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#685656 03/28/01 12:33 PM
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Just wanted to check in and see if you were doing better.<P>Skipper

#685657 03/28/01 12:34 PM
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Tanya,<P>PLEASE LET US KNOW THAT YOU'RE OKAY!!!<P>You are loved and worthy of that love...<BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

#685658 03/28/01 04:33 PM
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Just checking in too and bringing this up to the top, where are you TL?

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Tanya,<P><BR> I know you are in the pit of hell right now.I wouldnt wish this on anyone.Perhaps it is a good thing that D goes to live over there for a while. Let him deal with a teen ager ,this maybe what it takes to lift fog a little.<BR> I have dealt with my anger by forgiving,not once ,but over and over again.<BR> I dont think you should "move on." If you go to Prayers on MB there are several of us that are standing for our marriages.You can find encouragement there.<P><BR> Student,you are so right about "campfire"!!!!!<BR> PS He (thinks) he wants his new future wife,he will always love you,it is just buried now.

#685660 03/28/01 07:10 PM
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Hi TL,<P>I'm hoping you're feeling a bit better today. Keep hanging on, even if just by your fingertips. You WILL get through this. We will help you get through this. We will ALWAYS be here for you, no matter what.<P>Please let us know how you are<P>love and hugs<P>Jo

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Alright TL,<P>Now you have me worried too! Where in the heck are you? Please let us now? That's an order [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] Praying for you and yours....<P>------------------<BR><B>God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage to change the things I can...And the wisdom to know the difference.</B><P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

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Hi,<BR>I know how you are feeling believe me. I was married for 17 years, almost half of my life. <BR>My X is now remarried and I just today signed a quit claim deed of the house over to them. My house that I loved. All of my flowers and plants I carefully took care of the past 6 yrs are now not mine. They are doing some remodeling now, remodeling that we were going to do. God, I hate him for this!!!!!!!!! Don't get me wrong I'm actually pretty happy right now. Broke but happy. I just miss my home and the security it brought. As for my X I do miss him some but am actually a happier person without all of the stresses he brought to my life. But that is for another thread. <BR>Just know that there are alot of us here who can sympathise with you.<P>Jill

#685663 03/28/01 11:19 PM
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TL,<BR>Your posts seem to pull me out of lurkdom. I've thought about you all day. I actually logged on several times at work to see if you had responded. <P>Please let us know that you are okay, or at least that you are reading this if you don't feel "okay". <P>My thoughts and prayers are with you. Many people here care about you. <BR>

#685664 03/29/01 02:46 PM
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**sigh** <P>I am very worried about you, Tanya.<P>Sending love and good wishes...<P>{and yes, just bringing this back up so that when/if Tanya happens by, she knows we care!}<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

#685665 03/29/01 09:59 PM
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TL,<P>where are you?<P>Please let us know that you're ok. We all care about you so much. You WILL get through this, we will make sure you do.<P>love and hugs<P>Jo

#685666 03/30/01 08:51 AM
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Dear Tanya,<BR>i understand you completely. My story is exact like yours, except formal divorce (Ow 5 months in our house with older D, YD and me moved into apartment):Marriage lasted 20 years and affair 1.5years, <BR>I tried with suicid and feeled responsible for OD's choice to live with H and OW, but now after almost a year of such life (with my YD in the apartment) I am aware that neither OD nor H are as happy like they want others to think. <BR>Just opposite now I have better relationship with OD than ever before (she is 18.5)<BR>Don't harm yourself, find proffesional help, talk to friends, vent here, the pain stays but it diminishes with time passing. There are/will be a lot of hard days but you'll manage through. I succeeded with a help from special people her, my MB friends.<BR>I am not writing a lot these days but I am lurking all the time. Please let us see you are better.<BR>Please write to us, you'll be feeling better believe me and others.<P>((((((((((((((Tanya))))))))))))))))

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HI Tired Lady,<BR> Just a little hope here.... My W bought a house with OM but almost EVERYTHING in it was mine (Ours) MY TV,SILVERWARE, DISHS, LAMPS, PAINTINGS, EVEN MY DOG!! Not to mention my WIFE!! <BR> Well, our Son and his W moved in and THAT was the begining of the END!! <BR> All situations are different BUT isn't it the things that ARE the same that keep us "Going" knowing that this is "fog" and that 97% of ALL affairs END..SOMEHOW !! It ain't over till it's OVER [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom and PRAYER is why!!"

#685668 03/31/01 04:16 AM
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Tanya,<P>I'm very worried. Can you please let us know you are ok.<P>Thinking of you, loving you, and pulling you through this. You WILL make it.<P>love and hugs<P>Jo

#685669 03/31/01 09:54 AM
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Hi,<P>I am gonna be gone a few days... and I'm just asking any/all who are around to keep this thread to the top!<P>Tanya and I used to email frequently, and one day she'd just kinda "disappear" for awhile -- but never with an remark that made me worry about her life -- like this time on this thread. And... I haven't heard from her on my email either... so... please keep this up as much as possible.<P><B>Tanya</B>, you are loved. Please let us know you're okay.<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

#685670 04/01/01 08:09 AM
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just checking.........

#685671 04/01/01 09:56 AM
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Isn't there someone who replied on this thread who knows her personally, can that person check on her and let us know she is ok?

#685672 04/01/01 10:19 AM
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It sure seemed that there was someone who read this thread who was in contact with Exhausted Man and/or Mia. Maybe they could reply - even if they had to do so under a new screen name.

#685673 04/01/01 11:24 AM
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Dear TL,<P>There are a lot of persons out here worried about you. I have checked out that you are in my area. I am going to post my phone number here (if that is ok), to make sure you are ok and if you need to talk. <P>ph: (408) 923-3092 You can ask for Orchid. <P>Please call. If anyone else knows anything, it is ok to call also. I don't have an answering machine at this number so keep trying (it is my second phone line). <P>L.

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up to the top again.<P>TL, just let us know you're ok. We're worried, and we care about you so much. We will help you get through this. You WILL get through it.<P>hugs and love<P>Jo

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Dear TL,<P>You & I have never really chatted or met. I have been thinking about you and would like to make myself available it that is ok with you. <P>Just checking up to see if you can either call me or post a response. We want to know how you are doing. <P>L.<BR>

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