I could not believe this when I read it. How bizarre.

That is the strangest thing. I think you should see if he can be charged with illegal entry or breaking and entering. Go for criminal charges. Along with the other stuff.

This man has gone around the bend. Maybe you should take the job farthest away from him.

And as soon as you can, put an alarm system in your home and change your e-mail server. Only email j over something like Yahoo. don't intentionally give him the main email address.

(You are one of the MBers I pray for by name on a daily basis.)

notpeachyinga,

Keep your cool ... ok?. You should use this event to get permanent RO !. You should get different lawyer than Dv lawyer ... get a criminal lawyer !. Breaking even temporary RO will land you in Jail !. I do beleive he has no claim or right to go into your house since you bought and pay from your own acount. This is a breaking and entering and bulgerlized your home. Talk to DA first thing in the morning and if you could afford it, get a criminal lawyer.

I would sign up with security company ... they will wired he whole house. I am worry about your safety.

Orchid has my new cell# ... call me if you need someone to talk to.

-rh-

(((PEACHY)))& Son
God bless and put angels around you both for
protection.

I would like you to ask your lawyer to ask the
judge to order Jethro to have a proffessional
Psycological evaluation from a psyciatrist.
to use in court against him..it would really
help your case..

he did illegal entry to your home. thank God you
were not home with son, for him to confront.
I know the fear of living in house when someone
enters..husband would have son enter when they
knew I was gone to get things. I would notice something moved and thought something looked funny
but thought I was going crazy..
there is a old movie out called "Gas Lighting"
someone
suggested I rent I never did. it was someone who
tried to drive his wife crazy.If you can find it
get it watch it.

I sat here in the dark a few times to scared to do a thing knowing he might be coming to harm me.
finally I had enough after a neighbor came over and pounded on the door for 10 minutes this was at nite and was dark, I had no idea who was there
was scared so bad I almost messed myself.
it is phsycological crap they do to us..

anyway the kid left then the cops came..I DID NOT know it was the police I DID not open the door they were shinning this bright flashlight they use on the roof through the windows I could not tell who was there but there were more then one.
finally the phone rang and I noticed the id had
hubby phone # on it, so I picked it up because
I knew he was NOT suppose to call me..so I felt
why is this happening. he tells me open the door.
I told him no way then he said it is the police
out there let them in..told him no way..
he said they called him and told him to call me..
and tell me to answer the door or they will break it in to make sure I WAS OK..grrrr..someone reported that I was suicidal awhile back..so I finally opened the door. talked to them and they went and also told hubby not to call me again..
or contact me.

why this kid was so concerned about me is weird
I really think my son paid him to scare me.
so much has happened it makes you paranoid as you can see..
but know when it is over, you will be ok.. the
jumpiness etc does go away..
hugs and give your son from auntie..here..
he has lots of aunt and uncles here on mb praying
for angels to surround him and keep him safe as can be..and his mom too..
take care and may God bless you with HIS PEACE as only He can give..
I pray for Jethro that God will convict him of what he is doing and that God will give him a newheart..and he will REPENT of his evil ways.
not means you need to take him back. but that he will seek your forgiveness only after he repents.
only there are some people we do know that they think they don't have to account to anyone, everything is fine in their eyes, and that the law is not made for them but for others.
one other thing this man has no moral concience
so he might be so far gone, he won't turn to the Lord. and that means he is turned over to a reprobate mind to do those things God says not to do..
and yes for someone who always says out there..
"IS THIS A COME TO JESUS MOMENT?!!" YOU BETCHA.

It would be great if alot of people turned to God
and things would be so much simpler.
ok preaching is over. I will just post this without a preview hope it makes sense. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

The crazy making stops soon!
STAY SAFE...PEACHY WE CARE! PRAYING!!
pray with your son take his hands and hold him
pray with him..

Spoke w/police before bed. We are ok. I slept with a knife under my matress and my old baton (used to twirl in college and can wield that thing with precision I can tell you) under my other arm. Neighbors are and were alerted and they also called different times as well.

It's funny but my dog hasn't left my side. He's been really good although I think he'd have to see Jethro attack me before he'd attack him.

Jethro did try to IM last night when I logged on to MB. I did not respond.

We are definitely doing both tpo and ro. I am getting it for me and my son. I am hoping that everything goes ok and it can be quickly enacted b/c today is the day for visitation and I don't want my son around that man.

I also asked police yesterday when they catch him (they have to make the charges stick) to do a drug test on him as his behavior's bizarre and outrageous and not consistent with anybody sane. Also asked for eval mentally too. Thanks Cindy. I just already thought of it. I knew if it had ever come to this, I would do that.

Just pray today he doesn't pick up my son before the tpo and ro is signed. I can't take off of work b/c of nature of my job and all the court stuff has made it almost impossible to take personal days and I am also calling school to make sure that they don't release son to him. I am going to tell them to call the police if he does. But legally until it is in their hands, the ro and tpo, the standing order about visitation and custody and so on is in effect and in force.

