All right. Will be in court on wed. And I get this tidbit of info from a girlfriend back home and her fiancee...

My old home, gorgeous one on a golf course back in TN, the one we moved into when we married was on hold. Was not sure if I would move home and back into house or if it would be sold. But Jethro has done it again. It is in both of our names and last month Jethro tried to GET ME TO SIGN OVER THE HOME TO THE OUTLAWS..Said it was because "he has other lawsuits against him".

Well he's also claimed he's broke. That's another huge lie.

And now my buddy and her fiancee (both of them dear to me)drove by it. She is a realtor and has been checking on it to make sure everything is in good condition in case I want to move back in. And she and he go by yesterday and THERE ARE THREE CARS IN THE DRIVWAY AND FURNITURE IN THE HOUSE. Either one of Jethro's other women is living there or he's renting it out. WITHOUT MY CONSENT OR PERMISSION.

The mortgage on that home monthly is 2300. Much nicer than the home I am in and renting ok? There is also the possibility that the people living there could be HIS SISTER AND BROTHER IN LAW AND THEIR BROOD. She always liked my house but unfortunately couldn't afford it b/c she was always getting pregnant when they had no money. They are another whole story but we can chalk up their lives to being RAISED BY THE OUTLAWS/ENABLERS. How can you expect success if you are poor examples to your kids? It takes alot for kids to overcome that kind of parents but some fortunately do. Jethro and Jethrene did not.

My buddy calls me and is damn mad. I am phoning the neighbors to find out who's living IN MY HOUSE! I feel like mama bear in the three bears. And IF IT IS JETHRENE, I WILL KICK HER COUNTRY STUPID @SS outta my home.

The lawyers were totally dumbfounded at this revelation and this is going to be huge on wednesday. So is Jethro pocketing the 2300 per month? He has to get that much to rent it out. Hey, if Jethrene is the tenant and she's not paying the 2300 I will have her evicted because this ain't no freakin' charity drive.

I am sorry but NO MORE OUTLAWS! No more lies from him. The warrant for his arrest will go out on wednesday if he doesn't pay. And the judge is gonna love this new one.

AM SO MAD I COULD SCREAM...I THINK I WILL...ARGGGGGGGGGGH!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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NotPeachy, I can't believe this! (Well, actually I do because I believe you) Just when you thought he couldn't get any more STOOPIT! I'm flabbergasted! I can imagine how YOU feel. I'm sorry he is doing this to you. NotPeachy, he has not only made your life (and that of your dear son) a living hell, he continues to make it a ROYAL SOAP OPERA. Forget about 'All My Children' or 'General Hospital' - what he does makes those shows pale by comparison.
I hope he DOES go to jail - he more than deserves it!!
Here's a special prayer for you, Peachy.
"Lord, please take care of Peachy and her precious son. They have been thru so much, so much more that they just don't deserve. Hold them under your enfolding Wings and comfort them. Grant them justice and meet their needs: financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Surround them with true friends who care and who will encourage them. Heal their hurts and bind up their wounds. In Jesus Name, Amen."
Harold
May the Lord begin answering this prayer tonight is my hope for you, Peachy.

Peachy,

Unbelievable, unbearable, unpardonable, underhanded, underminded, unminded, unbalanced, so terribly unfair!

You have every right to be good and angry!!!

As crazy is it is, it's all part of Jethro's sick game. He wants you to find this out, he wants you to go ballistic, he wants to keep you in his game and boxing ring. He's keeps raising the ropes higher and higher on the ring to box you in tighter so you will respond to him. Get crazy back with kinds of emotions.

He is using all the emotional and pyschological maniupulations artillery to break you down. Sounds like too, he has read the book the "Art of War" and now declared an emotional war on you, doing his best to dupe you.

Deflect him, avert him, detach, disenage, disconnect, retreat, but by all means keep out of the "emotional quagmire" where he wants you. No way hose.

Step of out of the ring, step out of the game, don't get in the ring with him. He's baiting you, he' knows all your buttons are.

He wants to hurt you deeper, harder and now it's time to try to change your buttons altogether. He knows you need monies, security, home, stablity and he is punishing you severly for breaking his rules. He's outraged that you have taken him to court. Remember, he doesn't see women as human beings but as his objects and prey. He prides himself on being a swinging predator. No doubt it views, You and your son sadly are his object, possesions.

For what it worth, remember that underneath all the puffed up exterior, rage, hormones, machoism he is a terrified, frightened little boy.

