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Surfer........please don't go into hiding.....I love your posts! They are always very positive, just like everyone else here!! 
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Little bit of anxiety today, waiting for H to show up. I'm hoping he doesn't realize what I've taken from the bank while he's here at the home the next two days.
My lawyer said to move everything I didn't want him to take, so last night I loaded up the horse trailer, and moved everything. I even moved the two ponies, I didn't want to have to be out doing chores while he was here, and have to worry about being trapped in the barn by an angry WS, if he discovered what I had done while he was here.
My mom is coming to stay with me also, so there will always be someone here while he is here.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Please help. I think he found out about the money from the bank. He is contacting me, trying to get me to talk with him. My lawyer is in court all day. He was supposed to come here today, but he's not here yet. I'm not in plan b yet.
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M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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He hasn't been served yet either.....there was a delay in court.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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I would turn your phone off and go do something with a friend. If he doesn't choose to pick up his stuff, that's his fault.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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It's not about his stuff in the house, he has what he wants. He found out about the money I took.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Please help. I think he found out about the money from the bank. He is contacting me, trying to get me to talk with him. My lawyer is in court all day. He was supposed to come here today, but he's not here yet. I'm not in plan b yet. I would send him a text asking him what he wants? WS tend to be stupid and hang themselves...which can be good for you to have it in writing if he goes there. You don't have to reply back right away should he respond.
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2 awesome kids
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I've done that, and he won't tell me anything, he wants to speak to me in person. He said it will take 5 minutes.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Tell him you can't and go out. I would not meet anywhere with him alone. He has already lied about you to the police. He is unfortunately not safe for you. There is nothing he has to say to you in person that he couldn't text. If it was a safe topic or he had your best interest at heart, he would not leave you wondering.
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I've done that, and he won't tell me anything, he wants to speak to me in person. He said it will take 5 minutes. Text him you are busy as your mother is coming over soon. That way he knows you will have a witness if he shows up and it may deter him coming over today all together. Do not leave your house.
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exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Maybe add in that you will have to talk to him later just to buy time. When is your mother due to arrive?
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2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I have to leave....my call back interview at 1:30.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Should I just ell him to speak with my attorney, or not till he's been served?
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Should I just ell him to speak with my attorney, or not till he's been served? I wouldnt mention the attorney until he has been served. At that point you should enter Plan B. Can't you do as Black raven suggested?
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Sorry, I was out running errands...
I would not tell him to contact your attorney. He will be served soon enough to find out. Do you have any male family members that live nearby?
Much luck on the interview.
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2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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No, no family close by, or friends that can come when I call. Not having support has been the hardest part of this.
I didn't tell him about my lawyer. I simply stated I didn't have time to speak to him today, that he could text me his request, but he refused. I said thank you, and I hope you have a good day. I then went quiet, while he texted non stop. It finally stopped thank goodness, but he said he'd be back tomorrow at 3 after speaking to his attorney.
He said he only needed 5 minutes, and he'd be civil. Ya....sure!
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M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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I didn't tell him about my lawyer. I simply stated I didn't have time to speak to him today, that he could text me his request, but he refused. I said thank you, and I hope you have a good day. I then went quiet, while he texted non stop. It finally stopped thank goodness, but he said he'd be back tomorrow at 3 after speaking to his attorney. Keep all the texts. Did he come over while you were gone? How was the interview?
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exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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No, he didn't come over at all. I had told him I had company.
Interview went great, thank you for asking! The next step he said if they want to hire me is it goes into HR, and then some physical and background checks. He said possibly 2 weeks before I hear anything.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Ys, I am keeping all texts.
M: 47 H: 52
H asked for divorce: 3/31/15
H Moved out: 4/7/15
H Took divorce off the table: 4/17/15
I filed for divorce: 5/18/15
I entered Plan B: 5/21/15
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Nice @ the interview.
When is your mother arriving?
Have you seen the Divorce Petition? My lawyer had to get my approval before filing anything or sending anything to my then stbxWH. You want to make sure the documents don't have an error and cover everything you need them to.
Also, to control the cost of lawyer fees, don't piecemeal issues with her. Most attorneys charge in a minimum increment of 15 min so if you have questions and talk to her by phone don't call for one thing that will take 5 min...use your full 15 min if that is how your agreement is structured...and write down the dates and times you speak to her should you ever need to dispute the billing.
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exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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