Leah - That was funny! LOL You’re such a BAD girl, writing words like that! It is great news about your H....was his response (that you described) similar to the way he was at previous homecomings, when you were in recovery before? Can you tell a difference at all?

Wallace - I hadn’t thought of what my H would think if he caught me dodging him. I do think I could manage a civil “hello” (and nothing else) without emotionally damaging myself. I guess that gives me two options now. Thanks! So tell us, how many times have you spoken to your G/F this week? What are your weekend plans with her?

Trusting - Wallace was right, it looks like you were able to post on the old thread after we couldn’t. How did that happen?

Relady - I agree with you, we need to get the old thread at least as “read-only” so we can make Wallace eat his words again and again...

Petvet - I knew you weren’t a vet cuz I asked that question earlier in my tenure here. But I didn’t know you showed dogs, how cool! Have you won any prizes? Is this how you met your buddy? How DID you meet, anyway??

Stacy - How’s it going? I hope you’ve found this thread, do you have an update on your situation?

Newbies - Welcome

Avondale,

You ask if it's like it was before in recovery...hmmmm, he might have been occasionally like that before. But it has been a long time since I remember anything so positive.

It seems up to a few weeks ago, we were rapidly growing apart. The wall was huge. This is all so different and I keep waiting for it to shift again. Time will tell.

I'm just trying to remain consistent in my actions towards him. In the past, I've been too reactive and imaginative in my thoughtlife. I keep praying for the ability to be very careful to take things to God first and then guardedly express myself to H.

I'm very curious how all of this will pan out. I'm trying to NOT let my hopes get up too much.

How are you doing? Any interesting plans in your future?

Wallace,

I wonder if God was smiling down upon you when that old thread disappeared. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> You want to know something funny? I had just read some of the pages from long ago about your g/f that I was going to refer you to. You had posted some things to Roll Me Away. She had written back some really thought provoking stuff. I thought it might be helpful for you to re-read some of those old posts. But then, POOF, it all disappeared when I went to write you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Oh well, maybe it still might get revived, then we can all have fun eating our words together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

So are you and G/F together this weekend? I wasn't quite sure how to take your last comment to Petvet. Hope you are doing okay.

As far as me and H, I'm trying to keep doing what I'm doing, as you recommend, and to wait and see what happens. You're right- If he's less than genuine, it will change again. I'm hoping for the best but trying to be prepared for less than that.

Hi to Everyone Else,

Happy Weekend! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hey! Sauron... Alaska is beautiful! Just have your ex fall through a melted whole and have a polar bear eat her for lunch! Or is she too bitter? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Sorry didn't wnat to offend anyone!

Thanks for the welcome! Ahhhh, the divorce starts, the ugly comes alive! Help!!!!!!


Ali~

LOL she's too BITTER - I think even a VULTURE would spit her out ROTF here hehehee.
Sauron

Hi All,

I just had a nice long post to all of you, and lost it... go figure.

Maybe they don't want me hijacking this thread as well... so I'll keep it very short.

avondale...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by avondale:

I knew your "breakup" wouldn't last!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It was touch and go there for the last 2 weeks.

I did a "Tough Love", "Jerry Maguire" (sp?) kinda move at dinner last night.

She did a complete 180 degree turn... and for now... we are a couple again.

I told her that I wasn't going to "M" her until all of our kids were outta the house... and if she couldn't live with that... then, I was sorry, but that was the best I could offer.

She said she would wait, and also agreed, so only time will tell.

relady...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">By relady:

Come on, tell the truth! You figured out a way to wipe out the history of the original "Tough Love" thread, so we wouldn't be able to make you eat your words, again and again and again!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I love eating my old words... it's the "Breakfast of Champions!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Sauron...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by Sauron:

Me? Live in Alaska? NOT!
The WICKED Witch Of The North still lives there and she has caused our kids soooooo much damage as well as tried her very best to split up my own Blood Family from me.. But she failed..