As my STBX famous words to me were he was going to crush me. Whoah, and did he mean it with a vengence.

He really needs your help honey to help him get out of his own ring match, his game, and war of trying to teach you THAT HE IS THE BOSS OVER YOU.

His game is out of control, and he knows he himself can't stop it. Although what he really needs is a a good proverbial kick in the behind, but we won't go there.

Stay strong, stay calm, step out of the emotions, step out of the ring of emotional craziness, go around the ring and bring all your emotional hurts here, keep venting all night long if you have too.

We are all here for you and so understand.

Stay armed with the facts mamam,just keep recording them and handing them over. When speaking to him have a calm, soft voice and if you can kind. No emotions. When you see him, look confidently in his eyes, no emotion, no nothing. Project only white and black thinking. Try to keep it brief, calm. Nothing else.

Create a new dance, lighter, faster steps outside the ring.

He is the land of OZ where nothing makes senses, everything shifts all the time, rules shift without out warning.

He has brought you to OZ for long time, through his chaos. He is like a tornado, with his crazymaking. He is so out of control, blames you. Remember you are Dorothy from Kansas (represetative from the real world) are the (normal one, sane one, he is not. ). Hang tight you are almost at the Emerald city.

The Emerald city represents the end of the trip for Dorothy. You are almost at the Emerald city. Dorothies who are the normals ones are also the ones ,who have the ability to get back to Kansas, normalcy. He cannot with outside intervention.

Remember the key is confidence, letting your emotions flow and three clicks on your heels gets you back to Kansas, home sweet home. Watch for those darn flyin monkeys- (ho's).

With out the emotions, GOD work through you, with you, for you.

I am awed at God at He worked with my internal rage today.

I sat down and wrote a big vent letter to my STBX of what I really thought of him and then calmed down. Released all the emotions. I will delete the letter of course. 5 minutes later the phone rings, my son answers,says its his dad on the phone and wants to speak to me. Last person voice on the planet I want to hear.

I answer softly politely he asks his question, if his income statement arrived here. Taxes are due tomorrow. I said no.

There was no reason for him to call me. Just a radom manipulation button push and pull me into back in to his game. I don't want to play. He knew he was to send all the paper work of his income, assests, the condo, mysterious condo's, etc, sent over a month ago to my laywers. He wants me to make my usual emotional big fuss, play tag. Stalling, stalling his guilt. Why I have been so quiet to diffuse him, cool him down.

I listen, and say no then politely hand the phone over to my stunned son. My son couldn't belive my detached reaction. Wow God helped me get through the day.

Actually, I am in such an emotional storm too, and wanted to write a huge honking vent here to day his delays. But your more in need at the moment and thankyou for sharing your heart as you are expressing for me what I am so bottled up about. I am resolved to keep out his ring, out his game. He bores me, makes me ill.

I am praying for him, and the HO'S. Pray for blessing for them all. Now that isn't me at all.

Walk strong babe, keep riding the waves and wind like you are. I am so sorry that you found out this horrible news about your home, it hurts, hurts, hurts, so deeply.

Justice will prevail--Let all keeping praying cause were in this together!

Hi all,

I spoke with Peach tonight and as you may have guessed, all of the latest antics by Jethro have her very very upset and worn out. Still she has her wits about her and while nursing herself back to good health, she is now resting up a bit.

So she has asked me to tell write a short post letting U 'all know that she will try to post the latest saga tomorrow.

Jethro appears to be doing his best at being the biggest challenge she has ever had to encounter. She certainly doesn't need more drama in her life but she seems to be creating 1 non-scene after another in Jethro's eyes. She may tell of his latest attack on her character about an incident that he claims happened with her even though she was on the other side of town at the time.

Ahh.... the fog distorts soo much even in the brain.

She is requesting prayers of support for her and her little one.

Thanks,
L.

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Just some thoughts...

First, you could all by yourself file bankrupcy based on his statements of not having money. It'd be on your record for 7 years... but it would force a lot of disclosure as to what assets there actually are... and even force court-ordered selling of those assets to pay of debtors and whatnot.

Secondly, have you thought initiating a civil lawsuit against him? You must have access to a lawyer somewhere in your family or friends that would go for a 30% stake of the overall settlement or do it probono. Try talking to your current lawyer about it... pay them hourly for the "normal" divorce stuff, but offer all this other stuff up as gravy.