Think we'd be able to get that thing signed asap on emergency basis by judge.

Please keep praying. And thank you for praying for us.

I can't keep this up much longer. It's too much and I've endured too much.

I am constantly exhausted and mentally exhausted. He has put me through more than I could ever imagine.

Nothing or nobody is worth this. Except for my son. And my son is going to be raised properly and this is stopping. The sin stops with the father in this family.

Let's see how the enablers, the OUTLAWS, and Ms. Family Values and the whole group of them like to see how he's lied to them and that it wasn't me who had the problem all along.

He his his sins and his cruelty too long. He thinks he has power over me and can take or do anything to me and that nobody will do a thing to the man. That he's above the law.

Well the [censored] is not. He is not. I will prove it to him. He's messed with the wrong woman. And by forcibly breaking and entering into my home, he will find out. He has given over to pure evil right now and I am not going to stand for it one more minute. Maybe his best chance of finding God will be when they slam the metal bars shut in front of him.

If he did that yesterday, he'd do anything to get his way. And this is about money. Not about anything else but pride and money. He doesn't want anybody to know of his sin against me and his family. He wants to appear as a shining almost perfect guy. And the facade is cracking. He's pretended so long to be this "good dad" and a poor man who had a wife with problems and had to get a divorce. A man who was forced into having affairs because the poor guy wasn't happy anymore.

Oh what a poor baby!

But nobody will believe it anymore.

Sad part is that there aren't enough laws to protect spouses in danger. It is a sad country we live in when a live-in mistress ior girlfriend could get more police protection or justice WITHOUT BEING MARRIED. When you sign the marriage license, it is tantamount in the eyes of the law that anything your spouse does to you is a "domestic dispute" and not assault, burglary, or the like.

If MFV had called and the same situation had happened, he'd be in jail this minute and rotting there awaiting felony charges. Why? Because HE IS NOT MARRIED TO HER. Thus this is some kind of dispute between perceived partners. Not so. I told them he pays rent here but he doesn't and has never lived under this roof. That I've lived here since jan. of 02 and that he's never lived here. That we had legal standing order since june of 02. That I have been waiting only for this guy to bring to the negotiations all the financial documents and that his deceit is why this has drug on.

But how is the law going to deal with it? I am legally married and they kept saying that over and over. I said "Do they have to take me to the coroner first before anything happens here?" My God. Isn't there enough dead women in this country to prove it? Isn't there enough of that ******* Scott Peterson in the news and the crime that took another innocent life because of sin and adultery?

I swear, there needs to be some advice for victims of adultery regarding the potential for violence. Please ask the Harleys to look into this. I am living proof that sometimes WS's can become dangerous. They lie and lie and lie and one sin covers up another sin and so on. They can definitely sometimes become dangerous.

Keep praying for our safety, FOR JUSTICE, for my son to remain with me (I am primary but want his custody taken away permanently now unti he is either served his time or properly getting treatment) and for peace in our little home. Thanks to all who prayed for us.

You're in my thoughts and prayers, both of you.

I think God is holding you in the palm of His Hand.

dear peachy-all my prayers to you and son. do all you can for your safety. we are all praying for you.

and by the way-i think jethro is a fool for poking a southern woman with a stick <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !!
you get him girl!

Peachy,

I am most concerned of how your lawyers/courts are handling your situation and wish to share a situation that might encourage you.

One of my friends shared with me the other day about a good friend of theirs who is a young mom and going through the same battling. I believe I had mentioned her situation before. Update on her situation.

Her STBX is still very hardened, acting out of control like Jethro, drugs, monies, violence, business frauds, inlaws enabling, of course doing similar what our x's are doing however her daughter is about the same age is your son.

What is different about her situation compared to your situation is the treatment of protection her lawyers the courts thus far have secures/implemented measures to protect her young daughter and her. Property issues, support are still at hand.

Meaning her STBX is still not permitted to have free wheeling reigns over their daughter. He is still under restricted, supervised custody access and can not be alone with their daughter. He is only permitted to have vistation access with the presense of a social worker in attendance.

STBX is not allowed to come near her home to pick up their daughter. Because of his established propensity of violence towards her.

Second, he must go to the YWCA, as destination place where she drops her daughter off in the care of the social worker. Meaning that he, his parents, women, and other negative influences cannot harm her.

STBX arrives and does positive things with his daughter under the watch ful eye supervised care of the social worker for the day. When the visit is over he leaves and she arrives at later time to pick up her daughter from the social worker. The two of them simply pass by like ships in the nights.

Their daughter is safe, protected, and shielded from him,as far as the laws are concerend-she on the other hand does not have to deal with him other than through legal channels.

I don't understand why he has not been ordered to have psychiactric evualation, his acting out alludes to behaviors/mannerisms of bi-polar 2 and self medicates with hard drugs, alchol why is he not be tested, treated, and allowed to carry on.

I don't understand why your attorneys are allowing him so much destructive leverage and tolerating the emotional unbearable strain on you/son.

