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Also any form of workplace exposure will come back to bite me. If I am to expose OM I would need to do out of the work arena. I assume letter to a boss covers me if it spills over into work You should expose to the President and a key VP, and ask that you never work with or see this man again.
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I meant exposure to company may warn wife of family exposure. Would rather tell work before I expose.
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OM 2 exposure best to do ASAP?
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yes expose asap. all at once
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I'm concerned by my companies social media policy. My exposure will be done via private message on Facebook. Even though I am telling the truth I do not want to jeopardise my employment by contravening any policies or guidelines.
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They can not control whats posted IN PRIVATE on Facebook.
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This second exposure is to support claims of first exposure which fell on deaf ears. I was going to include evidence. As the OM in this case works for same company I am worried about him being posted copies of this message and using it in a inappropriate behaviour or harassment complaint. Ive seen people dismissed for less. UK just to clarify
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Think I'm obsessing too much here. Supposed to be clearing my head, hoping she comes out the fog and try to recover. Not go after her
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I'm concerned by my companies social media policy. My exposure will be done via private message on Facebook. Even though I am telling the truth I do not want to jeopardise my employment by contravening any policies or guidelines. This man was screwing your wife and you are more concerned about offending a manager by exposing him? Would the company approve of you sending him a box of condoms to use for their next affair?
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This second exposure is to support claims of first exposure which fell on deaf ears. I was going to include evidence. As the OM in this case works for same company I am worried about him being posted copies of this message and using it in a inappropriate behaviour or harassment complaint. Ive seen people dismissed for less. UK just to clarify I don't even know this man or you, and I already hate him. Good grief! What happened to you English? I feel like I'm more upset that he screwed your wife than you are.
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Sir have you watched John Wayne movies?
Can you watch The Quiet Man or The Searchers?
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Getting my legal advice tomorrow and need to tie up some financials. Then I will do this.
On another point my car has broken down. Wife via MIL offered me use of her personnel ( she has a company car). I simply replied I'm getting mine fixed. Correct response I believe
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Could not wait exposed to family and friends as before. Also to a couple on OM side. Will have to wait and see what sticks or gets read!
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Getting my legal advice tomorrow and need to tie up some financials. Then I will do this.
On another point my car has broken down. Wife via MIL offered me use of her personnel ( she has a company car). I simply replied I'm getting mine fixed. Correct response I believe NO! Incorrect response! ALL communication should be through IM
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Could not wait exposed to family and friends as before. Also to a couple on OM side. Will have to wait and see what sticks or gets read! Expose to the employer also
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NO! Incorrect response!
ALL communication should be through IM So if MIL says Hi be polite. Any reference to WS however small or seemingly insignificant ignore
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Any reference to WS should be: "I very much want to save our marriage. If you have any influence over her please ask her to end her affair. She has hurt me deeply and I can no longer discuss her with you."
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Yes of course do not ignore situation but do not vary from standpoint of PBL
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Just had SIL contact saying she didn't want to take sides! I used the prescribed response!
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Now the hard part, go dark and wait!
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