I think we will all be right here, waiting with baited breath, on the day she confronts him. We will be all hoping for the best outcome- a stronger Sue who ends up with exactly what she wants in life, whatever it may be.

I'm not worried about him leaving and paying for school. Tuition is all paid for, thanks to Student loans. All in my name, so they are my responsibility. I work full time, evenings, have eversince I started the program. We have 3 kids that need to be taken care of. They are in daycare or school during the day, and H takes care of them at night. There is no one to watch them while I work at night if I was to confront now and he left. So, if he left, I would have to quit school, return to first shift, lose my 2nd shift differnetial, and my job is not secure. I predict within 5-10 years my job will be eliminated. So, that makes it harder for me to find employment, unless I continue my current goal. Also, Nursing pays better. I could support the kids on my check alone. H would pay CS, his work can be considered seasonal at times. He has been layed off since January. He should be back to work any time now. The job line has been up and down for the last couple of weeks. When he was laid off they told him not to expect to be working until Late April or even May. There is no work in his field rigth now. Spring always picks up. We have been really lucky in this aspect, in the 10 years he has been in this field, he really only suffered layoffs for any lenght of time twice.

Hey Sue! I've been really busy and I just stopped in to check on you. I'm happy to see you are getting closer to accomplishing your goal. (finishing your school)

You know, you really really deserve better than your H. Everytime I read your posts, I think she is so mature and she's married to a child. I mean, look at who he choses for an A, someone so totally opposite of you. Still living at home, no kids, no responsibilities. I bet that time with her is carefree, there is probably nothing but air between her ears.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is you are ABOVE all of this. No matter what, you will be the one that can hold your head up high and say you acted as a respectable human being. I know the deception hurts, but once their A see's the light of day they won't be the ones to earn respect of others.

Once my A saw the light of day, I wasn't exactly proud. One thing that particulary bothered me was how I had been with my daughter. I had been alienating her and our relationship was going down hill. I was so mad at myself for that, they are only young once and that time is SOOOOO important. I didn't want her to remember her mom as a cheating liar.

I guess what I am trying to say is I admire you for keeping the right path. You have good things coming to you, it might take some time, but I am confident it will come.

Just popping in, not much time today.

I have to write 3 papers this weekend plus do two shifts at the hospital for preceptoship.

Thanks - I will say more later when I have time

I hadnt posted again knowing just how busy you are, but since you popped in I'll quickly let you know that I think of you every day.
I am getting very excited for you!
Do not worry, we will be here for ya when you have more time!

Thanks - Boy, I will be so glad when things wind down. Now I have 6 jounal entries to write and turn in by Thurday, (maybe 8), and another preceptorship, plus one case study.

As much as I like the weather we have been having, it would be easier to accept all this busy ness (I know, not a real word) If it was not so darn nice. I look out the window and see nice weather, the grass is turning green and I am stuck at a computer writing papers.

Draw a storm on poster board and put it on the window. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

See, men don't listen well, they just come up with solutions off the cuff. Saves them lots of time.

I just keep thinking "Go Sue! Only a month left!!"

Well, then tests, but it's getting shorter.

SS

I hope Sue ( and everyone else) is doing well,
Just in the neighbourhood, thought I would say Hi.

Almost another week down, is time passing more quickly as I get older, or do I just sleep more?

SS

Time is passing more quickly.

I cannot believe that April is 1/2 over. I have too much to do and I need about one more month to accomplish it all.

Hey, are you checking that schedule and making sure you are available for the potluck?? It wouldn't be the same without you there!!

C

Yeah, I will have it figured out by the end of the weekend. Promise.

Almost there, Sue! Still rooting for you in Guam!

I'm still alive and kicking (and not the H).

H has been better lately. If he would have been this good all along, I never would have suspected a thing.

He is trying harder with kids, he is even finding humor in some of my stuff. Like, Okay, guys, I was wrong. Easter sunday, we go out to breakfast, daughter and MIL are with H and I, bil is bring the boys. Somehow, BIL got lost, never made it. He took the boys somewhere else for breakfast. We go home, kids wanted to spend some time with MIL and BIL. We said sure. H decides to go to his moms, I'm trying to get some papers written. I thought it was enternity that they were gone. (i didn't look at the clock) so i'm getting irked that here it is Easter Sunday, and H leaves the kids at his moms. (H went to find a game, never found it). (yes he could have stopped at her house, I don't know). Well, papers are done, and I'm irked that they are gone all day. (well, after H figured out why I was upset. It did not take much figuring since I told him directly) H pointed out that they were only gone 3 hours. Boy, did I feel foolish.