The attornies, courts have more than sufficent evidence that he does not have your son's best interests at heart, with his lack of support, wild spending sprees, women.

Jethro is severly mentally, spiritually impaired and obviously has organic based underlying problems. He needs help-you have done your part in a loving way by holding him accountable, to remove you and your beloved son from harm. He is not normal, healthy, or capable of being a decent dad to your son.

I am most concerned here about you,to waste any more of your engergies,time, monies in his entanglements to you and you son.

Huggs...

There's not enough justice for some women yet.

Attorneys seem to think that I would get a faster tpo if I went to a women's shelter. I called the nearby shelter and the lady said that the judge they'd bring me to would first ask 1)am I getting a divorce and then 2)do I have an attorney yet? The women's advocate said that he would then tell you to bring your attorneys before him

So tomorrow the r.o. goes out and papers are started. The women's advocate said she only works with women who "can't afford an attorney". I said "what about a woman who can't afford the attorneys she has?" "waht about someone who needs help now?

The investigator has gotten his information regarding his car and some discrepancies about his auto and other things. They have enough to prosecute and are awaiting the word from the DA to find out when to proceed. Problem is that WE ARE STILL LEGALLY MARRIED and some judges see that as not a CRIMINAL dispute but a DOMESTIC/CIVIL one.

So I am stuck in a holding pattern while the papers get filed, signed faxed, etc. While the DA makes up his mind. While my son WAS ALLOWED LEGALLY TO GO TO HIS FATHER'S THIS WEEKEND FOR VISITATION.

Right as he picked up our son, Jethro called me and because he had son, I answered the phone. He said "you can have son from 7 pm on saturday night until 4 pm on mother's day". How nice. He also sent me ...get this...via email a letter saying how hw was happy to give son to me for a FEW HOURS for mother's day and sent me 2 faith based poems. Talking about God and faith and etc...that his mother forwarded to him.

He has lost his mind totally and is out of it. He is such a liar that he cannot tell the truth if he had to. When I had him on the phone I said, "you be careful around my boy and do not come over on my property anymore." He said "well you HAVE TO COME TO MY HOUSE TO GET YOUR SON FOR MOTHER'S DAY". I said that that would be taken care of.

He then told me that "he wished me happiness just like the happiness he has with Ms. Family Values and is sorry that I haven't found it yet and when I do, he will shake the guy's hand. And that maybe my real problem was that I HAVEN'T GOTTEN A PIECE OF A$$ YET."

So on one hand today he emails thought about faith and poems. Next breath he is telling his wife to go and f someone. And when I said to him, "do not come over to my property ever again" he replied, "what on earth are you talking about? Are you CRAZY?".

I forwarded email to attorneys. And now I just know that he is evil. Pure evil. He can USE GOD and lie about faith and all matters of decency.But I think he understands what I said. My attorneys phoned his attorney and wayloaded on the guy.

So my attorneys are typing and faxing the restraining order and we have to go before the judge to ask for a temp. protective order next week. And the docket for the contempt hearing is full for this week.

It seems Jethro may be out of jail until the DA decides or we get into court.

Please pray. I am scared for my physical safety. For my finances. For my son having to go with that horrible man.

It seems that again, if I were just his mistress I would have more rights. My attorneys are fighting and are going to have one of the two orders by tomorrow.

Wasn't justice supposed to be handed down in an expedient manner in this country? Until MARRIED WOMEN have more rights to file charges against their abusive husbands, there will be more women being abused, tortured physically and mentally and washing up on beaches.

Until we are treated like anybody else, with the same legal advantages as unmarried women, we won't get justice.

It is sad when a court has to decide if someone should not get a protective order because the man, her husband, who broke into her separate residence might not "actually pose a harmful threat to her" but may just want to damage her property.

They said that this is what the judge will weigh when deciding if my son and I get a tpo or not. I know I can get the restraining order. I think the judge is reasonable and if we get same one (50% chance of that) then it may fly.

But also I am angry because they are trying to make sure the charges against him are indeed "criminal".

PLEASE PRAY THAT THE DA IS ABLE TO TRY THIS CASE AS A CRIMINAL CASE AND THAT HE IS ABLE TO PRESS BURGLARY CHARGES AGAINST JETHRO.

PRAY FOR MY SON. PRAY HE IS SAFE AND HIS LITTLE HEART IS WELL. PRAY THAT I AM HEALING AND SAFE TOO. PRAY FOR ATTORNEYS TO GET THIS DONE. PRAY THAT WE ARE SAFE AND THAT OUR FINANCIAL SITUATION GETS BETTER NOW.

Pray that I can have peace in my life.

Hi Peach,

Not much to say, cept, I wish the best for you and little one.

I don't know how you are staying so strong. I don't understand what is wrong with the justice system, why have they not taken legal action on this man.

Keep you head high, eventually, it will all end.

Peachy,
Yes, keep your head high.
Also, like I posted earlier, get to know your local policeofficers. Make sure they know the situation, and ask for extra patrols. They don't like to get involved in domestic issues (like x's breaking into homes - they told me this), but they need to be aware of the situation for the safety of you and your neighbors.