Thirdly, why aren't you living in that house? If it's yours... move back in... force J to keep paying for it and cut your living expenses in half. If he won't pay, it'll foreclose on both of you... which will hurt both of you credit-wise... but c'mon, your credit can be restored with time and you can use that as a weapon against him.

Fourthly, if you're on the house as a joint... why not take up some of home equity loans against the house to cover your expenses? Do whatever you can to force liens against the property that incur joint debt.

Fifthly, you're trying to play fair in a game J is stacking against you. If your lawyer won't play against J, you may need a new lawyer. Just a thought.

Sixthly, have you looked into advocacy programs in your area? Y'know, groups that support people in your situation? There have to be. Check 'em out. Generate some publicity. Get some clout on your side. Right now you're paying for clout... and in a dollar-based clout match, J is going to win.

Lastly, no one can stop you from moving into your own house. Not even J. Kick the others out... and then move in. I'm shocked you aren't living there now. For a woman, the residence and child custody/support are the 2 biggest leverages they have... short of driving things into bankrupcy. Get back in. Don't let your lawyer tell you otherwise. Go over one day with your lawyer and some movers, call the cops, report trespassers/burglars/squatters, and have the police order them out. Go in with your lawyer and wait while they phone J. While waiting, have the movers start moving stuff out onto the lawn.

Get vicious woman. This isn't a polite/nice kind of battle. You're stronger than this.

Thanks friends. Bless your for your prayers and somehow, yes, I have NOT 1)had any contact with Jethro whatsoever 2)been in constant contact with my attorneys 3)NOT phoned Jethrene and her squatting husband.

By God's grace I have kept my cool.

I KNOW IT HAD TO BE BECAUSE YOU GUYS KEPT PRAYING.

When you are at the end of the rope, when you can't emotionally stand is when God carries you...see Lost Husband? I understand that concept. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

God carried me and even sent a few blessings my way, huge ones despite the ugliness revealed from Jethro's family.

I am first going to bring you guys up to date and tell you what really happened and what I informed attny's of. They are really mad and are going after his jugular tomorrow and even are GOING TO BRING BEFORE THE JUDGE THAT I SHOULD BE ABLE TO LIVE WHERE I WANT TO...Better watch out Jethro, Jed, Granny and JEthrene...

Here are my emails to attny's:

I am sorry to send this but he is now working in conjunction with his parents, m/m JEthro to illegally transfer property and committing fraud/alleged fraud against me.

Please refer to the documents sent in february from J. It was a downloaded file regarding how he was pressuring me to transfer my name (joint held property on address and approx. value 260-270k) and my ownership of that property to his parents. J claimed that a judgement was issued against him (was) and that I had to hurry and sign this document to keep from losing the house. Said that we would totally lose the house and the people who won the lawsuit would take it or their attorneys would seize my property. I almost signed as it frightened me and Bo advised me not to. This is the background info regarding his extreme pressuring me (Jethro) to sign these papers. He hounded me about this for several days until I let him know I would not be signing them as it was not legally in my best interest. That home was owned from march of 1996 and has equity. When I filed for divorce the first time in 2001, I attempted over the Christmas holidays to return to that home, my family home to raise my son there and Jethro did not permit me to do so and promised a huge legal war if I did. I only stayed at that time b/c the divorce would have to take place in GA and there were laws regarding where a child could reside during divorce/state line issues.

Two days ago, my friend Andrea who is a realtor, along with her fiancee and another friend of mine drove by my property in (nice golf course subdivision there) to check on the property and make sure it is in good working order. ( Andrea had also informed me that the earlier disputes regarding the homeowner's association and the golf course had been resolved and that the home and the subdivision would be much more marketable now due to that. My home had been previously on the market with another realtor. )

Andrea drove into the cul de sac and saw three cars in my driveway. She pulled in and looked through the large arched window and saw (tacky) furniture in my home. Immediatley it was concluded that someone was occupying my home and paying rent to Jethro. I have never been notified of such business occurring nor WAS MY CONSENT EVER SAUGHT in this transaction. I would have flatly denied as I am unsure of legally and personally what to do with that home.

