Yes, it is hard to find support for these manipulative people. Your have to find the strength from the knowledge that you know the truth, and that people like that eventually don't have many friends, and that the karma from living a life of deception and manipulation comes home to haunt them later in life, when their so called friends grow up.<p>Otherwise, he will live in this pit of self deception forever, and do you want to live with that?<p>my X gives my kids a false self esteem by putting everyone down. . . not by achievement, not through struggle, but the deception of self worth by finding something wrong with others. . . . like me.
when self esteem is attempted to be gained this way, the person eventually confuses his perception and reality, and then one lives a shallow life, one of repetition, devoid of growth and true happiness.<p>When my 13 yo struggled and struggled, and finally made the grade, he was ecstatic, came over to me and hugged me and cried he was so happy. That is the only way to inner happiness and peace. so continue the struggle, don't give up. . . <p>its more like a rote existance, going through the motions everyday until they retire with the only plans of going to the bar every night. . . .
my X loves to hang out with these people, her best friend during my last six months was a woman that stole a husband away from one of her best friends, because she was lonely. they worked together, were lifelong friends, these four couples, and she seduced one of them. . . this is no life to live. . . these are people who live in a cartoon life. . .<p>only a couple of one of my friends have asked
me what happened, and because X is a yacker, she doesn't even shut up in movies. . . she is trying to convince the world that her perception of reality is correct. . . and that everyone should adopt it, including the kids. . . . [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>so i don't worry about it, because these people fail at future relationships because they haven't learned the lessons of truth and responsibility. My Xinlaws, who lived like i just described my X, do little with their lives except rote existance. . . . year after year, day after day. . . and they retired early to do this. meanwhile my father was just forced to retire at age 78, is very active in round dancing, square dancing, chartering and sailing boats here and in the caribbean. . . <p>live your life, not other's expectations. . . .<p>good luck<p>wiftty<p>[ February 05, 2002: Message edited by: WhenIfindthetime ]</p>
