Faith1,<P>I agree with some of the others that I do not think he has a clue what he wants right now. Rememeber he could also be testing you and your Plan A, maybe to get a LB reaction of some sort to possibly make his case more belivable at least to him. I've had these same type of conversations with my W and she hasn't done anything yet. I flat out told her that I was not signing any seperation papers until she agreed to go to counseling with me and the counselor of my choice. That was about 3-4 weeks ago. F1, you still need to hang in there, the fact that he is still on the fence may mean that he is still in contact of some sort. I would hold out and Plan A. <P>I just told a friend, it seems like this has lasted 6 months or more, but in reality only 2 months have gone by. That really isn't that long when you think about it. We have to be encouraged that they will see the light. I hope this helps, please keep us posted.<P>GC

Faith1,<P>I agree with some of the others that I do not think he has a clue what he wants right now. Rememeber he could also be testing you and your Plan A, maybe to get a LB reaction of some sort to possibly make his case more belivable at least to him. I've had these same type of conversations with my W and she hasn't done anything yet. I flat out told her that I was not signing any seperation papers until she agreed to go to counseling with me and the counselor of my choice. That was about 3-4 weeks ago. F1, you still need to hang in there, the fact that he is still on the fence may mean that he is still in contact of some sort. I would hold out and Plan A. <P>I just told a friend, it seems like this has lasted 6 months or more, but in reality only 2 months have gone by. That really isn't that long when you think about it. We have to be encouraged that they will see the light. I hope this helps, please keep us posted.<P>GC

Faith<P>{{{{{{{{{{huge hug}}}}}}}}}}}<P>You sound so "with It"...I know you're probably not feeling with it , but I believe your H will look at your great Plan Aing & really listen to what you said & believe you & take time to consider his actions...<P>H seems to be coming out of the fog..<P>Trying so hard to be positive today...yesterday & this am were major negative times for me<P>My H & I talked about separation & divorce all day. He says he doesn't want it, but he also can't Plan A very well.<P>But I'm failing Plan A also.<P>Good Luck<P>Lisa

You are doing so well, Faith! I didn't handle myself nearly as well when I was in your position....... <P>Just remember to use the time he is spending "thinking it through" wisely. Use it to grow and learn (which it sounds like you are doing an excellent job of). But do it for YOU, and the results will be even more dramatic.<P>BTW, loved the bit about "someone is going to get to take advantage of being married to the best ME ever". Classic and classy, dear. Classic. <P>Take care,<BR>B<P><BR>