Andrea phoned my sister immediately as I was working and my sister called asap. Last evening I called directory assistance in TN and on a hunch asked for theaddress and phone number for m/m Jethrene. They are the sister and brother in law of Jethro and the daughter of Jed Clampett. His sister and brother in law had moved to Memphis a few years ago and were living in another much more modest property also leasing in Memphis. I was utterly shocked and reviled when the operator disclosed that the Jethrene Clampett's were occupying my home and publicly listing THEIR address as x, Cordova TN. Never ever would I have given them permission to live in my home. I am not on good terms with them (his sister has made NO attempt to speak to me whatsoever since filing for divorce last Jan. with her brother) and have other concerns as to why I would NOT want them to occupy my home ever.

After discovering the sister in law and bro in law's were occpying my home without my permission whatsoever, I phoned my neighbors who due to being forced to living across the street from this family wish to remain anonymous. They said that the Clampett family had moved into my property APPROXIMATELY TWO MONTHS AGO which would COINCIDE with the time Jethro was placing extreme pressure on me to sign my property over to his parents. Also the neighbors noted that they had removed one tree from my front yard (it died--very nice tree) and had just tossed it into the street and it has remained there for over a month and they were not happy with it as it is an eyesore. Also they complained that the yard was a bit of a mess and not at all becoming to such a nice neighborhood.

A few months back, Jethro alluded to the fact that his brother in law, Bubba Clampett had been going over to the home and cutting the grass. However the neighbors said that until that family moved into my home, the yard always looked poorly.

It is my firm belief that Jethro was working along with Jed and his mom to defraud me. I believe that their intent was to illegally obtain ownership of this home and either transfer it to Bubba and Jethrene Clampett or to give them a place to live. I know that Bubba and Jethrene could NOT AFFORD TO LIVE IN MY HOME NOR PROBABLY BE ABLE TO QUALIFY FOR SUCH A HOME LOAN as per their recent financial history. But they could be "given" the home even if they did not qualify if the Clampett parents were the owners of the property. I also believe that JEthro did this as to prevent me from obtaining any monies or equity in the home.

In the contract that he sent to me and is in your possession, it clearly states that Mr. and Mrs. Jed Clampett would DIVIDE THE MONIES MADE FROM THE SALE OF THE HOME WITH ME AND Jethro. However, if they sold this home at their discretion to their daughter and son in law, they could SELL IT FOR ANY AMOUNT INCLUDING $1. I believe this is tantamount to a coup de tat. With the entire Clampett family working in conjunction with one another to completely defraud me of a home worth between 260,000 and 270,000. This would be just the kind of shady deal I would now expect from such people as the Clampetts.

It is also my conclusion that the elder Clampetts are working in collusion with Jethro to hide monies and assets from me possibly using the Clampett LLC entity named on the contract or in another name. The Clampett LLC is located in LA.

I also was made aware that Jethro TRANSFERRED OWNERSHIP OF THE JOINT MARITAL PROPERTY VALUING APPROXIMATELY $700-800k to M/M Jed Clampett AND THEIR ENTITY LAST MONTH. Mr. and Mrs. clampett "claim" it is their new residence, however I know that legally their residence is recognized as , TN 38052. There is over 100k in equity in that home and it is joing marital property. Jethro and I built that home and he deliberately excluded my name off of the property as when I moved in my new marital home, he was having an extramarital affair with Ms. Monkeyho , of Cordova TN. I lived with my son in the family home on Brixton Place for 9 months. It is marital property under both GA and TN law. ALSO IT SHOULD BE MADE KNOWN THAT Mr. and Mrs. Clampett ARE SALES REPRESENTATIVES WORKING FOR Jethro and sell the investment products with his company and are employees/agents. Basically, Jethro signs their checks and this also confirms their reciprocal situation with regards to income and money exchanges. This part is extremely important as it demonstrates my theory.

This type of behavior with the entire Clampett family is not unusual as they look after themselves. Previously after Bubba and JEthrene dropped out of college and married, the Clampett parents built a home for Bubba and Jethrene and allowed them to move into that home behind their main home. Bubba and Jethrene have been leasing homes and to my knowledge have NEVER purchased their own home despite being married for over a decade.

I have never experienced such deceit as I have experienced in the last three years. It was always my hope that Mr. and Mrs. Jed Clampett would work to be a positive influence in their son's life instead of working in collusion with him to enable his extremely negative and destructive behaviors. However, as recently as the day before Easter it was painfully apparent to me that they were in fact truly enabling his behavior as MR. and Mrs. Clampett brought to their grandson's easter egg hunt at a church and at school, the child of Ms. Family Values, Jethro's new live in mistress.

