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I don't know where to find the FB letter - anyone? I haven't mastered the quote.  I know: [censored].
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Hey, my first "censor". I'm learning!
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Surfer, there are lots of exposure letters up in the Notable posts section in Announcements!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ML: got it.
GR,
Here is an example of a Facebook or email exposure letter that you would edit to you own circumstances. I would caution you, though, to stick to the format. Don't add to this. You want the message to be clear and concise.
Dear friends and family,
I am writing you this message because you are an important person in the lives of xxxx and I. As some of you know, xxxxx has recently asked me for a separation, which has shattered my heart. To my shock, I am saddened to have discovered that the reason is because she has been carrying on an affair with a old boyfriend named xxxxx xxxxx who resides in xxxxxx. He is also married and has young children . The purpose of the separation is so that she can carry on her affair without my interference.
She refuses to end the affair. I want our marriage to recover from this affair. If you have any influence on my babe, please do what you can to get her to stop this dangerous affair. I want to stay married, but the affair must end.
As our friends and family, I am asking that you use your influence with xxxx to persuade her to end her affair and try to work on our marriage. Our marriage can be salvaged if she would only end the affair. Please support her in doing the right thing. Please support our marriage.
I would so appreciate your support and prayers.
Warmest regards,
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I noticed that there is a couple of letter formats to expose WW. Is the format for use in writing or should it be in a phone call? The key exposures will be to the OM's wife and your children. What are your plans for that? Those should be done in person if possible. Whether or not you expose via letter or phone call depends on the person. For her parents, I would call them up, tell them about the affair and ask them to use their influence to persuade her to end her affair. Give them the facts about the OM, that he is a married man. GJM, don't make the mistake of doing a trickle exposure. It will backfire on you. Go large or go home! I will hit them all at once.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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ML: got it.
GR,
Here is an example of a Facebook or email exposure letter that you would edit to you own circumstances. I would caution you, though, to stick to the format. Don't add to this. You want the message to be clear and concise.
Dear friends and family,
I am writing you this message because you are an important person in the lives of xxxx and I. As some of you know, xxxxx has recently asked me for a separation, which has shattered my heart. To my shock, I am saddened to have discovered that the reason is because she has been carrying on an affair with a old boyfriend named xxxxx xxxxx who resides in xxxxxx. He is also married and has young children . The purpose of the separation is so that she can carry on her affair without my interference.
She refuses to end the affair. I want our marriage to recover from this affair. If you have any influence on my babe, please do what you can to get her to stop this dangerous affair. I want to stay married, but the affair must end.
As our friends and family, I am asking that you use your influence with xxxx to persuade her to end her affair and try to work on our marriage. Our marriage can be salvaged if she would only end the affair. Please support her in doing the right thing. Please support our marriage.
I would so appreciate your support and prayers.
Warmest regards, Thanks Surfer88
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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Thanks zibbles! I'm gaining more and more confidence thanks to everyone helping me here.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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Just a thought...if I can get my son to download a spy app on my wife's phone..would that be wrong?
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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it feels good to grab the bull by the horns! you are starting to get that feeling of having options as opposed to being stuck. keep going!!
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Just a thought...if I can get my son to download a spy app on my wife's phone..would that be wrong? That would be very right!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'll see if he'll do it..she's already asleep. What's it called again?
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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Thanks zibbles! I'm gaining more and more confidence thanks to everyone helping me here. You are doing great. I figured you would because usually Marines are pretty strategic and can handle stress under fire as long as they have a PLAN and a direction. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks for not giving up on me MelodyLane
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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So that app has to be purchased only in the android market? Might be too complicated for him after all. I was hoping all he would have to do is download it.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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She never gives up. Neither do we.
Would you give up on your kid? Nope.
She doesn't enable, though. You'll get no enabling support here.
You've got an army behind you, dude.
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The good news is, I installed a keylogger program on our computer that I'm "willing" to let her take with her tomorrow. I just need to see about getting a VAR and GPS for a deal..ebay maybe.
Me: BH 36 Her: WW 34 Kids: D 14, S 12, S 9 DDay 1-6/2009 DDay 2-9/2011 DDay 3-11/2011 Filed for D 10/2011-Papers Served 11/2011 Divorce final May 24, 2012 My Story
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