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Alada, and perhaps it wasn't your email at all!! There were several similarities in your situation that made me think it was yours. The presenting problem was that the WS keeps breaking EPs.


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Bummer, I do think it was mine. I will wait for the archives then... Do you know how long it takes to show up on the archives?


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I found this one that brainhurts posted

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Basically they are just saying Plan B. Correct?

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They suggested Plan B and divorce. He said he doesn't believe the marriage will work out.


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I guess it makes sense. Justo now we are supposed to be having our ua but he's working.

Getting ready for plan B.

I need an IM. Where do I send her for instructions?
What would be my requirements forma him yo come back? I was thinking of having him work some chapters con hnhn. What do you think?


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I would listen to Dr Harley's radio clip. I think the intent is to not invite him back, but to get divorced.


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Thanks melody. I will wait for it to be available


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Usually Joyce will respond saying that your question was read on the air. I would write them again to verify.

The archives are about 19 days behind so I will post your show when it comes up.


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Also since it sounds like it may be your question here you go.

How to Plan B Correctly

Then email your IM the "IM training school" thread to your IM.


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Thanks BH for the link.

And yes, I never got an email from Joyce, unless it went on the spam folder, which I doubt because I looked in there too. I emailed her again yesterday asking if my question was on the radio. Haven't heard back, will tray again today.


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I heard the show and I didn't get the impression it was your question, but I could be wrong. Weren't they talking about a husband that kept texting other women? Or are we talking about another emailer?


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Thanks FTF, I'm just now confused.

I will wait to hear from Joyce. I have been emailing her the last few weeks. I wonder if she is getting my emails. I emailed her monday, tuesday and today and have not heard back from her.



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I've been thinking about H posting here. Has anyone else used a translator to post here? Do you think it would work?


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Hi Alada, Good idea! Can you teach your husband to copy and paste to an online translator before posting? And then teach him to copy and paste that translation here?

I know that online translators are not perfect, but they come close. And you could even teach him to always make his first sentence be something like "pardon any grammar errors, I am using an online translator to post".


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I have used online Spanish-English-Spanish translators for lots of correspondence. Of course, it is not perfect, but gets the idea across well enough.

I like BlindSighted's idea of the disclaimer.


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Originally Posted by Alada
Thanks FTF, I'm just now confused.

I will wait to hear from Joyce. I have been emailing her the last few weeks. I wonder if she is getting my emails. I emailed her monday, tuesday and today and have not heard back from her.
That's not like her. Did you notify the MODS so they can pass on the message?



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I only caught the end of it on the rebroadcast, but I am pretty sure they were discussing your email today, they talked about the breaking of EPs and your WH bringing the woman to the bank.

Did you hear it?


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NO!! I'm running the rebroadcast right now.


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I didn't get a chance to run the re broadcast bt H saved it for me. I will listen to it tonight.


In another note, H quit his job. It was simply not working for us. Not for UA time, not for EP's. He is now home, we will think about activities for him to do like baking cakes and seling them or something. He actually loves baking!! and is prety excited!!


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Well, that was a proactive step!


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