The intent and motives are clear. The transactions have been made. There is something very sinister and illegal going on between the elder Clampetts and Jethro and also possibly with Bubba and Jethrenealthough we believe that Bubba and his wife Jethrene may feign ignorance of their involvement.

Please immediately address this horrid situation and help me reclaim my assets/investments as I only want to expediently end this divorce and give my son and I a decent future and nest egg to begin upon.

Personally, I believe all the Clampetts belong in jail for their crimes and I wish all monies to be seized from them as I also believe them to be hiding moneterial assets as well as squandering and illegally obtaining my property. The three of them, possibly all five of them should be wearing orange.

Also, I am offered an incredible job opportunity with Pharmaceuticals in Orlando Florida. It would be the most incredible opportunity and I am very interested in it. The base would be between 60 and 70k with low commisisons being mid 20k and upper bonus should I be able to reach it approximately mid 40k per year. It is with a very respectable nuclear medicine pharmaceutical corporation and a very stable company as well.
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Oh, last paragraph is the HUGE PRAISE! I AM MEETING WITH THE US SALES DIRECTOR TOMORROW EVENING TO DISCUSS MY FUTURE WITH THAT COMPANY! I ALSO HAVE PHONE INTERVIEW W/ANOTHER PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANY ON FRIDAY!
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Only other concern with that job was the custody issue which ironically was discussed today after I sent this email to my attny's.

Turns out, Jethro and his new attorney sent A SETTLEMENT OFFER to my lead attorney. They told me it is all right but it is a starting point and that they think I may be able to settle. However, Jethro is not being good about my having primary custody and living where I want. We won't stand for that as I should be able to live wherever I want...Whether it's back home in TN or in FL or wherever.

And the house issue will be brought before the judge's attention tomorrow. And will be dealt with separately. Attorneys are angrier than hell and are going to fight to get it back. They say we have to take things one trial at a time.

And tomorrow's trial is about his NONCOMPLIANCE OF THE CONTEMPT RULING. IF he's not there, warrant will probably be issued for his arrest if he doesn't pay 100% of the amount agreed upon and the beginning of the month is coming soon too...

So here's my response to attorneys on how we can ensure my residence as anywhere with son living with me...
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Jethro's business is in serious question with regard if he will ever be able to sell his product in GA. Presently he is working out of state in SC and in CA and other states attempting to sell the viaticals where they are not made illegal/or issues a cease and desist order.

Jethro is requesting from me something that is not fair or valid as he has to seek work out of state. Also, I am not requesting any distance limitations on Jethro either as I am hoping he will always want to be a part of his son's life and would not deny him that right but what he is asking is not a two way street and has to be resolved immediately.

I am not from GA. My family is from TN near Memphis. I was moved here under false pretenses because Jethro was actively having a long term affair with Ms. Monkeyho. Living here has never been my wish and I have been basically making the best go of it I can here in GA. I dearly miss my family, friends back home and also want the chance to start life over with my son. This is not our fault that this divorce occurred. It is the FAULT OF JETHRO. His adulterous choices and cruel abuse is what caused this divorce.

Jethro presently HAS MY SON OUT OF STATE WITH HIM IN SC ON VISITATION. He is asking something of me THAT HE HIMSELF IS NOT WILLING TO DO. And this is important.

Ultimately, I want to raise my son one day totally independent from Jethro as he has done everything he can to make me miserable and has hurt me so deeply that I could probably not ever convey with words appropriate.

Kindest Regards,

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And Lyxa, I see your points. They are good ones and will be dealt with and seriously considered after tomorrow trial. Thanks buddy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

What I am doing now? I am praying for clarity in separating the isues and dealing with them. I will take the trial as one step tomorrow and the next legal step to be securing my custody and residence of choice. Thirdly I will be then seeking to settle the issue regarding the Clampett family attempting to defraud me. And fourthly, I am going to get a damn good settlement either by trial or by negotiation.

And the other stuff? Am going to secure job. Great new job. Am actively doing that. Praying for clarity here as my ultimate goal is to be completely financially independent of Jethro. He will pay child support and well. But I want to end any dependence asap and as soon as I am financially able. Trust me, I don't want his dirty money.

There's alot on my plate but God's given me new hope for the future despite the darkness of today.

Thanks.

I will check in later. I have LOTS TO PREPARE TONIGHT

((((((((((((((Peach))))))))))))))

{{{{{Peachy}}}}}

Stay strong for your court date, fall apart later.
May God bless you and your son.

