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WW is also my biz partner.I am worried she will wreak havoc when she finds out about the expo.I just want to prepare for the storm.I've been warned over and over again by people who got burned in similar sitch.She is completely unremorseful.She is capable of doing anything.I cant believe I would have to protect myself from someone who Ive known for 20+years.I am losing faith in everything.
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I wish I could detach myself emotionally and go straight to Divorce!!!
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I wish I could detach myself emotionally and go straight to Divorce!!! I understand how hard this is for you, my friend! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I wish I could detach myself emotionally and go straight to Divorce!!! How are you doing?
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I am ok,thanks brain &melody and everyone with their support.Been really depressed last couple days.WW planning a trip to visit the OM soon.Shes so happy now which makes me sick.Sometimes its hard to believe theres any chance of R.
I sent a msg to a woman i believe to be OMWs relative.I took melodys advice n told her about the affair.I was going to just say its an urgent matter.I didnt want to reveal too much....maybe I am being too paranoid but I would be suspicious to whoever that replies since it would be hard to verify the ID of that person overseas.
Just found out OM works in a university.
Please pray for me,thanks.
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should i continue to snoop?I cant take it....makes me real sick knowing their plans to meet up to do their shameless deeds
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Did you hear anything back from this person? Did you check this persons FB for more possible relatives for the BW?
University huh? Did you go to this university's website to look for info on OM to maybe give you more help in contacting his BW?
What are you going to do to crash this little getaway they are planning?
Have you been to your Dr. To get on some AD?
You've got to keep moving or you will let this affair destroy you. I know it's anxiety to snoop. Hell, I still have it when I look at the phone bill and we share the phone that I have 95% of the time.
You have to fight to kill this affair. Can you do that? If it hurts too much to snoop do you have a friend or relative help you?
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Theres nothing I could to crash their getaway.
I sent the message out to OMWs friend and I am sure she received it.But no response yet.I sent it 24hr ago.I dont know whats going on....maybe she is in denial?
If OMW ignores me,then i dont think I have much to kill the affair.
I got some prozacs from my doc.
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Please pray for me,thanks. Lord Jesus, thank you for Your servant xtremepain. Thank you that he loves yYu and wants to know that You are there and caring for him no matter what. When the times seem at their darkest Father, You are there. Father I pray You touch xtremepain and give him the peace beyond understanding. A calmness of spirit and a clear head. In Your Name Lord Amen.
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Thank you Lord.Thanks lildoggie.
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Theres nothing I could to crash their getaway.
I sent the message out to OMWs friend and I am sure she received it.But no response yet.I sent it 24hr ago.I dont know whats going on....maybe she is in denial?
If OMW ignores me,then i dont think I have much to kill the affair.
I got some prozacs from my doc. What do you mean there is nothing you can do to crash their getaway? You go with her. That's what I did. How many other requests did you send besides the one request to the BW's maybe relative?
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I just sent the msg to the relative.I am sure she got the msg becos she updated her fb page.Maybe BW is in denial....
I could go with her but what good would that do?She could still spend time with the OM leaving me in the hotel.
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I just sent the msg to the relative.I am sure she got the msg becos she updated her fb page.Maybe BW is in denial....
I could go with her but what good would that do?She could still spend time with the OM leaving me in the hotel. How can she leave you in the hotel if you go everywhere she goes?
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I am planning to go with her but I dont think she would let me go everywhere she goes.I have thought about being with her 24/7 but not practical....it would just get ugly.
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I couldnt distinguish the family members of his wife.The OM actually has his friend list locked down as well.I could only copy the post comments made by his friends and be friended some of them with my faux acct. You don't need to friend anyone. Just go to their facebook pages and send them a private message. do you see the contact list of the OMW? If so, send them all private messages. You don't need to be anyone's friend to do that. I just found out if the person you are sending a msg to is not a friend on your fb,the msg gets sent to a subfolder instead of the main folder where msgs from friends are stored.I just checked and found many old msgs from way b4 in my subfolder.All these msgs are from people who arent my fb friends.I believe my msg to the OMW's friend was missed and is stored in her subfolder .
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I am planning to go with her but I dont think she would let me go everywhere she goes.I have thought about being with her 24/7 but not practical....it would just get ugly. So you can't be the best H in plan A when you're with her? When she gets up to say " she's going to get her hair done". You say " fantastic, I'll go with you and get my hair trimmed also, oh we will have so much fun and then I'll take you to lunch". " You ready?" Dr. Harley talks on the radio show how he goes with Joyce to the mall with her.
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I am planning to go with her but I dont think she would let me go everywhere she goes.I have thought about being with her 24/7 but not practical....it would just get ugly. I would go with her and follow her wherever she goes. If she gets annoyed, continue to be pleasant. Not saying it will be easy, but worth a try if you can do it.
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i really dont know how I could manage to do that....she planned this trip just for the OM.She already told me she is going to see him.She wants me to arrive a few days later.Sometimes I think I am too good of an H during this plan A.How do you do plan A with boundaries??In this case,I have no say in this trip whatsoever.
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One of the OMWs friend just responded and said he did not want to get involved.He thinks its awkward that I would contact him for help.The others never responded.I think OMW is in denial.I feel so exhausted....
Last edited by xtremepain; 04/01/12 11:44 AM.
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One of the OMWs friend just responded and said he did not want to get involved.He thinks its awkward that I would contact him for help.The others never responded.I think OMW is in denial.I feel so exhausted.... Sorry to hear that xtremepain. There are alot of people in society that "don't want to get involved" when someone asks them to take a stand. Try not to let that get you down. Read this for some inspiration to be the lighthouseHere is another Notable Posts by Pep Also I would plan on going on that trip and making it very difficult to meet up with OM. Say to yourself "not on my watch will you be meeting with the enemy". Just be as pleasant as a little girl with a lollipop. Patience and hard work my friend. Keep going.
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