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A reminder to all posters that the purpose of this forum is to discuss and learn Marriage Builders concepts. Posting on the forum implies that other posters will respond with their understanding of what Dr. Harley would advise in each situation. Dissuading other posters from posting that advice detracts from the goal of this forum.


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Indie, thank you for trying to stick up for me. I will say this though, I don't deserve that. I did go against everything that I had stood for. I did it through small steps, much the same as a wayward, although I do not in fact consider myself to be in an affair, as both my, and my boyfriend's marriages were already ended, with excaption of a divorce. I am NOT making excuses. And ITA that by not following DrH's advice, I have actually given myself a very slim chance at success with this new relationship. I do agree that we have entered into this as Renters.

In my marriage, I was a Buyer, complete and total. Part of Plan B is actually to change a Buyer into a Renter in the marriage to be able to consider the chance of moving on.

I had NO intention of going to a chatroom to find someone. I even had boundaries up while I was in there, ie No PMs, but it seemed that I craved attention, and didn't have my boundaries up as high as I should have. I should have gotten a divorce before I started a relationship. I would not condone anyone dating while they are married, Period. That being said, I am. And not only am I, my actions have directly impacted my chances at a long term happy relationship built on Romantic Love.

These reasons, and these reasons alone are what have caused me to no longer post on MB. I do not feel like I can give out advice on a Forum when I am not following one of the most important parts, which is to not date while married.

I do not want this to become a distraction to any of the help that is offered on this site. I believe in MB fully and completely and I have experienced how well it works, when you actually do follow the guidlines.

Although I have not followed MB in the past 8 months, I do acknowledge that I followed MB to a T for more than 3 years, and it saved me. I hope this thread can still be useful to others who are trying to impliment a proper Plan B, and I hope I can also be an example as to what will happen if you do NOT keep those boundaries up.

In closing, I believe that MB and DrH's principles are the best way to ensure a successful marriage.


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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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Since this thread has become a distraction from our mission, we have made a decision to lock it. Thanks all.


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