Prayers please!

Court will be 1:30 pm est.

Interview will be 7:30 pm est.

This is a very long day. I am in good spirits. Cleaning house, went to tan, got a nice leather portfolio for my resume and info and spoke w/the marketing director at 9 am today. He is very nice and we get along well. He said "we need to see just where exactly I can fit you with this company. I will explain to you everything you need to know about company, it's history, it's global markets, etc. You may find that you'll love it with company. Mrs. X, the company's recruiter says the highest compliments about you that you're very professional, optimistic, well spoken and very persistent! That's exactly what we need right now with company x!"

Oh, and the guy grew up IN MEMPHIS! So we have alot to talk about. He said that "it's casual and I should just concentrate on getting to know him and about the company and decide WHAT AND WHERE I WANT TO BE..."

This is so huge. Pray. Pray hard. I ultimately know it may be best to be here in GA, but I also have desire to be away from Jethro and all the path of destruction he's created. A human tornado, or EARTHQUAKE...lol...

Hotlanta and Alabama got a 4.9 earthquake at 5 am on monday. It was wild! My dog woke me up whining and next thing I know the whole house is moving. I thought a plane was going to crash into our subdivision or something. WAs that loud and rumbly. According to our paper, seems like all of No. Atlanta thought planes were crashing or helicopters or something.

Just like Job, I said to God as I got outta bed and took the dog and ran downstairs and out the door--why me? Ok...now a plane is going to hit my house? What next. Oh well,...It wasn't a plane but an earthquake.

God's trying to make me lighten up a bit or so it seems. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

After my comment to God, I laughed and I think He knew it to. Sometimes God is funny. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You know that you and that precious boy are in our prayers out here in never never land.

With all the events you have today I simply remind you "YOU GO GURL!!!!!!". Today is a day for you to shine all around. At times it may be rough but that's when you whisper to yourself "For is God is for me then who can be against me." and as you reminded me the other day "Even the good shall be made to suffer for a while". I pray that your time of suffering is coming to an end and that He shall shield you under his mighty wings until the storm passes.

Hugs, thoughts, & prayers

Peachy? Any word from court? What happened?

-AD

Peach,

I talked to Orchid last night and she said that you were still sick, so I hope that you are feeling better.

How did the interview go yesterday?

Indy

Court went fine. JEthro is not behind bars as his new attorney struck an 11th hour deal with us about ten min. before we went before the judge again. Jethro will pay 1/2 of the back owed amount plus the amount owed this mo. by the seventh, or else we will be back in front of the judge on the 7th.

Judge granted a continuance of this issue should Jethro pull another stunt. But this way, JEthro thinks he's won. He hasn't. But it is always sometimes beneficial to let a sociopath think, note I say 'THINK" they are in control. He is easier to deal with.

And the new attorney is HIS PARTY BUDDY! ROTFLMAO!

He is about 25 years old (same age as Ms. Family Values) and is NOT EVEN A DIVORCE ATTORNEY. He's A CRIMINAL DEFENSE ATTORNEY...(see, JEthro already needs him). He had sticky-up hair like Jethro and his suit wasn't pressed; very wrinkly and he had a five o clock shadow. Not very becoming to the judge down yonder in Mayberry.

Turns out the firm that J's attorney works for was the firm who worked on the famous "Gold Club" case about the huge strip club alleged with rackettering, mob stuff and prostitution...

The guy actually kinda checked me out. Looked wierd at me like I was supposed to be according to Jethro, some hideous monster and I wasn't. Wore a cute leopard skirt and shirt with a brown cardigan around the neck hanging...Very cute for court.

He is Jethro's friend and hasn't even read through the whole case file btw. He is defending his friend and doesn't know the world of crap he's in.

However...Jethro seems to be listening to his party buddy...I shall dub him "Cousin Shorty, Esq." as that's another b. hillbillies character and the lawyer is very short.

We let him know, Cousin Shorty, that there have been some extremely shady transactions between Jethro and the Clampetts and that we aren't happy at all and are going to fully investigate it. I won't post about it yet, but we have a good plan.

And the interview went awesome! I spent two hours talking to the us manager and the so. states manager. They ended with "Now, Peachy...We just want you now to take some time out and think about where YOU want to be with us...Do you want Augusta (GA) or Orlando/Tampa?" They said there's a twenty to thirty percent chance Atlanta may open up.

