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Lots of waywards use something that is clearly true to cover up something you suspect is a lie.
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Bump
Because some of you seem to want to recover with good feelings only.
A Care Bear Stare(tm) doesn't work on your marriage. The program does.
And it begins with learning that WAYWARDS LIE.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Just re-read this again - it is so good to remind yourself every now and then what we are dealing with.
Waywards lie about everything. And they will continue to lie when presented with evidence that any sane person would think would shock them into an admission. The lies just pile up: lies upon lies upon lies. And if they can't think of a lie in answer to your question, they just look at you blankly until you give up.
BW (me) 40 WH, serial cheater, 41 Four children: DS1 8 DS2 7 (from one of WH's previous affairs, lives with me) DS3 6 DD 2 D-day Jan 4 2017 Plan B (first attempt) Feb 21 2017 Plan D Aug 28 2017 Plan B (properly) Aug 31 2017 "If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs - and blaming it on you....or being lied about don't deal in lies..." IF, by Rudyard Kipling https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems-and-poets/poems/detail/46473
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This is why Dr Harley says not to spend time thinking about what a wayward does or says. It makes no sense and will drive you crazy.
Just be sure to protect yourself. For assets that are now in his name, do not expect him to comply with the divorce decree and divide them. Best way to protect yourself is to have a matching set of assets in your own name.
No need to ask how I know this :-(
3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)
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This is why Dr Harley says not to spend time thinking about what a wayward does or says. It makes no sense and will drive you crazy.
Just be sure to protect yourself. For assets that are now in his name, do not expect him to comply with the divorce decree and divide them. Best way to protect yourself is to have a matching set of assets in your own name.
No need to ask how I know this :-( Living Well this is such good advice for all BSs. I am working on getting a court order to freeze our marital assets now.....but it is going to take work to get it enforced across three african countries 
BW (me) 40 WH, serial cheater, 41 Four children: DS1 8 DS2 7 (from one of WH's previous affairs, lives with me) DS3 6 DD 2 D-day Jan 4 2017 Plan B (first attempt) Feb 21 2017 Plan D Aug 28 2017 Plan B (properly) Aug 31 2017 "If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs - and blaming it on you....or being lied about don't deal in lies..." IF, by Rudyard Kipling https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems-and-poets/poems/detail/46473
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