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Nope I think we are better off on our own.
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Marie, time to grow up here. Lots of us did shift work - nurses and doctors and police officers. They chose alternate paths (day shifts, different departments, different jobs in the same field). Shift jobs for single people who don't have betrayed spouses sitting up all night wondering what their spouse is up to, and living different lives on shifting schedules.
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My husband wasn't wayward!!!
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I am going to say one final thing because I came on here to ask about the wisdom of cheaterville. It is very interesting that the person who hacked my husbands post on cheaterville was on today encouraging a bw to look up marriage builder. Do you guys get paid for this??? Huh? Someone hacked his post?? What do you mean?
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Nope I think we are better off on our own. So sez the wayward who is not serious about recovery!!  Let us know when you get serious, Marie. Until then, please cut the bullcrap.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I am not going to discuss my finances with you. We do what we need to to support our family. Obviously we are at an impass. I would recommend the book but this forum is toxic.
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Nope I think we are better off on our own. You mean where you - not him - gets to call the shots? Marie you are so unrepentant about just compensation to him. You want to forgive and forget, all while still the door is open for another affair. I wonder what your kids would prefer, student loans or divorce? Easy choice....
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I am not going to discuss my finances with you. We do what we need to to support our family. Obviously we are at an impass. I would recommend the book but this forum is toxic. This, folks, is the post of a wayward who is not serious about saving her marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes someone named forest hacked his post and I went on there today and fiorrst was encouraging someone to check out marriage builder. I showed my husband.
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He could not take off the cheaterville bit because someone had hacked it named forest.
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Yes someone named forest hacked his post and I went on there today and fiorrst was encouraging someone to check this our. I showed my husband. I am not making it up. Why are you complaining about this? How does this help you recover your marriage from your affair?
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He could not take off the cheaterville bit because someone had hacked it named forest. Why not stop obsessing over cheaterville and start paying attention to your marriage?
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Can I ask you melody why I deserved to be on cheaterville and now your telling my husband he should not have some that? That was my original question!!!
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I am not obsessing I think it is strange. And kind of twisted.
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Can I ask you melody why I deserved to be on cheaterville and now your telling my husband he should not have some that? That was my original question!!! We've been trying to tell you, but you are being stubborn. Go read his thread NO ONE suggested he post you. We suggested he post OM. You owe this board a huge apology and why don't you ask your BH why he chose to do that?
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No it was quite clear yesterday that I got everything I deserved.
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Can I ask you melody why I deserved to be on cheaterville and now your telling my husband he should not have some that? That was my original question!!! Yes, you deserved to be on cheaterville: YOU CHEATED! However, we don't tell spouses to expose their wayward spouse on cheaterville. We tell them to expose the OP on cheaterville. Your husband was not told to expose you on cheaterville.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Can I ask you melody why I deserved to be on cheaterville and now your telling my husband he should not have some that? That was my original question!!! Marie, I thought you agreed to stop talking about cheaterville ... Can we get back to what you need to do you recover your marriage? I posted a checklist to you of things that needed to be done. Can you answer that?
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I am not obsessing I think it is strange. And kind of twisted. Well, we think having affairs is "kind of twisted!" So I guess we are even, huh? 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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No it was quite clear yesterday that I got everything I deserved. Shut up about cheaterville already! You had an affair and people found out about it, and now you are ashamed, as you should be! We did not tell your husband to put your name up there, but he did it anyway, and it doesn't matter. The problem in your marriage isn't cheaterville. The problems in your marriage are your affair and the lifestyle you have both been leading, including your night shifts, that left the door wide open to your having an affair. They also include the fact that OM still has an avenue of contact with you and the fact that you had poor boundaries around men. Cheaterville did not make you have an affair. The problem in your marriage is not cheaterville. It's time to stop talking about that and talk about how you can rebuild your marriage.
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