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I'm trying to have a meeting with the chief. To discuss that possibility.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Last night I heard my wife break down and cry before bed on the VAR. so I k ow prayer is working and she is probably confused as well. I just need my wife to turn the corner and want to work on the relationship.
She still bad mouths me to her friends; on the recorder ; but her breaking down and crying is a sign that she prob feels bad about doing that...
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So this is your opportunity to make her feel better and be there for her. Hoping your boss puts you on day shift!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She is confused, torn and lost. She isn't feeling guilty. She cries because her fantasy affair is falling apart. She doesn't know where to go. That is why you need to present yourself as a safe, happy place to land.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Rodger that!
I will be able to spend a few hours with her tonight; she doesn't know I have range training so I'll be home around 7pm; she doesn't goto bed till 9pm
I'll ask her about her day and keep the conversation focused to her needs
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She's already being defient.
Her- Why are you home? I had training (range), you never where your uniform to the range....I replied yes I do. I then said I already walked the dogs cause she was preparing them. I asked would you like me to walk with out? No I don't want you to walk the dogs with me. I don't need your help with getting them harnessed either.
I said okay be safe.
Fast fed took a shower now she back home - imma try to cook dinner for us.
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She's already being defient.
Her- Why are you home? I had training (range), you never where your uniform to the range....I replied yes I do. I then said I already walked the dogs cause she was preparing them. I asked would you like me to walk with out? No I don't want you to walk the dogs with me. I don't need your help with getting them harnessed either.
I said okay be safe.
Fast fed took a shower now she back home - imma try to cook dinner for us. Great!
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I I could tell she upset; so I said I can tell you are stressed what can I do to help you; she said you could be at work. I said in a nice voice; really now? She said yes. Then I asked about dinner? She said not hungry.
I'm here for you; she then said what is gong on with your lawyer?
I said I don't want to talk about the divorce. She replied well you told me to be honest with my feelings so I am wondering. And I wish you to leave me alone.
Now she went to go make a drink! With alcohol.
I can just keep showing love without being overbearing. And a lot of prayers!
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She locked the bathroom she never does that; she's taking a shower.....
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She keeps wanting to talk about the divorce... I keep deflecting the conversation; and it's making her frustrated.
I'm going to try to sit with her while she watches TV. At least we'll be in the room together and it may spark some conversation
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She keeps wanting to talk about the divorce... I keep deflecting the conversation; and it's making her frustrated. Just tell her you don't know anything. Say you don't know anything and ask if she has heard from her lawyer. I'm going to try to sit with her while she watches TV. At least we'll be in the room together and it may spark some conversation yep!
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I made eggs and turkeys sausage. She had the sausage but not the eggs. She made a bagel with cream cheese and tomato to have with her sausage. So I guess 50% is good. Or a start. 
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I asked her if she would like to watch some walking dead (recorded) she said no you can watch what you want. I said I'd like to watch what you want ( she was watching friends).
She then handed me the remote and went to her bedroom. I asked if she was going to bed; she said no I just want to be left alone. She took her book and her iPad. I put a note in her book awhile ago. Saying you are beautiful with a big happy face. She hasn't gotten to that chapter yet, I can't wait till she does. She's 3 chapters away....:)
She is really annoyed that I am home... I wonder why what plans have I hanged for her?
Or she really is done with our relationship. I refuse to accept the later.
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Of course she thinks she "really is done!" The goal here is to turn that around!
Just keep at it.
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Oh I forgot to say; when I was helping her with making the bed: yes she was a little upset I was helping... But she said I hope you don't get me anything for my birthday - I've told you before I hate my birthday and Mother's Day. (Mother's Day cause she can't have any kids, and this was a dream of hers). I asked if she be willing to share why she hates her birthday but she said don't worry about it.
She said please don't get me anything cause I won't open your card and throw any your present and I don't want you to be upset. Who says those things???
I replied I just treat others how I would like to be treated and I would like to receive something on my bday.
So I will get her a card a scented candle and a gift certificate to a salon.
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It's hard sitting in the other room while she is in her bed room; but I do have to respect her space making her angry won't help the situation.
She watching some TV in her bedroom, I went to go ask her if she wanted some bear claw ice cream, replied no. I said whatcha watching? She said one of my shows. I stood there watched a few seconds and said what's it called. She said; The GIrlfriend Experience.
No wonder we are having problems that's a new show and crap for building relationships....lol
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We just actually worked together to put drops in one of our dogs eyes The eggs are still on the stove in the pan; should I clean them up or allow her to do it since those were her portion. I could put them in a bowl for the dogs as well.
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