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And the hope diminishes even more.  I will still try to remain positive, he's older now, we have had 17 years together. Whether he chooses to remember that or not, I don't know. I need something to hang onto. He's older but that hasn't stopped him from behaving the same way in your marriage that he did in his first marriage. A wayward mindset can be present at ANY age. For now just keep putting one foot in front of the other by following the Plan. But do be realistic about his history and the fact that his mindset and lifestyle has been wayward for many, many years and recovery with him would be very difficult.
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Look, Ginger, your husband has already proven that he is untrustworthy. You know that you CAN be trusted to be fair with H. So I think it is better for you to control the money.
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Get it done!! All in one day!!
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And move it to a new bank!
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OW's parents have passed on.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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That was how she hooked my husband........sob story overdone about her moms passing.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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I'm on my husbands FB list, and it's not asking me for payment. Does that mean it's automatically going to the "other" inbox?
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Send it to his old boss? Who if he potentially loses it, could be his boss again? He's a nice guy.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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That was how she hooked my husband........sob story overdone about her moms passing. Been there
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I only had 1 message for friends on his list ask me for the $1.00.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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I only had 1 message for friends on his list ask me for the $1.00. As long as you are sending htem on a PC, you are probably ok since you are sending them to your husbands friends. You are on a PC, right?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes.
Also, send to his old boss, who could potentially be his boss again if he loses the business? He's a nice guy.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Here is the OW letter.
Dear friends and family of XXX XXX XXXXXX,
It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her friends and family should be aware that XXX is having an affair with my husband, XXXX. We have been married for 14 years, and together a total of 17 years. They have been having this affair since early March according to the evidence.
I would ask that you use your influence with XXX to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.
Thank you,
XXXX
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Ginger, your letter for the friends and family of OW is perfect. Send it on to all of her friends and as many relatives as you can find (I found a lot of relatives by viewing the photos of the OWs friends).
Good job.
DDays - six months of them THANK YOU God and Marriage Builders. We never knew that it could be this good! 
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Here is the OW letter.
Dear friends and family of XXX XXX XXXXXX,
It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her friends and family should be aware that XXX is having an affair with my husband, XXXX. We have been married for 14 years, and together a total of 17 years. They have been having this affair since early March according to the evidence.
I would ask that you use your influence with XXX to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.
Thank you,
XXXX When will you be sending it?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I am already, and I'm getting alot of backlash. I don't think anyone will speak up to her.
She has alot of friends on her list, but I did find her two daughters. One chewed me out, and said I was highly inappropriate.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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I am already, and I'm getting alot of backlash. I don't think anyone will speak up to her.
She has alot of friends on her list, but I did find her two daughters. One chewed me out, and said I was highly inappropriate. Highly inappropriate? I think that's a great description of an affair with a married man.
Remarried 7/16
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