We really hit it off well and they definitely believe I can do the job. Nice perks. However, base is a tiny bit lower than the recruiter said it would be. About 55 to 50 and bonus is about twenty. Can more than double bonus if I exceed my sales levels considerably. And there are good trips to be won, good retirement plans, educational savings plans and matching funds for it, and company car, and expense account, and all travel and misc. Yearly sales trips to be taken (very nice places). Also, they made it clear that they totally understood the position I am in. That they have a rep in Norfolk VA who went off to their training program last year and when she was gone for the week, her H moved her stuff out of the house and the kids' stuff to her parents' house and moved the mistress in the family home and served her with D papers...Geez. Does Jethro have another cousin I haven't met yet? They said they would be as understanding as possible and that I COULD WORK FROM HOME and that is good if son is sick..Can schedule appt's on other times or do work from home when he's under the weather. Also good because I can work around son's schedule. Like games, school events, etc. The us sales director said he was a coach for all his kids teams and it never got in the way of his job. That they worked together nicely.

Very very nice people. In fact, us director graduated from MY College! His mom was even an alumni of the very same sorority as me.

They commented that I looked very nice and was an excellent candidate. They are just wanting me to decide what I want to do and to get with attorneys again.

Augusta may be a good choice for me. About 500k people in metro area. Second largest city in GA. I would have to travel two days a month to Savannah (love that place) also. They said I could probably schedule that when son is on visitation with dad for weekend. Do thursday and friday trip once a month. Plus it will be a nice getaway for me. Skidaway island beach is nearby too. I could be one happy peach.

And the chance for me to have access to two large cities. There's bound to somehow in this great land a decent guy one day. I will be broadening my horizons and this is a good way to do so.

Also, there's the Tampa/Orlando thing. Very beautiful area but 8 hours away, I looked at real estate tonight on computer. Celebration florida is very nice. Gorgeous picket fence community designed by Disney. So what if I am a single mom? I could still buy my picket fence.lol!

Thanks for your prayers sooooo much. The settlement agreement that Jethro proposed is not where I want it. But ti is a starting point. He doesn't want to go to court w/this judge at all.

I bought some cute patio lights at Target and some cute floating candles. Son and I are going to have our little own deck party tonight...We will have sprite slushies and a popsicle..(we are getting over strep and this will make throats feel nice). I also have new very nice boombox/compact stereo and we will listen to Harry Potter while we have our party.

Peace is here for now. But I know that change is rapidly coming. I will be divorced very soon. I may be moving very soon. And I don't want to really uproot our son, but we can have a nice life as long as we are there for each other and our pets are there too.

Oh, I have a phone interview tomorrow with a drug co. for a position here in Atlanta. We'll see how that goes.

I am getting confused. I have other jobs I am also applying for and feel like I am torn. But thus is the plight of the woman forging ahead.

I just want to get independent on my own. Make Jethro eat his words. Eat his words about how "I'd become a leech" and how "I was just a loser" and all that. In two years I went from housewife to making 50k to being prez of my state med tech society to now hopefully advancing even more.

He he he. He can always get more women. He can try to find one better than me. But failure will always be his lot. One day he will wake up and realize he lost his family. At least the way God intended it to be. That his wife is gone. Moved on and ahead. and that her life is fulfilling and work and being the 100% mom is fulfilling too. And I will move on and meet someone some day.

He will have memories. Of what was. And the women, partying, gambling, burns you out really fast. Like burning a match from both ends. But he chose this.

I don't know why I feel peace and happiness but I am not knocking it now. It may be short lived as we are on the verge of this change now. But son and I are happy together. He is soooo glad to be home with me.

Gotta go. Popsicle and sprite slushie time! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

God bless you all. I love my friends here. When son and I get settled, later this summer/early autumn I will throw a MB "Beginnings Bash". I promise that. Plan for either Atlanta, Augusta, or Orlando. All three still sound exciting to me. But being away from Jethro sounds especially nice. Am leaning Augusta/Orlando personally.

Wonderful wonderful! The wheels of justice roll ever so slowly... but they are rolling - and it looks like things are beginning to pick up for you Peachy! How about calling yourself 'SoPeachyInFla' now... heheheee. You go, girl, you just go!!
Thank you for posting this - we are all rejoicing with you tonight. And I hope your son gets all well real fast.
Harold

Peachy, I am truly happy for you!!!

