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Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2579110 12/29/11 09:54 PM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 8,240 Ontario, Canada S Scotland Member
Scotland Member S Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 8,240 Ontario, Canada	5 MONTHS more in an affair means further entrenchment. And now, you have given OW and WH ample time to figure out their cover story. This BH needs to know the truth, but don't be surprised if he doesn't believe you. BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM �Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.� ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU

Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2579156 12/30/11 12:56 AM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357 M maritalbliss Member
maritalbliss Member M Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 12,357	Quote CALLED A PI TODAY AND GOING TO GET THAT VERIFIED THEN HAVE THE PI DELIVER A NOTE TO THE SPOUSE THAT IS THE EASIEST WAY FOR ME. And the way that is least likely to work. He'll hand it to the BH. He'll read it and immediately confront his wife. She'll lie like a rug and make you look like an absolute nut case. And HE'LL BELIEVE HER. Next step in your 'easy' approach to exposure? D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!

Re: Just Found Out Devestated maritalbliss #2579416 12/30/11 05:53 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK I indiegirl Member
indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	Originally Posted by browneyedgirl913 Maritial I have been praying about that and the answer the LORD KEEPS GIVING ME IS TO WAIT ON HIM. Please dont do that. The lord helps those who help themselves. You were given a voice, brains and a backbone for a reason. You can do it, but each day you describe yourself as weak, you believe yourself and get weaker. I am going to use your method of using capitals here - STOP IT. YOU ARE NOT WEAK - YOU ARE INACTIVE. Originally Posted by browneyedgirl913 I NEED TO BE SURE ABOUT THE ADDRESS. No you dont. Knock, if a man answers ask if its the right address. Come equipped with proof if at all possible as you have let them have too long to come up wth cover stories. Originally Posted by browneyedgirl913 I BLOCKED HIM ON FB AND HE DID THE SAME TO ME. IM STILL GOING TO PURSUE EXPOSING HER By staying in Plan A for so long your love bank is entirely depleted. But do expose. Then Plan B, quick. People are not what they say brown, they are what they DO. Do what you know is right and let it empower you. What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

Re: Just Found Out Devestated indiegirl #2580067 01/01/12 07:08 PM
Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97 B browneyedgirl913 OP Member
OP browneyedgirl913 Member B Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97	EVERYONE WISH ME LUCK PLEASE I AM EXCITED I AM FINALLY GOING TO START THE EXPOSURE TOMORROW I START IN THE MORNING I REALLY WISHED I HAD LISTENED AND DONE IT SOONER. HE IS STILL INVOLVED WITH HER AND LYING THRU HIS TEETH. SO I LIVED AND LEARNED. WILL LET YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENS AS THE DETAILS UNFOLD. I AM GOING TO FIND OUT FOR SURE IS SHE IS MARRIED. THAT IS WHAT HE TOLD ME. THE TRUTH DIS SET ME FREE.

Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2580070 01/01/12 07:20 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK I indiegirl Member
indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	Good luck and godspeed. What is your method? Are you calling around in person? What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

Re: Just Found Out Devestated indiegirl #2580074 01/01/12 07:42 PM
Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97 B browneyedgirl913 OP Member
OP browneyedgirl913 Member B Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97	THANKS INDIE GOING WITH CALLING, LETTER AND IN PERSON HAVE SOMEONE DELIVER A NOTE TO HER SPOUSE. WISH I HAD DONE THIS SOONER. HE IS A LYING CHEATING WH. CONTACTED HIM LAST NIGHT AND HE LIES LIKE A RUG LIVE AND LEARN YOU CANT BELIEVE WHAT HE SAYS I BELIEVE THAT HE HAS ALREADY MADE HIS MIND UP ABOUT OW AND WHAT HE PLANS WITH HER THANKS TO THE HELP OF BABY SISTER. OH WELL I WILL SURVIVE ALL THIS I HAVE SO FAR THANKS TO MB AND COUNSELING

Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2580083 01/01/12 08:07 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK I indiegirl Member
indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	By in person - you mean you are doing it yourself dont you? What do you mean by someone? Someone you can rely to have it placed in the BH hands? Someone who can explain what you know as well as you can? It would need to be a very trusted person to do that. What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

Re: Just Found Out Devestated indiegirl #2580085 01/01/12 08:09 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK I indiegirl Member
indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	What does your letter say? There is nothing stopping you from going there personally with your thoughts spelled out in a letter if you are worried you will get tongue tied. Can you put the letter here for feedback? What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

Re: Just Found Out Devestated indiegirl #2580363 01/02/12 07:45 PM
Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97 B browneyedgirl913 OP Member
OP browneyedgirl913 Member B Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97	Will do once I get the letter wored I will do I am thinking about finding out where he works and possibly driving there and telling him face to face with proof. What are you thoughts on that

Re: Just Found Out Devestated indiegirl #2580365 01/02/12 07:48 PM
Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97 B browneyedgirl913 OP Member
OP browneyedgirl913 Member B Joined: Aug 2011 Posts: 97	he is trying to screw me big time regarding income taxes he works overseas Brazil and made the lame excuse that the company advised them to do that/ All he has done is lie like a rug

Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2580367 01/02/12 08:07 PM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 8,240 Ontario, Canada S Scotland Member
Scotland Member S Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 8,240 Ontario, Canada	Originally Posted by browneyedgirl913 he is trying to screw me big time regarding income taxes he works overseas Brazil and made the lame excuse that the company advised them to do that/ All he has done is lie like a rug Waywards rarely surprise me anymore. I advise you to do whatever you can, as quickly as possible, to tell OWH. THis has gone on long enough without him knowing, and we live by actions here, not words. BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click here Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM �Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.� ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU

Re: Just Found Out Devestated browneyedgirl913 #2580371 01/02/12 08:33 PM
Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK I indiegirl Member
indiegirl Member I Joined: Jun 2011 Posts: 11,650 UK	Originally Posted by browneyedgirl913 Will do once I get the letter wored I will do I am thinking about finding out where he works and possibly driving there and telling him face to face with proof. What are you thoughts on that Wonderful! You can also call him and tell him - offering to send him the proof. We will hear the good news that is done soon, yes? What would you do if you were not afraid? "Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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