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That post reeks of entitlement. Hire one.
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People who can prance off with their tails held high...really, think about it... Some of you have been here FOR YEARS!!!! Thousands of posts made. Bumping all your relevant posts for others to see... The Betrayed Spouse. YEARS you have been here??? Sad...
Is that how you are vindicated? By putting all the "Waywards" in their place? The fine people who have been posting here for years do so because they care about marriages. Both Betrayed Spouses AND Former Waywards. Stop the fit, okay?
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I have said repeatedly that I deleted the information I had for him weeks ago. I know his FIRST name. I know the city he lives in. I know his profession. THAT IS NOT ENOUGH TO GO ON, I HAVE TRIED! I am not a detective. And you are not the one I have to make my indiscretion up to. You ALSO told us you have his cell phone number which I told you you can get a report with the full name of OM on. If you deleted the cell phone #, you can go back to your phone records to pull it. This is not "detective" level work. This is something a 12 year old can do. But my guess is from your latest "woe is me" posts, you have no interest in contacting OMW and are going to try to distract us. It's not going to work, Goldi. You are not the victim here. OMW and your BH are. Nice try tho...
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YEARS you have been here??? Sad... I don't understand. Why is it sad? I intend to be here for the rest of my life supporting marriages. Do you go to AA meetings and tell people their 30-years-sober buttons are sad?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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And while I'm at it, there is something else I'd like to say...
While I truly believe most of you are here for genuine reasons and want to help people who are hurting, I have noticed a few who seem to feed on the drama.
People who can prance off with their tails held high...really, think about it... Some of you have been here FOR YEARS!!!! Thousands of posts made. Bumping all your relevant posts for others to see... The Betrayed Spouse. YEARS you have been here??? Sad...
Is that how you are vindicated? By putting all the "Waywards" in their place? VERY baaaaaad move with this post. I was getting ready to show a boatload of compassion for you with your big post, just trying to figure out how to frame it properly to help just a little bit in my little ol' way. Obviously, you are way too self entitled, self absorbed, self righteous, self important, self this, self that, self this that and the other thing to truly appreciate what marriage is all about. It's all about you Best of luck to you in your future trials and tribulations.
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Markos, you and your wife are not who I was talking about, I think you are two who genuinely care.
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And while I'm at it, there is something else I'd like to say...
While I truly believe most of you are here for genuine reasons and want to help people who are hurting, I have noticed a few who seem to feed on the drama.
People who can prance off with their tails held high...really, think about it... Some of you have been here FOR YEARS!!!! Thousands of posts made. Bumping all your relevant posts for others to see... The Betrayed Spouse. YEARS you have been here??? Sad...
Is that how you are vindicated? By putting all the "Waywards" in their place? VERY baaaaaad move with this post. I was getting ready to show a boatload of compassion for you with your big post, just trying to figure out how to frame it properly to help just a little bit in my little ol' way. Obviously, you are way too self entitled, self absorbed, self righteous, self important, self this, self that, self this that and the other thing to truly appreciate what marriage is all about. It's all about you Best of luck to you in your future trials and tribulations. I know, I snapped... OldWarHorse got to me. I apologize.
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Markos, you and your wife are not who I was talking about, I think you are two who genuinely care. Would you like me to list some of the others who care, Goldilocks? I have gotten to know several of them well. There are people who are really passionate here about helping people have great marriages. Occasionally some of them have emailed me and ripped me a new one when they got wind that I was not treating my wife in a way that is conducive for a good marriage. And I am glad of it.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I have yet to see anybody posted who didn't genuinely care.
You are throwing a fit because you've been told to do something you do not want to do.
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I know, I snapped... OldWarHorse got to me. I apologize. Perhaps you need to listen to him, then.
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Goldi, I know his FIRST name. I know the city he lives in. I know his profession.You can do a web then a photo search in google, use his name and profession and city, you would be surprised how often a connection can be made with few clues. There may only be 50 persons in his profession in that city. Also professional associations and www.linkedin.com he may be on it. If he belongs to a union call the union hall. Also he might still be on that adult website, look him up with your H at your side. Lure him to a motel you can get his license plate number. You also know his hair/eye color, his build, possibly what he wears. God Bless Gamma This is what I tried to do... I actually live 1,000 miles away.
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When you feel that way, it usually means that somebody has hit close to home with something that you really need to hear. I know it was true for me! Growth comes from making oneself be quiet (my anger management therapist said rule number one was to SHUT UP) and listen.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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And while I'm at it, there is something else I'd like to say...
While I truly believe most of you are here for genuine reasons and want to help people who are hurting, I have noticed a few who seem to feed on the drama.
People who can prance off with their tails held high...really, think about it... Some of you have been here FOR YEARS!!!! Thousands of posts made. Bumping all your relevant posts for others to see... The Betrayed Spouse. YEARS you have been here??? Sad...
Is that how you are vindicated? By putting all the "Waywards" in their place? VERY baaaaaad move with this post. I was getting ready to show a boatload of compassion for you with your big post, just trying to figure out how to frame it properly to help just a little bit in my little ol' way. Obviously, you are way too self entitled, self absorbed, self righteous, self important, self this, self that, self this that and the other thing to truly appreciate what marriage is all about. It's all about you Best of luck to you in your future trials and tribulations. I know, I snapped... OldWarHorse got to me. I apologize. He got you because he was RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!! Now, the $64,000 question is; what are YOU going to do about it?!?!
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I know, I snapped... OldWarHorse got to me. I apologize. Perhaps you need to listen to him, then. OldWarHorse doesn't know what he's talking about.
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When you feel that way, it usually means that somebody has hit close to home with something that you really need to hear. I know it was true for me! Growth comes from making oneself be quiet (my anger management therapist said rule number one was to SHUT UP) and listen. You have an anger management therapist? Unfortunately I do snap when I get to a certain point...
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I know, I snapped... OldWarHorse got to me. I apologize. Perhaps you need to listen to him, then. OldWarHorse doesn't know what he's talking about. He knows a lot more about what it takes to have a good marriage than you do, Hon.
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Unfortunately I do snap when I get to a certain point... That is not unfortunate, that is a choice. And a very poor one.
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I have said repeatedly that I deleted the information I had for him weeks ago. I know his FIRST name. I know the city he lives in. I know his profession. THAT IS NOT ENOUGH TO GO ON, I HAVE TRIED! I am not a detective. And you are not the one I have to make my indiscretion up to. You ALSO told us you have his cell phone number which I told you you can get a report with the full name of OM on. If you deleted the cell phone #, you can go back to your phone records to pull it. This is not "detective" level work. This is something a 12 year old can do. But my guess is from your latest "woe is me" posts, you have no interest in contacting OMW and are going to try to distract us. It's not going to work, Goldi. You are not the victim here. OMW and your BH are. Nice try tho... I have a pre-paid phone, so I don't get monthly statements and I deleted his number weeks ago!
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I don't see anything in OldWarHorse's post that I disagree with.
The truth hurts sometimes. What are you going to do about it?
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