WOW, just WOW.. Talk number 2 was nothing like I expected. She actually wanted to talk about US and was opening up to me. We actually sat close together for once and talked about meeting each others needs and what we would want IF we were to talk about reconciling.

She said she has always felt neglected and if I had only showed her this side earlier things might be different. WW is still set on leaving Friday but seemed open to "dating". Not sure if she is just trying to trick me or these are her true feelings. I am very surprised with the way our entire conversation focused on not just our past but future.

I plan to go nuclear exposure on OM's FB in the next hour. Gonna hit everyone on his friends list. This one will actually feel good!

I never thought talking to the kids today could actually help, but now I know that I MANED UP and told the truth and did what was best for my family. I will never EVER regret anything that I told those boys today. Thank you all for your great words of wisdom. Now, I will Plan A until my love bank is either empty or her's fills enough to work on things. I think today was a good step in the right direction. Now I have some NUKING to do!

Should I light up his work also??

Well, we had the talk with the boys and I did and said everything as suggested. She was stunned and tried to stop me from talking mid way through. I calmly told her I wanted to finish speaking to the boys. And I finally said everything.

The boys were visibly upset and my wife kept telling them that it was not true. Now they keep asking why mommy wants to leave. I tell them to ask mommy and that daddy wants her to stay with us as a family.

She took me outside and asked what do I not understand, and that she does not love me anymore. Why would I want to be with someone that does not love me? I have to admit that it is a good question, but I replied that I made a commitment and vow to her, that I would love her and be by her side in good times and bad. She replies that it is over and we will never be together again. To just move on and be a good husband to someone else.

I was prepared for her wrath. It almost feels like a second exposure talk all over again. I keep telling her that I am trying to fight for our family and set a good example for our boys of how a MAN and Husband act when things get tough. She does not want to hear anything and just tells me that we are done. She said she feels like a punching bag and does not know what I will do or say next. I am always calm and say that I just want US to work together to save our family.

She is putting the kids to bed right now so I expect round #2 in a few minutes. God help me.

Thanks, I will use that exact template and be sure to space 1-2 mins apart. He has 264 FB friends so this also may take a while. I found POSOM on LinkedIN. He works at a small company and their website lists the entire email directory of his coworkers. About 30-50 in total. Should I light up his work also??

If I change now her entire family will turn against me, and the boys need to see their mother. Everything up to now seems easy compared with the task that you are asking me to do. I'm just not sure i can do it.

Even if I wanted, how can I stop her from taking the boys? Could this backfire and be conceived as a major love-buster?

Also, new friend and neighbor who is also married was asking my WW if she wanted to go to the same club that weekend and hopefully OM would be there. WHAT a B****!

A woman wants her man to fight for her.