Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by QueeniesAdventures
Her dad who is a counselor, was upset and told her to not rock the boat. ?????? WTF?????

Goodbye marriage with bad advice like that!! crazy If she wants to save her marriage she had better be rocking the boat.

I was like OMG, you have WAY MORE courage than I did, which is the truth. I told her she was doing great. She admitted that she deals with things by stuffing and she isn't sure she wants to fight for her M. I told her she had that right and it was her choice and explained how M that don't make it are often because the BS doesn't want to do the work.

She thinks its backwards. Of course it is. But after recovery you have that time to get back everything you gave and more. At least that has been my experience.


BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09