You have many people praying for you.

Peach,

How are you doing? The calvary is waiting. Got a Marine Sgt, Texan dude (I think a couple of them), CA grouch and his family (lol!!!) and whole possee of MBers just waiting for the call to 'charge'!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Left you a voicemail yesterday.... call tonight if you can.

Hugz,
L.
L.

Peach,

You said it so well---there isn't enough justice to go around for some women/children as we know this well applys to some men/thier children.

The irony and frustration of it all. As women we are expected to protect themselves/children from abuse,be responible, take stands, get away.

Once we take those steps we get stuck again in the cogs of the system.

It seems the underlying message is that it is OK for women to be bullied, oppressed, abused, accept poverty, accepting of every evil matter of degradation. But be on super absorb duty like paper towels and look like a fresh morning rose.

Such unrealistic expectations placed on women shoulders are too insane.

Your so right by addressing what happens under the criminality disputes and domestic/divorce disputes do not seem to connect at the same junction or taken to seriously unless these acts are performed on a civial platform.

What happens under the realm and within the Domestic Domain does seem to have little signicificance because well it's just a woman and her children, no real value here.

The impression given here is almost everything you have presented &proven over and over as a result of Jethro conduct still appears to look as "hearsay" by the courts which is most sad.

The question and burden of blame always seems to rest on the women. Why do women take abuse, why do the allow it, why do they stay? When women/kids leave, why are children handed over to the offending parent this makes such little sense and the cycle continues.

Seldom is the focus placed where it belongs, why do these MEN use, abuse, batter, abandoned there wives/children in the first place. Seems the message comes back saying MEN who conduct themselves in this matter can do these things all because they choose to and can!

I am wondering if our expectations to resolve things are to high and need to be lowered. Not our standards just expectations. It seems on the side of law in your state they appear to be overburdened and over run with many to men like Jethro's.

This holding pattern and strain which we are crushingly under is unbearably and terribly unfair.

Jethro sending you these cards on God, faith now seems to transmits his desperation, depression and torment. And doing these horrible things to you and your son is simply more warped twisted, communicating how unwell he is.

In my imho--Jethro/my STBX are drowning men, thrashing about in all directions to lay ahold of something, grapsing at straws albeit, to save themselves. Their frantic attempts to whip up euphoria living, with illicit sex, out of control spending expenditures, drugs,alchol hard livin isn't working for them to well.

I wonder if we were to look underneath their masks and superficiality they are doing all these horrible things to keep themselves from drowning in the sea of depression.

I wonder in your situation to reduce the craziness, if another approach might need to be considered. What would be your thoughts in throwing him out a life line instead without risking yourselves further might be more helpful to you and your son.

He sounds desperate, out of monies, angry wants your attention. What are your thoughts to give him positive helpful attention and if possible to step out of the emotions, and hold on to your tender wounds which we know are so deep for a moment.

If we were to reason past his bizarre camflouging behaviors, antics, as I am trying to look past my STBX craziness.

What would be your thoughts here to ask him how he is really feeling, your concerned about his state, stress levels, offer a humble suggestion to do something radically different.

Wonder if the next conversation you have been reading up on mental health issues, on depression, made a brief comment mention he seems to be manifesting the sypmtoms of sever depression.

Maybe he may want to consider the possibly of his obtaining a good medical doctor, obtain a good check to look at the possiblity of indetfiying any underlying organic chemistry meltdown and body burdens to be built up. As opposed at lashing out at you.

Possibilities of him looking in the direction at ardenal exhaustion, DHEA, perhaps need for Lithium Carbonate, to rebuild his chemicals back from depression, so he can think and act more clearly, reasonibly instead of his reacting, not thinking.

What are your thoughts in taking the upper hand not in a gaming sense, but sane hand of normalcy. Since he is incapable, going through a severe borg meltdown.

Thanking him for the cards, on God and faith, suggesting that it sounds like he wants to make deeper connection with GOD, may want to get right with GOD, your happy for him as this will benefit him and your son.

Wondering if we could turn the tables around again not in a gaming sense but common sense, thanking him as for the well wishes of his wanting you to have a man.

I can only imagine how you have must of felt so terribly neglected oppressed throughout your relationship with Jethro of not having a real, healthy, safe, normal mature man, generous hearted to let down your hair with, companion with, enjoy life with and build a solid romance/family with.

So dissappointing,boring, unfilling and unexciting to be with someone that.

He seems concerned about the lack of men in your life. I wonder if letting him know that the real reason you not man hunting at the moment is place a higher prememuim on your precious son, out of deep love and respect consideration for his tender heart/soul, not to burdened him further with the advent of more pain, disrespect,confusion. Leave it at that.

Redirecting him perhaps searching out ministry who could assist him with DELIVERANCE, salvation re-connection issues. Providing him the number ministry services. Leave it at that.

I also am wondering if you could tell him that you don't want to fight with him anylonger,fully aware/accept his deep contentous hatred for you and that who don't wish to traumatize him any further by any unnesscary encounters, email. He has been most clear.