Monday, H is looking on internet, finds an timeshare, he suggests we buy one, and have OW buy out his half. (they bought one together when we were engaged, he didn't tell me about it.). I agree except, right now, we don't have the money, and his half, minus what he owes her, does not leave us with enough to buy this timeshare. We agreed we will look after I finish school. He knows this timeshare is a issue with me. So, maybe he is trying to break free from her? I know he does not want to walk away from this timeshare.

That's it Sue,
Look for good, ignore the bad, at least until you pass the final test and have a good job. I think your on a roll.

I tease you a lot but I care, and I feel you are doing pretty good, or I wouldn't tease so much.

It has been fun playing around on LWFC's potluck thread, but I better leave it alone or people might think I'll show up one of these days, then again, you never know.

SS

Sue, did your neice have the baby??? Been waiting to hear. Missed you at Chocolata's party, thought of you... and had a glass of wine just for you!

SS - So, do you need directions for the bonfire in July? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

C

<small>[ April 27, 2003, 08:14 PM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>

Dear Friend,
Im so sorry to hear of this pain you are experiencing. I know it is torture to be so sure but unable to back your feeling with fact. But sometimes even that does not help unless you go to incredible lenths. In Sept 2000 I found hotel transactions for the previous June and July 2000.I had been typeing an e-mail to a friend earlier that evening while he ws doing a night job and I had decided to wait up for him and get some chores done ,such as our vbills and banking. However,during the time i waw on the computer i had discovered a request from my H to an Agent for Elton John tickets. I knew neither my H nor I could or can stand Elton John.I was aware of one person we both knew who loved him though,it had to be a local woman who H talked to regularly ( Obsessively) on the net. She had said she adored Elton John and had mentioned several concerts she had been too in the past. He came in later at 4am from his job about three hours later then expected. (One suspicious thing about this job was the marked lack of income)I was it appears paying for the affair. The Hotels and dinners whilst i struggled to bearly feed te children and us, and pay the mortgage and other necessary bills. Either My income ewas paying for the hotels and dinners or his part time job was ( the job he took to try to help me out with the burden!!) He lied right into my eyes with the utmost sincerity about the hotels he lied about the salary he lied about many other ridiculos things that could not possibly be beleived by an even half way educated person but such is the character of the person having an affair when they fall. They fall real low and soon all integrity is gone and they do not care who suffers or is humiliated. He lied even when a friend of mine followed and took pics. He said they must be fake " you can do all sorts of stuff on computers these days." So if you have a gut feeling that things do not add up. they probably don't! If you feel she may be having an affair , she may well be,but honestly confronting will not work or help, she will get defencive and even more careful and resentful to you. Sadly you are not only the victim of this sick game but in order to finally stop it you will be forced to not only prove the affair but prove to her beyond any possible doubt or way out tht you know she his having an affair. Cast iron proof and then and only then will she possibly confess. I went though it for over two years and eventually it was the OW that told all....Good luck!!!

<small>[ April 28, 2003, 08:51 PM: Message edited by: DisapointedDana ]</small>

Hi Cerri- I posted on potluck, will also update here

Neice had a boy, I forget how little they are.

Had a busy weekend.

H has been spending more time with me. Actually shows concern for my well being.

We went out Saturday night, Sunday I spend paying bills, adn doing homework. I have to make this quick. I have more homework to do.

I know he still talks to her. How much time they have together does not appear to be much.

We will see what happens. I wish he could get back to work.

What frame of mind is Sue in ?

I expect a full report as soon as you have time.
( which may be June of 2005, but we shouldn't put preasure on someone in the last month of school.)

SS

What mind? - I lost it years ago, going back to school whil raising 3 kids and workin full time confirms that I lost it years ago.

Anyway, preceptorship is done, I have 9 journal entries to write this weekend, and study for the last test so I can graduate on May 14. So close and yet so far.

H called, the dirt I ordered has been delivered. I hope it was enough. We used to have an above ground pool that was put about 2 feet into the ground. So we took it out and are filling it in.

It will be nice to have a full yard. The non working pool came with the house. H is thinking about totally removing the deck, and putting down a patio. I don't know what has gotten into him, but he is really into fixing up the house this year. He wants to start each and every project. I wish he would start one and finish it before the next one. At least he is finally working on the house.

I will probably be scarce over the next couple of weeks. I will update when I can

I will probably be scarce over the next couple of weeks.

I suppose we need to take the "master of understatement" award away from whippit and give it to you this month.

See ya when you get back.

SS