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I was willing to let it drop you have been talking about it for pages. I don't want my husband to feel bad about doing it. He is working so hard.
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we all know you didnt tell him to do it. You have said it like ten times.
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But you are thrilled that he did.
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I was willing to let it drop you have been talking about it for pages. I don't want my husband to feel bad about doing it. He is working so hard. Yet you were on here TODAY mischaracterizing Dr. Harley's position on cheaterville which needed to be corrected. If you don't want your husband to feel bad, then knock it off and let it drop!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My gosh Marie!!! For the love of pete, let it go and move on to the business of recovering your M.
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we all know you didnt tell him to do it. You have said it like ten times. And you have brought up the cheaterville issue about 100 times and can't seem to let it go. I don't see how that helps move your marriage forward.... Does this help you in some way?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I agree!! I have not said anything but I am tired of this. lets move on. i called the school they are working on the email I have to pay the phones before they will change the number so that will be friday but I did check on everything.
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I agree!! I have not said anything but I am tired of this. lets move on. i called the school they are working on the email I have to pay the phones before they will change the number so that will be friday but I did check on everything. That is a good step in the right direction. What are your plans to resolve the traveling issue? Is your husband coming with you now?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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For those of you who haven't listened to her show yet, Dr Harley told them not to spend the night apart again. He told her husband to start going with her to her working town and check into a hotel. That way she comes back to the hotel when she is off and spends the time with him.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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He is definitely going to come down this week for an evening but we truly cannot afford a hotel. The problem is I work the night shift so for him to pay for a room to sleep alone is dumb. But we are working on him making more money so I can take a big pay cut.
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He is definitely going to come down this week for an evening but we truly cannot afford a hotel. The problem is I work the night shift so for him to pay for a room to sleep alone is dumb. But we are working on him making more money so I can take a big pay cut. So you are not going to take Dr. Harley's advice? I am not surprised.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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For those of you who haven't listened to her show yet, Dr Harley told them not to spend the night apart again. He told her husband to start going with her to her working town and check into a hotel. That way she comes back to the hotel when she is off and spends the time with him. Excellent advice. I would work on figuring out a way to make this happen.
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Trust me I would much rather sleep in a hotel than a disgusting hospital bed. How could he do business while I am trying to sleep. We will get this worked out but it just may not be this week.
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Of course I am you self righteous...if I could I would. if you want to pay I will give you the name of the hotel.
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i will take your mastercard anytime melody
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You realize ML is a volunteer, right? She is one of the best posters here and taking time out of her day to try to HELP your MARRIAGE. She almost single-handedly helped my sister save her M but also helped me personally recover after my D.
She's not here to make friends or to pat people on the back. Oftentimes, 2x4s are the only way to get through to people.
If you REALLY want to recover your M, you will take what she says more seriously...
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I am sure she is fabulous but everything I say she slams and I am sick of it. I am trying my hardest to work on a marriage I was done with. She can ignore me but she loves to goad me on. I don't care if she doesnt post. I dont have to post. I wanted help. but all I get is everything I am doing wrong.
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Our home is in forclosure. We are broke!!!!!!!
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Collections at our door step this evening. That was great...
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I am sure she is fabulous but everything I say she slams and I am sick of it. I am trying my hardest to work on a marriage I was done with. She can ignore me but she loves to goad me on. I don't care if she doesnt post. I dont have to post. I wanted help. but all I get is everything I am doing wrong. People that are serious about wanting to save their marriage don't ignore the advice. Dr. Harley told you how to solve this problem and it is not "slamming" you to point out that you are IGNORING HIS ADVICE. Why waste his time and ours if you are going to ignore his advice? What was the point of calling him today if you are just going to follow Plan Wayward?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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