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From your last 2 posts, those are all great actions! 
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Thank you ever 2 late!! Although there are things I probably won't ever agree with I can certainly see all the positives to MB:)
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And kudos to my husband moved our entire household with two 15 year olds in the pouring rain and never lost his cool...not once:)
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And kudos to my husband moved our entire household with two 15 year olds in the pouring rain and never lost his cool...not once:) Moved your household? You're moving?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yes we moved to a smaller more energy efficient place. The rent is the same but the heat bills will be way less.
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Thank you ever 2 late!! Although there are things I probably won't ever agree with I can certainly see all the positives to MB:) And what exactly don't you agree WITH?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Let's just say me and mrs Harley have similar views about certain things but all that is in the past.
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I agree. We are starting at ground zero. I know exactly what you are talking about and we are working desperately on the finances. I asked for a day shift position and hopefully that will come available soon. I have written everyone I complained about all the issues in our marriage a letter of sincere apology with the hopes they will support our recovery. We are moving into a smaller more energy efficient place today. I am feeling really positive in spite of how everyone views me here. But this does not address the main problem, which happens to be the problem that PREVENTS you from recovering your marriage: SPENDING THE NIGHTS APART. Has that problem been resolved?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I know but there is just nothing I can do about that right now....
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I know but there is just nothing I can do about that right now.... So what is the plan to fix this problem?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I asked for day shift. The other traveler leaves in oct so I should be ae to slide I to her spot. Until then we text. I don't know what else to do.
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I asked for day shift. The other traveler leaves in oct so I should be ae to slide I to her spot. Until then we text. I don't know what else to do. Ok, that is a small start, but how will you solve the problem of being apart overnight?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Of we can be together at night it is totally worth a hotel or camp site or even the back of the truck.
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If.... Sorry phone and fat fingers.
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Of we can be together at night it is totally worth a hotel or camp site or even the back of the truck. Have you checked out cheaper hotels within 50 miles of the hospital? And didn't you say your contract is up in 8 weeks? I seem to remember you saying that on the radio show. I don't see the camping or sleeping in a truck option as being one anyone could do long term. I wouldn't sleep in a truck or a tent personally.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I live 70 miles away so if we cannot do something cheaper I could just drive home. We checked on hotels when I started this assignment last year and when I tell you this is Podunk I am not exaggerating. We even told them I would be there every week and no one would give is a deal.
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It's all back road through national forest so minimum of an hour and forty five minutes.
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And my contract is up in 8 but this is really the best option for me to home most of the time
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It doesn't appear you are seriously looking for solutions. I don't see what has changed.
Is your husband involved AT ALL in the recovery of your marriage? It is very backwards to have the wayward drive the "recovery" ship because they do not take it seriously. As we can all see here...
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hmm... I think he would disagree. I drive no ship. Trust me I am sure he would love to make enough to cover my salary but when one is self employed it usually becomes the other who carries the day to day. I am fully committed to making this work and so is he. So we can't do everything but we can do most it will work.
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