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ahhhh, yes... the damage that they leave behind usually is quite extensive.

I didn't know that Alaskans were that unfriendly until you posted it. No Alaska for me then.

Texas, now that is a good place to be... I have many friends in Texas... good choice to pick for a State to live in.

I lived in San Antone, for a couple of years, many years ago. I think it was a past life that I had, at least it seems like it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

leah...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by Leah:

I wonder if God was smiling down upon you when that old thread disappeared. You want to know something funny? I had just read some of the pages from long ago about your g/f that I was going to refer you to. You had posted some things to Roll Me Away. She had written back some really thought provoking stuff. I thought it might be helpful for you to re-read some of those old posts. But then, POOF, it all disappeared when I went to write you

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I wish you were able to post those... I do miss the ability to at least reread what was posted.

Our history just disappeared when that thread went down... I'm pretty bummed out about it. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by leah:

As far as me and H, I'm trying to keep doing what I'm doing, as you recommend, and to wait and see what happens. You're right- If he's less than genuine, it will change again. I'm hoping for the best but trying to be prepared for less than that. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You keep that frame of mind... and no matter what direction your "M" turns... you will do just fine.

Stay the course... I think we may have another recovery here!

Ali...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by Ali

Thanks for the welcome! Ahhhh, the divorce starts, the ugly comes alive! Help!!!!!!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">We are here for you Ali!

Whatever help you need... we will try to help you.

I'm sorry to hear that the "D" is starting up... let us know what is going on when you get a chance.

Petvet...

I still am not sure if you went on vacation... even as I post this.

So, if you went to Hawaii... how was it, and how are you and your buddy doing?

Sauron...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quote by Sauron:

LOL she's too BITTER - I think even a VULTURE would spit her out ROTF here hehehee.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTF... I had to acknowledge this as I read this... LOL!

All I can say... is ditto to what you posted.

If my exW had a Vulture pecking away at her... I think it would do the same thing... "Bitter", I think in my case that sums it up in a nut shell.

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ March 12, 2005, 04:08 PM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

Ok cuz I know this thread has a sense of humor, I saw this and was laughing. I wish LostHusband and StillSeeking saw this. I would love to hear their reaction to this.

Andy Rooney Sixty Minutes

"For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free", here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire Pig, just to get a little sausage."

Tee heee heee! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OK I hope I didn't offend anyone here! I just thought it was funny.


Thanks Wallace. Yes, the process has started. The Mr. will be living her only three days a week.

I am still partial about Texas though. That state will always remind me the beginning of the end of our marriage. But again, it was a blessing in deguise.

The little one is needing his Mommy!

Ali~

LOL... I evidently didn't hook up with the 80%.

My G/F is not part of that 80%... if she had her way... I'd be "M" tomorrow to her.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hey Ali88! I liked the pig/sausage joke - hehehehee good one! Thanks for sharing.
Yah I will say this - some men - not all - can be PIGS hehehe.
Same for some of the womenfolk, however in my case, not all. I know some very sweet and kind women - mostly older ones, but beginning with my wonderful Wife, of course!
My Ex? She's bitter only coz SHE wants to be. Most of the peeps in Alaska are OK - like any other state (with exception of Texas) kinda ordinary, and yes you can make many good friends up in Alaska. Why is Texas an exception? Coz peeps here are SOUTHERNERS and we just might have some HILLBILLY in us too!
And it might be that good down-home Country Cooking too...
San Antone - yah I love that place! Sometimes I wish we lived down there, but all our Family is up here in Ft. Worth area so that is where we'll stay for now. My side of the Family is mostly up in Virginia - but I don't like Virginia either. That's another state I would not mind seeing fall off into the ocean...
So.. (as the Germans say when they're talking to you) With that said, I am glad I joined this Thread and also it's good to see it up and going again - you know, so many times I lurked on the other 'Tough Love' thread, but never quite posted on it.. however this time, I'm glad I did!
God bless All Y'all!!!
Sauron (Harold T) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hey All!