I wonder if you could ask Jethro some questions for a change for himself, to himself and ask him point blank what went so wrong in life timetable, where did things really break down and where did he start to lose his conscience?

He doesn't have to provide you with an answer, might tell him you don't want an answer. But maybe those simple questions just might help him to start the process of re-connecting with himself. Leave it that.

What we do know for certain Peachy is that we are their chosen excuse TARGET for them to dump all their negative behavior problems on. They must be so angry, missing us a their convienant land fill.

Rationally,we know we are not the source or cause of their problems that caused the breakdown in their their souls. This happened so long ago in these guys.

In lieu of your being underserved by the system and reduce your both costs more effectively.

I wonder what resources you could put in place to de-esculate the pressures?

If Jethro in his melt down state of his faulty perception problems, truly belives in his sick mind that you are the sources of his problems and isn't being heard enough, why not suggest a more healthier approach.

I wonder if as suggestion he could be alleviated of his faulty persceptions and contentions about you write them down, give them to you or your pastor where you/your paster can constructively address them, put them to rest, with a message enough. He has been heard no more need for dramatics.

Perhaps, you could write all the proposed suggestions/concerns which you have and share them your pastor as a witness, lay out the concerns /boundries of no contact and have peace.

Maybe Jethro might get the rightful help he so desperately needs.

Seems he wants unconditional attention, acceptance, adventure.
Let's face it peachy. Judges are but human, to busy, drained, overburdened, strained and certainly can't give parental time, corrective discpline to all these lost wounded confused men crying out for mature, consistant attention.

I doubt the courts and his drama can satisfy Jethro his cravings, temper tantrums for male attention for the unconditional love, in his wounded soul.

As for my stbx, he has flipped our agreement all over again, now he wants to take things to court let the lawyers have what little there is, because he is out of monies again, fiancing his romances consume alot of resources and he seem to think that my children and I are his rightfull royal reserve.Wants to drain us further as he hasn't done a good enough job in destroying us already.

He's so angry now that he has nothing again, it's all been spent on partying and that he put his foolish friends ahead of the line by the stupid condo purchase. He is complaining he can't get a head in his life now. I now am responible for this, told him why he didn't buy that condo for himself in the first place.

I think we ladies sometimes caught in the way/crossfire for these guys need for daddy love!

I hope peachy will get off the ship of fools with these guys real soon. I pray that GOD will heal our children souls, from all the hardships,pain suffering we have caused our kids, to reconnect them to himselves in genguine way, lead them on the path of everlasting faith,love and rightousness.

Thanks. I understand how you feel. However, I am not in a position to speak with Jethro whatsoever. He has been abusive in the past and I am not going to talk to him. It would be like talking to a wall, except that this wall would on a whim, toss a few bricks out at you when you least expect it.

I am spending mother's day alone.

He emailed me and because it's his weekend for visitation (could not get r.o. or tpo inacted in time to negate his weekend visitation) he has my son. He emails me and TELLS ME WHEN AND HOW LONG I MAY HAVE MY SON.

He said 1)could have son from 7 pm on saturday until 4 p.m. on sunday as he has plans (he has plans? Is it Jethro Day or MOther's day or is it Family Values Day?).
2)I could pick up son AT JETHRO'S HOME. I do not go to Jethro's home, my old once dream house. He incenuated several times that they (meaning he and family values and her child) would all be in the yard playing. I am not going to go in his presence as I have pending r.o and tpo against him on behalf of myself and son. I am not going to violate the own order I am enacting. I said to Jethro via email: You can meet me at guard shack in front of the subdivison as I am not going to your home. HE said NO and that I should learn how to come over to his house. More forcing of contanct and I am not going to do it.

He is a felon. A criminal now. And an insane one. Just really bizarre though. He doesn't fit the usual criminal/burglar persona. The officer that chased him down said "Damn. Well if it don't beat all. Chasing a burglar down a street in a golf club subdivision and having the perpetrator drive away in a BMW 745il. I've seen it all."

So I tell Jethro when he blocks call on saturday (bought myself for mother's day a few gifts and was out. Was at Barnes N Noble reading one new book sipping a non fat latte.) He calls and I say that I am going to pick up son at guard shack on sunday morning at 930 am and will be keeping my boy as it's MOTHER'S DAY. He loses it and slams down phone and says that he has plans and that i cannot change his plans. Hee hee.

So I call back. And THE HO OF HO'S ANSWERS. It's MFV. She says, Jethro is out on the golf cart with son. I don't really care at all at this point. Maybe the caffeine gave me a buzz or something. I don't know but I LOST IT WITH HER AND AFTER I FINISHED THE OTHER WOMEN SITTING OUTSIDE UNDER LITTLE CAFE TABLES CLAPPED.

