How did his other 2 marriages end?

Get your exposure list together and do it all at once. Get your facebook exposure messages all ready and space them out.

Tell us your exposure list. When are you doing this, tonight?

Do you have a way you can upload some evidence to a website and give them all a link? That way the infidels cannot deny the affair. There are instructions on my exposure thread [link in my signature] on how to set up such a website. Please go and read my thread for exposure instructions.

Thank you for defining the terms. All these letter acronyms are a bit confusing. I do not know how his first marriage ended. I did know him when he was going thru his second divorce. I was still married to my first husband. We were in college classes together. I graduated, and we didn't see each other for almost a year, then ran into each other somewhere after we were both divorced. His second ,marriage ended because his ex did not want their child, did not want to work, or do anything to be considered a wife. She is pretty much still that way. He did admit to me that I am the only one he has ever been in a committed relationship with and cheated.

You need to STOP listening to his fogbabble. It is not a reasonable request for a husband to ask the wife that he is supposed to love and protect to have a threesome with himself and his POSOW. In fact, it is completely self serving, disrespectful and downright cruel to ask you to do that. You understand that don't you?

So why would you feel guilty for telling him NO, and why would you consider for a moment that your doing so gave him justification to have sex with another woman.

No guilt. His choice.

You are not the one having an affair, and you have nothing to feel guilty about.


I would not go back to a man who asked you to do this. That is despicable. And it's even more despicable that he would act like this is some normal thing you should have done and that somehow not going along with this disgusting suggestion makes you responsible for his affair!

A "threesome" would have also been an affair. So basically he told you he had already decided to have an affair, and gave you the choice of whether you wanted to witness it or not. For him to somehow blame this decision on you is ridiculous.

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All my picture and video evidence is at my house in Oklahoma, and I am stuck in Texas. He is at our home, and has already told me that he knows I still have the videos and unless I promise to destroy them, I ,right as well stay in Texas. Besides, I don't really want anyone see them, I would consider them hardcore pornography. But I do have emails....

I cannot do this tonight, I have to go to work. I picked up spots at my old job bartendng while I am here. Have to make money to support my daughter and I somehow.

Do not tell him where the videos are at, do not destroy them, do not promise him you will destroy them, do not let him dictate what you do by threatening you. Even if you don't want anyone to see them you do not want to destroy evidence.

And I am sorry you have had to suffer from two marriages wrought with infidelity at such a young age. You do not deserve it.

Thank you unwritten. I'm not going to get rid of my proof, that would be plain stupid

So when can you expose?

You made a copy of OW's facebook friends, correct?

I'm going to send an email to my inlaws and to OWBF soon. Unfortunately I don't know when I will be able to get to my proof. Yes, I copied all of her friends on FB

You have the emails, correct?

The videos are home, safe? Or does he know where they are at?

Do not send the emails until you're ready to do it all at once. Exposure must be done all at once, not trickled.

I have the videos on a memory card hidden at my house, so it will be a while until I can get to it. I'm just praying he dosent find it. So it would be bad to send the emails without having my photo proof?

You have email proof, correct? That will be the evidence you offer up in your exposure letter. You tell them you have proof if they would like to see it.

What I meant, is do not send the email to your family and OWBF until you're ready to do the whole exposure at once. Do your exposure all at once. Send your emails all at once.

I have email proof of the first affair. The second time all I have are videos. So I guess I'm going to be waiting until I get the card. Sigh. I am not looking forward to this at all.

No. You have enough to expose now.

Put your list together and sit down to expose.

Your family, WH's family, OW's family and OWBF and your children, and any friends who have influence over him and as many of OW's Facebook friends you can hit.

Yes you need to expose all at once.
BH, can you post a sample Facebook exposure letter?
This Is what I used when I exposed my wife's affair.
Just copy and paste the letter.
When on Facebook you need to send the messages a couple minutes apart, otherwise Facebook will block you.

He will be furious at first. Plan on it.
But exposure is the most effective action in destroying affairs

If you have emails to some of your exposure targets, you can use those instead of FB, to avoid further chance of being blocked by FB.

Sure thing.


FB or email exposure letter to family and friends of YOUR WS - this was written by board member, Underdog:

Dear friends and family,

I am writing you this message because you are an important person in the lives of xxxx and I. As some of you know, xxxxx has recently asked me for a separation, which has shattered my heart. To my shock, I am saddened to have discovered that the reason is because she has been carrying on an affair with a old boyfriend named xxxxx xxxxx who resides in xxxxxx. He is also married and has young children . The purpose of the separation is so that she can carry on her affair without my interference.

She refuses to end the affair. I want our marriage to recover from this affair. If you have any influence on my babe, please do what you can to get her to stop this dangerous affair. I want to stay married, but the affair must end.

As our friends and family, I am asking that you use your influence with xxxx to persuade her to end her affair and try to work on our marriage. Our marriage can be salvaged if she would only end the affair. Please support her in doing the right thing. Please support our marriage.

I would so appreciate your support and prayers.

Warmest regards,

Also this.
FB exposure letters to OP's contacts

Should be done to the OP�s facebook friends via private message. This is a very, very effective exposure because it is a collection of the OP�s closest friends and family. SPACE THE PM�S OUT 60 SECONDS APART SO FB DOES NOT SHUT YOU DOWN FOR FLOODING. Before you begin, copy and paste all the contacts into a WORD doc. Change your fb picture to a picture of you and your spouse and children.

Dear friend of JoeScumbag:

It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of his friends should know the kind of person he really is. Joe had an affair with my wife, Sally, from Aug until September. I believe that his friends should know this, so you can protect your marriage from him. My wife and I have 2 small daughters and this affair has almost wrecked our marriage.

I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify his parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.

Thank you, BH

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Dear friend of Skankyhola,

It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that OW is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence.

I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.

I would ask that you use your influence with OW to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.
Thank you, BW

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