Sauron...

Glad to see that your here... and I'm glad that you decided to stay around and post.

The more people posting... the better.

It's always good to get as many different perspectives on issues as the come up, as we can.

Me...

Had a very good weekend, just not long enough as always.

G/F and I are surprisingly doing quite well still... so that's a good sign.

Still putting all my Tax info together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I love tax season.

Well I hope everyone has a very good day, and a good week as well.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ March 14, 2005, 12:04 PM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

Gee's havn't filed yet? We got our refund two weeks ago. And where did it go? Gone, gone, gone!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh my. Leah2be you are a card! I'm ROTF here when I saw you got 'edited' for a dog breed. I know what breed that is..
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Where did I miss this????


OK I JUST WANT TO CRY! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> It is not H. related either!

Ali~

I just looooooooooooooooooove spending our $$ before we get them... apparently our Government does the same thing, ... so why not? Can't take it with you! LOL
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> --------Sauron--------- Here's another funny I got in the email this evening.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

After every flight, pilots fill out a form called a gripe sheet, which conveys to the mechanics problems encountered with the aircraft during the flight that need repair or correction. The mechanics read and correct problem, and then respond in writing on the lower half of the form what remedial action was taken, and the pilot reviews the gripe sheets before the next flight.
Never let it be said that ground crews and engineers lack a sense of humor.
Here are some actual logged maintenance complaints and problems as submitted by Qantas pilots and the solution recorded by maintenance engineers. By the way, Qantas is the only major airline that has never had an accident.
(P =The problem logged by the pilot.) (S =The solution and action taken by the engineers.)

P: Left inside main tire almost needs replacement.
S: Almost replaced left inside main tire.

P: Test flight OK, except auto-land very rough.
S: Auto-land not installed on this aircraft.

P: Something loose in cockpit.
S: Something tightened in cockpit.

P: Dead bugs on windshield.
S: Live bugs on back-order.

P: Autopilot in altitude-hold mode produces a 200 feet per minute descent.
S: Cannot reproduce problem on ground.

P: Evidence of leak on right main landing gear.
S: Evidence removed.

P: DME volume unbelievably loud.
S: DME volume set to more believable level.

P: Friction locks cause throttle levers to stick.
S: That's what they're there for.

P: IFF inoperative.
S: IFF always inoperative in OFF mode.

P: Suspected crack in windshield.
S: Suspect you're right.

P: Number 3 engine missing.
S: Engine found on right wing after brief search.

P: Aircraft handles funny.
S: Aircraft warned to straighten up, fly right, and be serious.

P: Target radar hums.
S: Reprogrammed target radar with lyrics.

P: Mouse in cockpit.
S: Cat installed.

P: Noise coming from under instrument panel. Sounds like a midget pounding on something with a hammer.
S: Took hammer away from midget

Hi all!

Sauron: I think folks in Alaska may have attitude issues because it is so darn cold. Sunny weather makes folks happy. What do you think?

Relady: No, I'm not a vet, but I wanted to be. Folks close to me have tried to get me to try again, and you know after the kid is out of college and on his own, I think I am going to apply to vet school to see what happens. I want to at least try before I die. Thanks for asking because I just came up with the idea. Buddy has always told me to give it a shot, but I have a kid to take care of first. How is business? How is the love life?

Leah: Yes, I would be cautious about your H. Play along until you know there is a sea of change. I bit your little fellow is something else. The toys are a lot of work to groom.

Wallace: I love Aussies, but they are wired. I know someone who has a couple of champions and they are so beautiful when they are groomed. They make good yard dogs when you can keep them inside the yard. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Avondale: Yeah! How to greet the ex is am issue for all concern. I try to pay them no never mind. How are things going?

Me: Corporate tax returns were due yesterday, so I have been busy right up to the deadline. Someone brought up Roll Me Away. I really miss her from the thread. Avondale reminds me of her so much. I hope things are going well for her in her new union. I met buddy at a school and smoozed her over a six-nine month period.

