By blog, i just mean documenting events about your situation. It can be on paper or on your computer. Whichever way is easier for you.

Maybe a better word for you to grab onto, would be to keep a Daily Journal. It is best if it is written in pen, Daily, or when something that needs documenting occurs, such as him not following through to pick up your Son.

Hand written records are less susceptible to being edited for emphasis and untruths at a later date and therefor, hold more ascertainable veracity if viewed by a judge or other court official.

LTL

The Lt just came to my house to get some of n's things: a badge and some dress shoes that he left. He has been decommissioned pending the outcome of the investigation. Meaning they take his guns and badges (there was one on the hat) and he has to report to the chief in the morning for a desk assignment during the investigation.


And her parents got the letter. He told me do not have any further contact with ms l. And he wanted to know how I got that address. Because he wanted to make sure I didn't go through metro's stuff to get it.

Good!! Finally some consequences for his workplace affair.



WHO told you this?

The Lt who came for Ns things. He said "you sent a certified letter to her father's house? How did you get that address?". I told him the internet and he said he just wanted to be sure I didn't go through their stuff to get it.

This is why he couldn't pick our son up from scouts. He's busy getting in trouble.

gotcha! Did you send your phone # to the fathers house? Have you heard from these people? Nice to know you hit your target!

What did you say in your letter?

Just want to tell you this is great news tonight. I know you are panicked but you have put enormous pressure on the affair and I am more hopeful tonight than I was Friday.

I thought the bosses said there was nothing else to it after the ahift change. HAHA, the big bosses must have thought different.

I did include my number, but didn't hear from them. I sorta copied the exposure letter templates. I said that I was writing because their daughter is having an affair with my husband, and I know it's hard to believe but they have both admitted it to me, and it's wrecking our marriage and tearing our family apart and it's been going on since may, shortly after we celebrated our 18th anniversary, and that we have four children, and would they please try to influence their daughter and please call me to discuss this. And I included a note that it was for the parents of skankwhore who works as a police officer in our city and if I had he wrong people please call and let me know. And I included a picture of us with all of our kids.

I'm not really panicking right now. I am really glad they made a big deal out of it. I was afraid it was going to be dealt with quietly.

And I love that the certified letter arrived the same day the investigation got underway. I could not have possibly planned that. I thought they would look into it before talking to WH and OW.

I really thought I would feel bad about this, but I just don't.

Awesome! I'm proud of you and I think you must be proud of yourself. Be prepared for his rage, but keep cool and deliberate and in control. Practice what you will say if he shows up in a rage. It will absolutely shock him when you display such calm and control.

Oh my goodness. I don't know what to say if he shows up in a rage. I have never seen him in a rage. Ever.

I won't open the door for him. I'll have the kids ready to run out when he pulls up, and I can stay upstairs. I don't see why I'll have to say anything to him. What am I missing?

huh? She is in Plan B! She is not going to see him.

You are not missing anything. Don't answer the door.

Does he have a key to the marital home? garage opener? etc?

She changed the locks.. We covered that.

So far he has contacted my sister twice with new visitation requests for the kids as he got his schedule, and then apparently it changed again. She said he asked politely.


This is so hard. I miss him. I mean, the old him, before all of this. I know he is just an alien-abducted version of his old self now, and I am not tempted to contact him. I just hate this.

I know you miss him. Everything you are doing now gives you the greatest chance of recovering your marriage some day. You have caused so much conflict in the affair. Now, they have nowhere to hide.