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GJM,
No this guy is a Marine. My wife is a civilian working on the base. He used to work out at her gym
I would suspect that this fellow has made a sideline of going after fellow Marines wives, from what I have seen of OM, they pick a certain type study their vulnerabilities and becoming specialists.
The difference between this OM and the enemy, is that the enemy deserves an honorable burial.
God Bless
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Yeah he's a POS...I can't help but wonder what I could have done to affair proof my marriage. I wish I would have been more proactive in making sure my marriage was healthy. I know it's not my fault and she made the bad judgement call. It's just so unbelieveable. Like I'm living a nightmare.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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I have been trying to find the OMWs phone number, but I can't find it. I did a peoplefinder search and came up with an address, but no phone number.
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GJM, Also try www.veromi.com , and get creative about the google search, try various combinations of keywords, the city they live in, her occupation etc. Also search on images in google, and look in www.linkedin.com which is like a facebook for professionals. Many people not in facebook are there. God Bless Gamma
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I have been trying to find the OMWs phone number, but I can't find it. I did a peoplefinder search and came up with an address, but no phone number. What about whitepages.com? Have you tried a google search?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Do you see her on facebook? What about the OM? I would go to facebook right now and copy and paste all their contacts into a WORD doc.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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No this guy is a Marine. My wife is a civilian working on the base. He used to work out at her gym. Make sure his commander is clear that this POS is going after the civilian wives of his fellow Marines who are working on the base.
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The first affair I told everyone. I never found the OMs wife to tell her. She did come clean about the first affair and this one. You're right, she never had to pay for either of the incidents. This time my W asked me not to involve other people. Then she said go ahead if it will make me feel better. I didn't tell the OMs command because I didn't want his W and kids to pay for his mistake. I do have emails that I can use though. Then why are you waiting to expose before you serve WW? Also if OM is military his command must be expsoed. Yet you do nothing but be a keyboard commando.
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I went on white pages. Com and found a mailing address. I've searched Facebook and LinkedIn, but have not found either of them on there (OM and OMW). I did talk to my command about getting his command a no contact order. That was tough to do because I had to explain the whole story. I also set myself up an appt for counseling.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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try 411.com, and google for other reverse lookup sites. I like intelius.com, very inexpensive for a single search.
If all else fails, drive on over there. 50 miles?
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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I'll try those sites. I can't drive over there because I have to work and I drop the kids off at school. That also runs the risk of the OM being home.
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I'll try those sites. I can't drive over there because I have to work and I drop the kids off at school. That also runs the risk of the OM being home. When could you drive over there? And it is ok if the OM is there. Just as long as his WIFE is there. It is real important that you coordinate this all on the same day. That means exposing to the OMW, his commander, her parents, close family and friends, your children, all within the same time frame. You want it to hit like a tsunami so a) it is so effective it hopefully knocks down the affair and b) you only have to deal with ONE huge blow up. Cant you drive over there this evening since your wife has the kids at her apartment?
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Cant you drive over there this evening since your wife has the kids at her apartment? I think this is an excellent idea. Bring the emails, leave the gun at home.
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Sad thing is, I'm not angry anymore. I should be because that would help me get through this. I will be with my kids this evening. Would a letter to the OMW be inappropriate?
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I think thats great that you aren't angry anymore. How is your exposure plan coming along?
And I would not send a letter to the OMW because it may be intercepted by the OM.
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Thanks for asking...the exposure plan is going slow, but I'm trying to be thorough as most everyone already knows that she had the affair. I copied all of her FB contacts so I can tell those that are closer to her and might have an influence. I still have access to her gmail account and I copied those contacts too.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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I'm not angry anymore. - GJM
The tragedy of love is indifference. - W. Somerset Maugham
Yeah, my friend, you're going to have a task before you to eventually put the toothpaste back into the tube!
But.....FIRST THINGS FIRST! KILL THE AFFAIR!!!
If it makes it easier, do NOT focus right now on your WW - instead keep your attention on the different lives your children will have if you had followed the path you were on when you got here (BTW: When the hell did MARINES ever surrender? Wake Island, 1942?), as opposed to the one you're beginning to see now!
You can (and should) fight this fight, my friend. We will help in any way you need.
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NeverGuessed,
I want to fight and I will. Thank you all for helping me. I had been crying every day for the past two months. I'm tired of crying and feeling down. I'm slowly picking myself up. The past two night of her and the kids not being in the house have actually gave me some relief in a weird way. It's given me time to think as well.
This may sound dumb, but I was thinking of giving her the divorce papers so if it doesn't work out, I won't have to start the 6 month wait all over again. Or should I put that on hold?
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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Confuscious say:
If you don't want a divorce, don't facilitate a divorce!"
(Well, he woulda said that, unless he'd been reincarnated as a divorce lawyer!)
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I know what you mean, I havent seen my WH in months and I am so much stronger! I would forgive him but no way would I endure his nonsense ever again.
When you have a firm plan and are no longer relying on what 'She said' as your guide (exhausting - right?) You will go from strength to strength.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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