I said, "Now that I've got you on the phone there's a few little matters I need to once again clear up with you. First of all, I don't care what you do around your precious son. It is not my business but WHAT YOU DO EXPLICITLY IN FRONT OF MY PRECIOUS SON IS A WHOLE OTHER MATTER. YOU CAN BE AS MUCH OF A F..ING W$ORE IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY AND ANYBODY ELSE ON THIS EARTH BUT NOT IN FRONT OF MY BOY DO YOU HEAR ME WENCH? I then said that I was going to make every legal measure known to prevent that and that she and Jethro should learn to lock a door and help all children involved in their seedly little shack up to just be responsible....and wear a condom...I ended up with saying that "the courts sure don't want to hear what you also DO IN FRONT OF YOUR OWN CHILD DO YOU?" She cussed me out and said I was "Miserable woman" I said, yea, if you were married to jethro you'd be also. And that "I was jealous of her and that she'd love to kick my [censored] (I said 'IS THAT A THREAT, all the while laughing") and that I was unexplialaibly a mental case.

Now those that really know me and this situation know that Jethro cannot spell very well and that his use of the English language is legendary. In his former speeches or letters to important clients, I used to have to correct them for him at his request. I would also explain to him proper usage of some words in context with the words said. Looks as if Ms. Family Values is his PERFECT MATCH as SHE CANNOT SPELL OR USE WORDS PROPERLY IN A SENTENCE EITHER.

So I end with ,"Let me tell you C#rly, the word is INEXPLICABLE..I-N-E-X-P-L-I-C-A-B-L-E-. jethro has trouble with multi-syllable words to and it is not a shame to ask for help. I will use it in a sentence for you. "It is INEXPLICABLE how a gorgeous woman like Peachy is and how she has to deal INEXPLICABLY (see I used it as an adverb here) with an adulterous husband who is abusive and won't provide child support as per court orders and breaks rules constantly."

She screams Aaaaaaugh. Slams down phone. I start hysterically laughing at this point. I don't know why. Guess I've had enough and wanted to have some fun with her. Hell, she and Jethro had spent over 100k of OUR MONEY. Money that my son and I could use to get on with our lives.

So then Jethro calls and says that "my faith is not showing." lol...I said "well I never said I am perfect. But just under all the strain YOU PUT THIS FAMILY through." And He said that it would be amusing to present this to the court. And I said my words to Family Values elicited alot of applause from the other mothers around me reading and enjoying cappucino's and that if THE SHOE FITS WEAR IT. And that what I said is not said to anybody else. It was said to her and it was me stating both a fact and an opinion and that any court in the land would see it my way. And that my attorneys would also applaud for me and that I am not taking any more of his crap and that he is not allowed to come near me any more and neither is she and that if my son tells me one more thing, it is not going to be at all pretty for him.
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More applause comes. One woman says that she was there buying a book for herself because she was very sad. Her h had slept with his secretary and she didn't know if she wanted to file for d or not and that she just felt like "Mother's Day just doesn't exist". And I told her about MB and how she could save it and how MY SITUATION IS NOT THE SAME FOR EVERYONE ELSE AND THAT MOST PEOPLE AREN'T LIKE MY STBXH AND THAT SHE HAS HOPE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . She thanks me and says that "a REAL mother stands up for their child just like I did."

Another lady says "I hope they throw the book at that man. Personally I'd b-slap the other woman for doing things like that in front of your boy."

I wasn't talking loud and there were only three tables around me. But it was all ladies.

Oh. Heres the best part...

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WHAT I BOUGHT MYSELF FOR MOTHER'S DAY

Peachy is going to have a good year. I am determined to do so.

I bought the folliwng:
1)FROM YES! VICTORIA'S SECRET...Very cute undies. A little wild for me but they had these adorable dragonflies (studded with tiny rhinestones on them) and some other ones I won't mention and some brazzieres. Very cute. I am not very explicit but I think you have the drift.

These will stay in my hope drawer. lol...what I call my lingerie drawer in my armoire. For when the day of freedom comes and when I meet someone very Victoria-worthy.

2)Bought three books: Napalm and Silly Putty by George Carlin (hilarious) and How to Think Like Einstein. (about how to change your thinking and think outside of the rules like Einstein did to revolutionize your life) and Women's Guide to Successful Negotiating (to help me in my business pursuits). And a precious bookmark.

I jogged yesterday and tanned on my back porch too.

Please pray for the job. The company will decide on monday or tuesday if the expansion to GA will continue or if it is for Florida only. I am already chosen as their candidate. They told me via cell phone last week. The next position is mine. Either it is now or has to wait a few months for it to be approved financially.

So I am still submitting resume and hunting as I have to get ahead for my son and I. We deserve this.

I understand my behavior is a bit selfish now. But I deserve it as my stbxh has had about four years of living like Austin Powers. So I will tone it down, way down, but start enjoying life frugally but happily. I am not going to take his b.s. anymore and am committed to prosecuting him to the fullest extent of the law.

However, the tables have now turned on Jethro. He is in a very bad position now. And it is proven to law enforcement officials. They said he will be found guilty of misdemeanor/felony for breaking in and believe they have a very good chance at nailing him on the burglary charge.

