That sounds perfect.

I would fight for full custody.
Let yhe court or your wife arrange for supervised visitation.
I would stop relying on the in laws. With rare exception, most side with their blood

So my inlaws say they will not provide childcare for me as long as my wife and I are separated. I am trying to clarify if they won't also provide childcare for her under the same conditions. I did not get to the court today to modify the restraining order, so we still both have custody. I have to work tonight at 6. and can not really take off. I don't have any sick or personal time left to take, and need the income so I look to the state like I am doing what I can to support the kids. My parents out of state said that they would possibly be willing to house me and the kids but they won't be able to come down to watch kids before I am scheduled to work. I think I may have to hand kids over to wife before I go to work. I think that she may be shaken up enough not to take them to see OM but can't be positive. Also think she would keep them in the area since she has to work. She does have an uncle on her father's side down in florida who I did not expose to, but don't think she would actuall take kids there, I hope. Not sure if we could agree onn when she would geve kids back to me. Have note talked to her today. Does she have to hand them back to me if I ask? If she leaves them in someone else's care is that person required to give them up to me if wfe is not there? I still have not talked to lawyer, no one will lend money, I have no credit. I am going through process to get free legal aid, and will be able to speak to someone before my restraining order hearing next wednesday, but wont be til monday or tuesday.

I would find a babysitter NOW. GEt off the internet and start making calls. DON'T hand your kids over to your crazy, reckless wife.

You are going to have to be more proactive here and stop allowing life to "happen" to you. That is an alcoholic trait that I see going on here. You have children that must be protected.


This needs to be of utmost importance and is not something that can be put off.

You NEED to take care of your kids. Will your parents come down and stay with you? Why not ask your parents to come down now and just call in late for work? One way or antoher, you need to start looking for solutions to your problems and then acting on them with more initiative and resolve.

I am on it. When is it ok to let my wife back with the kids. When she signs NC order to OM?

Does your WW have an anger problem?

Also have you seen this?
DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT

FOR NOW, just go along with supervised visits [WITH YOU] until she can demonstrate trustworthy behavior.

And you need to follow through on the plans here. For example, get that custody order signed. Get the background check run. Don't put this off anymore. It is real imporatnt that you follow through and be very action oriented, ok? Your kids need you to step up now.

I'm not sure which segment MelodyLane is talking about, but here they are.
Radio Clips from 11-11-13
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OM background check came up clean. Checked the two states he's lived in. I ended up dropping the kids at neighbor of my inlaws and wife picked them up. I went to work tonight. I asked her when I could expect them back. She said Sunday night or monday morning, or never. She questioned whether I was able to properly watch my son during the day.

Child protective was here again today after speaking with WW and said WW was concerned that I relapsed with alcohol a few months ago. WW, me and kids will be subject to psychological evaluations, and I will go for substance abuse evaluation (which I'm not too concerned about).

I did check in to transferring my job to another loation in the same company that is close to my parents' house, but this is out of state, so am waiting to consult lawyer next week to see if that is even legal. They are willing to house us. I would be able to make a quick transfer, but my income is so low. My father in law lawyer says state come down hard on people who are not making enough to support kids. This has been an ongoing problem even with my wife's income and mine combined. I am doing what I can to get day hours and more pay,but not quick enough.

Should I be this blunt with the guidance counselor? I have not yet told her the details but my wife has told her that �we have agreed to divorce�. This is a consistent lie she has been using. Now I�m positive that is what she was telling OM the whole time. WW says I am being slandered, that people are saying I am an alcoholic and drug addict. OM�s wife apparently says I am a terrible father. Don�t know that my wife actually heard it from her though. She is concerned for my reputation. I am not so concerned, but I probably should just not be answering her calls.

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You are going to have to be more proactive here and stop allowing life to "happen" to you. That is an alcoholic trait that I see going on here. You have children that must be protected.

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This certainly is something I have been dealing with my entire life, though I am finally changing that and feel good about standing up to my wife for my kids' sake instead of living in fear of her. This is the second time she has assaulted me in this magnitude, though the frst time I did not report it. She is not very often that violent but she does have a tendency to anger.

Yes you should be this blunt. Why on earth wouldn't you?? You are fighting for your kids here you need to tell the councellor the truth.

Yes, tell the full truth. And it is very typical that waywards will malign their spouses. That is why it is important for you to get the full truth out there. Your wife is not the least concerned about your reputation, that is ridiculous. She is saying this in order to scare you into silence.

Thanks all. I think my defences have been down a bit since i have not been sleeping much. My parents offered me use of one of their vehicles and i am on my way to get it now. I will try to get some rest tonight.

Your FIL is full of nonsense.
Half of the country is on food stamps and we have massive unemployment.
I haven't had the government knock on my door and take my kids away because I am low income

Except for the assault, the email I suggested is the exact email I sent to my kids school during my ex wife's affair

That won't be worth the paper its written on

As a general rule,
You are married so you both have custody.
If ahe leaves them with a third party you can appear and take your kids.
If anyone resists call the Police.
Do NOT let her take control of this. You NEED to take control immediately

I seems like i am in an unplanned plan B here.