I hope all continues to go well. There will still be rough spots in the road, no doubt, with Jethro to deal with. But you are well on your way.

May your other interviews go so well, you don't know WHICH one to choose <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !!
I truly believe God watches over those who love and honor Him.

Dear Peachy,

I have been reading on your post for a long time. Nothing to add. Your doing beautifully. Just letting you know that my prayers are with you as you begin to sort it all out.

NGTDT: Thanks. And my x was always saying how "great things were" when I was in plan A and never asking for anything.

Last night was wierd. Bad storms came through beginning about 7. Jethro calls and wants to speak to son. I immediately hand the phone. He asks son a few questions, how are you feeling, feeling better etc. He calls from a number I don't know. Think it's a cell. I will email that # to attorneys as they are wanting more info on Family Values.

After son hands phone back Jethro says "have a nice weekend ok?" I immediately click down. Not a word whatsoever from me. No engagement whatsoever. I am in the most severe of plan B's.

And last night I had a horrible nightmare about my old home. I guess I am still reeling fromt he fact the horrid woman, Jethrene and her oversized brood are living in my home attempting to turn it into the trailer hovel they are used to.

You can take the girl from the trailer but you can't take the trailer outta the girl ok...Same goes w/ghetto...ha ha. Got a funny email about that from a girlfriend back home who ironically was the second person to discover Jethrene squatting in my home.

Sometimes I have to just pretend I have amnesia. Just forget it all.

I am scared though. I may have to move soon. Move with little money (hopefully the d will be over and I will get cash settlement also) and then to qualify for some kind of housing as Jethro totally screwed up my credit from four months of no payment and his non payment of the luxury suv which he helped get repo'd. Thus I shall have should God allow me to qualify, very high interest payments. The fallout from divorcing Jethro is great ok?

And I am a bit daunted now. My phone interview went ok yesterday with other drug co. I answered the questions good but son came in and began screaming to get my attention. I quietly excused myself for about a minute, put phone on mute, sent son down stairs after explaining about the phone call. Went well other than that.

Change is coming really fast. I don't know where I belong. Don't know where son and I belong. We only have family in TN and MS back home. Everything here is new. In a wierd way I dreamed last night that I had the Jethrene clan evicted and I moved back in but the walls were dirty. The house just looked very dirty with crayons on the walls and trash everywhere. I think mentally it means that they living there, their presence has almost tarnished my home.

I wonder now how can I ever speak again to the outlaws after discovering how they attempted along with Jethro to defraud me of a home valued about 270k. How can they ever speak or look at me in the eyes ever again? And even after bring OW's child to the egg hunt two weeks ago.

I don't know how to ever deal with them again. Gut instinct says to move. Move away and start over. Make it hard for those liars to have interaction with us. They've dirtied our lives and dirtied Jethro's mind with their adultery lies and extreme deceit.

Guess more change may be headed my way. But I've survived it before and can again.

So I need ideas. Do I 1)stay here and make the best of life or 2)accept a job, the best offer and move? or 3)fight my way back home.

What to do I don't know. My head is spinning. I am going to sign off now and pray then clean up; clean son; order takeout and get ready to go to the park. It's overcast but nice. We may go see a bug exhibit at callaway gardens today or tomorrow.

Peachy,

I am sorry that it has taken me this long to get back here. I am happy to see that your interview went really well. I think that you should follow the course that best suits you and your son. If that means you need to move to FL or TN then do it. I think that it would be good for the both of you and will give you the space that you want from all of this mess. I will keep you and your son in my prayers.

Indy

I've also wondered about the moving question, and since I visited my hometown last week was asked numerous times if I planned to move back.
I am not the same person I was then, and think I have built a life in my current state, so I plan to remain - and to allow H to maximize his time with the girls.

YOu have had a rough time, but it will be worth it.

There was a movie with Whitney Houston, and other women about relationships and one woman divorced. She even torched H's BMW in her driveway. She won in court, and I think of that movie when you post. She grew stronger away from her H, and I see your victories in court like hers. I wish I could remember the name of the movie.
Take Care and stay strong.
Visualize your life as you want it to be and it will come, even the great job.

I THINK the movie is "How Stella Got Her Groove Back"...never saw it, just the previews of the flaming car....maybe I should rent it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I have re-rented "First Wives Club" though...sorry to say I could identify with Diane Keaton's charactor mostly...hope my situation ends up like hers though!! Cool!!

Hope things are well with you and your son Peach.