I spoke with detectives alot and they are aware of the precarious divorce and the finance situation and we talked. They said, well we could arrest him for the misdeameanor felony which will stay on his record permanently and serve as a warning/red flag to any court that may hear about custody issues and also put heavy pressure on him for the burglary charges. We can see if this somehow works together with your getting a good deal from him. He needs to have it coming at him like he's done to you...have it come at him from all sides and then he will crumble. The officers alluded to maybe kinda using the breaking in as leverage to get this thing settled in a much more favorable way for me and my son. I will do it.

So if there's not enough justice, I will see how I can go about getting it one way or another. And in reading the Einstein book it says that you use laws and bend them to get a better outcome. That's how Einstein came up with everything. I am playing by the rules, but am going to work the rules to our advantage. Sometimes you have to. That is all I say.

I am not saying to become like the foggy ones are. I am not saying to commit adultery. To lie and cheat to get what you want. What I am saying is to do everything in your power positively to protect yourself and your children.

While online just now, Jethro tried to IM me. I clicked off. I don't want any communication from him ever. No Im. He may email. Nothing else.

I am declaring myself free. I am declaring my son free. That is what this mother's day is about. About my son and I being free together from his grip.

We will get our justice. The burglary charge will come soon. Officers said a maximum of two weeks. They said to re initiate divorce negotiations in about a week through attorneys just as when the papers are hitting him about his burglarizing my home. They said that would make things much better. Plus by then I will have tpo and ro for my son and I.

WTG PEACHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO and applauding LOUDLY!

You are GETTING it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love and light,

Jacky

Peach,

Glad to finally hear from you. I was gonna ask one of the Marines to go and pay you a visit to make sure you were ok!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

As for Jethro and (let's see about choosing another name for her since FV just doesn't match even by the remotest stretch of the imagination...... howz about Freaki Mae.... she looked a bit frazzled in the hair (like she pours on way too much chemicals). LOL!!! Any whoz, as for Jethro, well he has comin' what he should have coming in the least. We will be pulling for the GA PD dept to do their best and when they throw the book at him, I hope it hit's the target where it counts the most (front and back pockets!!!). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Make sure Jethro doesn't break into your house again, he may want what is in your 'hope drawer'. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care,
L.

Thanks Orchid and Jacky...

I can only hope for a renewal like you have done Jacky...btw..how's the tall one doing these days? Payback is hell for your xh isn't it?

Anyway, been battling Jethro and Freaky Mae. You're right Ms. family Values isn't all that. And I called him saying that he should not be livign with someone. Guess what? He admits and says they aren't living together but I also got him as I found out THAT HIS MISTRESS NEVER MARRIED AND HAD THE KID OUT OF WEDLOCK. He always threw it up at me how she "made it own her own" and "didn't get much from the baby's dad" and how she and the "baby's dad had a good relationship".

I have the answer to this one folks..IT SURE WOULD BE EASY TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF YOU ONLY HAD CASUAL SEX WITH THEM AND SUPPOSEDLY THAT CASUAL SEX LED TO PREGNANCY AND WITHOUT MARRIAGE, NOT MUCH OF A LEGAL AGREEMENT TO STICK TO. Probably the guy bailed out. And being that they were SO YOUNG WHEN THEY HAD BABY X, HE COULDN'T HAVE MADE MUCH MONEY ANYWAY...

But I was right...SHE WAS NEVER MARRIED. Thus, she has TO HAVE HER NICKNAME CHANGED...Now she's freaky Mae.

Anyway, this weekend is my medical convention, the one I am president of. The society has been so kind to pay for me to have a verty nice roomy suite for free this weekend and even gotten together the kid's camp program for the other parents who are attending with kids...Having fun with baby turtle races, fun camp stuff and games for the few hours I will be in seminars. But Jethro is claiming that HE WILL GET VISITATION WITH OUR SON ON EITHER THURSDAY OR FRIDAY OF THIS WEEK. Heck, he just had our son. And I am getting the stipulations of our agreement. He is not getting him this weekend and ruining deliberatley the convention.

WHEN HE BROKE INTO MY HOME, IN THE COMPUTER ROOM HE HAD TO FIND SOME OF THE DOCUMENTS RELATING TO THE CONVENTION AS TO WHEN, WHERE AND HOW LONG. So he knows. And I am frightened about that as well. I have the attorneys working hard to get the papers ready by tomorrow so we can have the r.o and tpo filed already with court so he will have no choice but to leave us alone.

And I definitely am keeping secret my hope drawer. But knowing kinky little Jethro, he probably went through my stuff "just hoping" he could prove my living an immoral lifestyle like his...BY LOOKIN' IN MY UNDERWEAR DRAWER..LOL...

But I am asking for extra patrols by my home this weekend and am letting every neighbor including the police know where I will be so they can be on guard for his stupidity.

He actually said he went to church this weekend. Kept my precious baby FROM BEING WITH ME ON MOTHER'S DAY and said HE WENT TO CHURCH. He is such a liar. Maybe he went, but that was to look good only. You live what you believe in your heart.

