamed for my actions. Don't hit him again. He doesn't deserve physical punishment. Get a pillow and beat it against a doorframe. That worked well for me.
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Yea I wont. I didn't mean to really it just happened. I couldn't bruise him
If I tried. He's twice my size.
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His employer hadn't replied. He says he doesn't want to go back now. He says he can't stomach it. This sounds 'off' to me. What does this mean? Is he quitting?
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Yea I wont. I didn't mean to really it just happened. I couldn't bruise him
If I tried. He's twice my size. My H is about six feet tall. I gave him a black eye and more than 30 bruises on his torso. In one (horrible) night. Don't underestimate yourself. It was terrible for both of us. It was in no way healing. Don't hit your husband again. I know how much you might want to, BUT DON'T.
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I wont.
Remember before they where trying to find a way for him to work there without being in that building? They haven't gotten back to us since Monday.
Even of they allow this, he doesn't want to stay there. He's looking for another job and hoping they lay him off. If they do let him telecommute he'll do
It until he gets a new job.
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