My fianc�e and I have almost been together for a year. We both have children from previous relationships. In the past I have been physically, mentally and emotionally abused. Well, I have become very insecure of my relationships over the years. This is my third relationship since I have been 18. I found pictures in his email from a woman he use to talk to before we got together & there where very inappropriate. Those where when we first started dating. & he has been actively sexting two females I have known during our relationship one being his ex. I'm at a loss. I love him and I want this to work I just feel like something is wrong with me. And I'm scared it will just be a never ending issue. My children love him. I don't know which way to turn. He has opened every single account he has and gave me the passwords. Got rid of those girls and changed his phone number. Please help.....
Unfortunately, victims of abuse rarely leave their abuser.
Dr. Harley's advice to Married couples in an abusive relationship, is to separate and take a Minimum of One Year for the abuser to take Specific Anger Management classes, with the other Spouse having full and complete access to the information on how the classes and progress, or lack of progress are going.
Now, you two, Luckily, are Not Married. So, using that One Year Separation for Anger Management will get your head and emotions out of the fire.
He is Not showing the signs of being a keeper, just on That Aspect alone.
Now add in his outside Sexting, and who knows what else or how far other things have gone that you may not even be aware of yet and you have another reason why this is not a sustainable relationship.
Please, please start to value yourself enough to raise your bar higher on what you can and will tolerate in a relationship.
As stated previously, Dating is supposed to be the interview process for Marriage.
What Grade Do You Give Him So Far???
Also, please order Dr. Harley's book, "Buyers, Renters And Freeloaders", as it really will help you in future relationship gradings, analysis and ultimate decisions.
Now, think about what's best for your own Child too.
God Bless You.
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