Please pray for my job too. We need a new start for us. We need to get away from Jethro once and for all. If he chooses to get help and seriously sticks to it and it is documented, I will allow him to see our son. But if not, I am going for full custody. I am primary parent already, but want full custody.

I told attorneys today that I wanted full custody. He's done it the last times. Keeping my baby from me on mother's day and now trying to ruin our time together. Heck, it isn't every day that I can have a weekend away with my boy at a very beautiful resort free of charge. And in my recent memory, I CAN'T REMEMBER WHEN THIS HAPPENED FOR HE AND I. But we are going to cherish our time together as we always do. My son is the apple of my eye and deserves to be away from that monster until he is cleared by a psych eval. and through the court system. Until the day papers are filed and the judge rules, there will only be pending tpo and ro against him, but that should suffice for enough just cause for him not to get custody anymore until he's been proven guilty or not guilty. And LET ME SEE....IT WILL BE...GUILTY.A

Pray hard for us. And thanks Orchid. Geez. A marine you say? Hmmm. Did I tell you how I actually got to liking watching Iraqi Freedom footage b/c of the cute guys in the uniforms...Always been a sucker for a man in a business suit, scrubs, or military uniform. I think maybe perhaps my hope drawer has become a bit TOO DUSTY OVER THE LAST YEAR OR SO...lmaorotf........

JMHO: Ole boy Jethro B is such a DipSh!t. How stupid can he get? Is there no end to his fog??
You go, NotPeachy - justice will be yours, along with the $$$ you are long overdue and most important of all, you will have your precious boy with you! Maybe - just maybe - JB might wake up one of these years, with AIDS or some other STD and realize that he should have stayed with the woman who loved him. YOU, in the meanwhile will have landed that lucrative job you are trying for and will have found a new love - someone who will treat you the way you deserve. Keep the faith, my friend!
Harold

Peach, Any news?

-AD

Here's a little something that might cheer you up Peachy:
It's 'old divorce news' but I believe it's still as true today as it was back then...

Right after I moved out of our house and the STBX (at that time) had moved the OM in our place, I was helping them paint our house (takin' the high road) and one day she came out dressed really sharp, you know, brand new pants suit, hair done up really nice, make up just right, etc. She looked at me in total disdain and said, "I hope you rot in hell, Harold." Well, I just looked at her and told her to have a nice day - the way I always had - and then after she left, I left too - never to return and finish painting her house...
Ugly? Not on the outside, but then again, I've always had an old saying, " Beauty is only skin-deep but ugliness goes clear to the bone." A perfect description of my ex-wife!
One last thought - at that time, (1998) she was 35 1/2 and I was 40. I really don't give a crap about my getting wrinkles, grey hair, etc. - hey, we all grow old and then die... But... looking back on the VANITY she had wearing those nice clothes, all dolled up, etc. for whom? An old 42-year old man who had scraggly grey hair and partial beard. Oh well, whatever... The next thought I had was... give little Miss Highpockets another 30 years after that day... and she's going to be an OLD BAG - just how good is makeup at covering that up...
It made my day...
Still Laughing After All These Years...
Harold
Now it's nearly 5 years later: UPDATE on my Ex-Wife:
She has Type II Diabetes, has regained every single pound back she lost, her husband had a stroke, our oldest son got out of their house by joining the Marines (he's in Baghdad right now) and the youngest son is talking about also joining the USMC. My family has since found out the truth about all the lies she told them and they want no part of her in our family any longer. She's stuck in Alaska with no way of ever saving enough money to move back to Virginia where her blood family is...
More of my History: ----
2-81 - First Marriage (abuse began on our Honeymoon)
7-87 My MLC (Came to Terms)
6-94 - D-Day (My EA of 2 months)
6-96 - D-Day (Her PA, began Marriage Counseling)
12-97 - Separation
2-98 - W engaged to OWH
4-98 - I moved out
6-98 - DV-Day I begin Divorce Recovery on my own and realized I was a Verbal Abuse Victim.
10-98 - OWM divorced
11-98 - DW married OM
9-99 - Met Wonderful Christian Lady
10-99 - Our Engagement
4-00 - We Married
8-01 - D-Day (My Online EA of 3 months) Began Marriage Counseling
9-01 - Realized my STUPIDITY of not “forsaking all others” and trying to “help” friends - stay non-involved and leave the big stuff for the Professional Counselors!
TODAY - We are closer than ever and are truly ONE in Christ - Lessons Learned: GUARD YOUR HEART... Blessed In Texas!
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So Peachy, the bottom line is: Things look pretty crappy right now, but Justice is coming! You will get everything you deserve and OBJB will get his soon enough. You will be walking on TOP of that Glass Ceiling while he continues to sink to new lows until one day he winds up in the AIDS Ward in the local hospital, if not worse...
Keep the Faith, my Friend!
"Weeping endures for a night, but JOY comes in the Morning" -- Morning is coming, Peachy!
Harold