I'm really sad all of a sudden. I am planning my move and realizing that husband seems to not be coming with us. I feel bad about moving my daughter far from her dad. Of course, her dad didn't feel too bad about exploding his marriage in a spectacular fashion, so I guess I shouldn't feel that bad.
I am also realizing how much work I need to do on myself. I can't tell if bad things happened in the marriage because of our particular dynamic, or because we are both just kind of hard to get along with and I tolerated his bad behavior too long, while he resented my nagging.
I am plan B-ing again, but we went into in mad a frustrated, so that's the last impression he has of me.
Overall feeling crappy.
You are right on schedule then honey. You are supposed to feeling crappy at this stage. If you were not I would suspect you were of android origin.
I think at that stage I was rocking on the bare floorboards and moaning and blubbing for a good few hours of every day!
Here I am on the other side of the tunnel, really TRULY happy. Totally healed.
You have so much to do while so hurt. We are asking you to run across a minefield with a broken leg. However if you do not - you will be blown up.
Get out of there. Then heal. Don't expect to feel better before escape is even achieved.
Ugh. Now he is putting up a stink about custody and me moving because it is a significant distance. This is such an enormous nightmare. My parents are no help. They just want me to stay here and get divorced.
If he is being like this then if at all possible I would limit communications (keeping it on your terms) with him ahead of Plan B. Maybe take the kids out for the day (you probably all need a really good treat) and leave your phone at home.
Or don't answer your phone and just get some standard text responses ready: "I can't give you any legal advice I'm afraid. See a lawyer. Out for the day so can't chat xx"; "Really busy so can't chat. Speak soon." or "I will not discuss divorce with you as I don't want one." or
"That is something for the lawyers to discuss. Please respect my privacy as I mend a broken heart."
or "End your affair and I will remain here as your loving wife. I cannot even speak about the heartbreaking alternatives right now. "
or "You are breaking my heart. Please stop pursuing your affair and this divorce."
or
"Yes I agree - your affair is ripping our family apart. Please stop and allow our home to survive".
Rinse and repeat as often as needed. I would suggest that you not read any responses to your texts as they will not make sense/help you and you would be better off getting a bubble bath.
If you do need to speak on the phone with him he is obviously going to go full throttle on you so what you do is you carefully put the phone down. He will not realise and carry on while you go pick out some nice nail polish or something. Then return to the phone and say: "Oh sorry I didn't hear any of that - kitchen emergency."
But do get into Plan B soon!