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You are definitely right about that
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Sorry I've not posted any updates in a couple days. Right now I'm just focusing on trying to comfort my wife and be strong for her. Her mom's funeral is tomorrow and I know it is going to be a ruff day for her. I just hope I can comfort her enough through this
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Sorry I've not posted any updates in a couple days. Right now I'm just focusing on trying to comfort my wife and be strong for her. Her mom's funeral is tomorrow and I know it is going to be a ruff day for her. I just hope I can comfort her enough through this It's understandable. You are both managing a crisis. be strong. see how you can beef up your daily lists for meeting her needs. Maybe bring her her coffee, or make breakfast or things like that. Pamper her as she is mourning the loss. Someone mentioned that rebuilding is like tossing pebbles in a creek to make a bridge. You don't see results at first, but eventually they start building up. CV
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Just a small update my w is still just numb over everything going on. I'm trying to be there for her as much as possible. She says that she don't know of anything more I can do for her right now. But I'm going to keep trying.
On the upside of everything her newest grandson was born at the end of last week
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Just a small update my w is still just numb over everything going on. I'm trying to be there for her as much as possible. She says that she don't know of anything more I can do for her right now. But I'm going to keep trying.
On the upside of everything her newest grandson was born at the end of last week You guys have just hit a huge bump with this. Stay the course DTL. Time is going to help you win this. CV
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I know. I'm never going to give up on us. I'm realizing now more then ever how much she means to me. I can't even begin to imagine what I would do if it would have been her instead of her mom. Seeing how this is affecting her step dad has really made me think more and more about us
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Still holding on. She is having a really hard time with everything right now
She just showed me the poem chickadee1 posted in the marry Christmas thread. I really wish I could do that for her
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Still holding on. She is having a really hard time with everything right now
She just showed me the poem chickadee1 posted in the marry Christmas thread. I really wish I could do that for her Contact me off list. **edit**. I have an idea. 
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Contact JustUss for an email exchange.�� JustUss2@aol.com
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I'm not sure what you are trying to get me to do
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I'm not sure what you are trying to get me to do I had an idea for you that I wanted to share with you off-list if you were up for it. The mods said to contact justus (email in the mod note) if you were up for it. If not, it's cool. CV
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I tried to get the idea but never got anything back
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I tried to get the idea but never got anything back I haven't seen anything in the inbox. JustUss2@aol.com may be vacationing over the holidays? ok don't let your wife read the next line! Does your W like poetry?
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JustUss2@aol.com may be vacationing over the holidays? Nope! Here & on duty!! I only got email from one of you. I need permission from both for the exchange to occur!
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Thank you for the ideas.celticvoyager
Now for a little update
My wife is starting to feel a little better now. She has been sick for the past several days. I've been trying to take care of her but she keeps telling me she feels guilty having me do everything. I try telling her to not feel guilty for it. That I take care of her because I want to. Is there anything else I can do to help her not feel that way
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Thank you for the ideas.celticvoyager
Now for a little update
My wife is starting to feel a little better now. She has been sick for the past several days. I've been trying to take care of her but she keeps telling me she feels guilty having me do everything. I try telling her to not feel guilty for it. That I take care of her because I want to. Is there anything else I can do to help her not feel that way one thing my wife reinforced with me when I fell sick was "baby, I took bad care of you when I was with "jerk", let me show you love now" You are doing good. These are the times where the rubber meets the road. No expectations of kudos, just doing good because it's... well... it's good. Glad the ideas helped. I'm always happy to help. This sounds kinda manipulative, but I'll say it anyway... She's vulnerable right now... Anything you do will have a greater impact. Remember that. For good or ill. CV
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Just another update. My wife is still triggering a lot with every thing going on. She has had a really tuff time these past several weeks. But I believe I'm doing pretty good. She is thanking me for everything that I've been doing for her. And when I ask if there is anything else I can do to make this time easier for her she says not that she can think of. But I'm not going to slack up any. I want to keep improving things
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Just another update. My wife is still triggering a lot with every thing going on. She has had a really tuff time these past several weeks. But I believe I'm doing pretty good. She is thanking me for everything that I've been doing for her. And when I ask if there is anything else I can do to make this time easier for her she says not that she can think of. But I'm not going to slack up any. I want to keep improving things DTL, This is a good path (believe it or not). As you continue, her triggers will diminish more and more. Now, it is a war of attrition. Just remember, with the loss of her mom, it may take a little longer.
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Yes I understand with the loss of her mom it will take extra time she has had a little bit of a ruff time with her kennels to. Not helping matters none. But I will be right by her side helping her to heal as long as she will let me. She is very strong so I feel we will make it through everything together
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Yes I understand with the loss of her mom it will take extra time she has had a little bit of a ruff time with her kennels to. Not helping matters none. But I will be right by her side helping her to heal as long as she will let me. She is very strong so I feel we will make it through everything together DTL, How about an update for everyone here? How's recovery going for you and Luvs? Have you guys discussed POJA yet? CV
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