Later.

Wallace:

[QUOTE] Wallace: I love Aussies, but they are wired. I know someone who has a couple of champions and they are so beautiful when they are groomed. They make good yard dogs when you can keep them inside the yard.[QUOTE]

Yes, Aussies and all other herding dogs are wired. I know one who is actually very calm. Weird I know. I kept telling my frined I am going to steal her dog.

It is almost the one year anniversary that I had to put down my border mix. He always escaped and went after some kids in the sub divison behind me. So we were kind of forced to put him down. I will never forgive myself for that because he was a great dog! I am still angry at our on neighbor who kept calling animal control on me. Sad thing she goes to our church and she is really nice.

Ali~

Hey All,

Sorry for not posting lately... but, boy do I have a bunch going on right now.

I'm still working my taxes, as I'm probably going to have to pay in this year. I don't want to give my money up to them too quickly. I'll probably go right to the wire with it.

Sauron...

I liked that post with the Airline Pilot and the Mechanic. It was funny some of those responses that they shot back at each other.

What made it even funnier... is it was an actual response back to each other.

Ali...

Petey... that's my Aussie's name, is a good dog.

We never let him out of the yard... but he has his moments sometimes.

He loves to run!

Imagine that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Petvet...

Are you aware of that Dog breeders/Dog show program they have coming on Cable/Satelite?

I can't remember what channel it's on, or going to be on... but I saw a commercial for it about a week ago?

Who knows... maybe we will see you on it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

avondale, relady, Leah, Trusting Him, Stacey and everybody else that I missed...

How is everyone doing?

Let us know when you get a chance.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ March 17, 2005, 05:04 PM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

The Sun. O yes, the Sun. El Sol. We LOVE him down here in Texas - when he's not hiding behind the clouds those nasty bad old Cold Fronts bring down here every Winter and early Spring. Sunny days bring many joys, at least for me! Alaska peeps DO have issues in the Wintertime - their days are ONLY 3 1/2 hours long then... DOH! Is it any wonder they drink more alcohol per capita than any of the other 50 states! More murders in the Winter as well - cabin fever sets in - it's not pretty. Although, in Summer - it's a kool place to be, especially in Anchorage area..
I'm glad someone like my sense of humor about those Q&A responses from Quantas Airlines - I cracked up when I first read them. More humor to follow as I can find it...
Peace (in Iraq)
Sauron

.. kickin' it 2 the top.. how's everyone here?
El Sol came out in strength yesterday - got up to 75 and very nice! Good day for working outside...
www.hcnews.com --- our town is having 'OUTHOUSE RACES' today! anyone care to 'give it a go' heheheheheee
Oh my. Such a killer PUN...
SDLOM

Hi there all -- I am back again but definitely in a better state than a year ago. Yes I tried the reconciliation for yet another year but the lies and the drinking has become worse than ever. I have now moved out of the house and the divorce is going forward. Just a reminder for those of you who do not know me I am a single mother of 4 boys and 4 girls ranging from 17-5 my stbx is bipolar and alcoholic. We have been together for 18 years. 1st separation March 3 2003, reconciled for one year 2nd seperation Mar 6 2004, reconciled for one year and again Feb 17, 2005 I moved out into my own place with my children and he left for VA to stay with his parent's yet again ---the family of enablers--- The kids keep saying he won't be back, Who knows??? Today is a tough day, I really thought I was ready for it this time but the pain of knowing the bottle mean't more to him and that my life has come to this. I am positive most days but every now and then like today it hits me with a ton of bricks. I am trying to get everything settled and the kids feeling secure. Thanks for all of your support the last 2 years. I will read the threads to get me updated with all of you. Talk to you soon

Mommax8

WOW... Left with 8! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Care to give me any suggestions on how you do it? I sometime wonder if my H is bipolar because his moods change so quick. Very unpredictable. Very happy one minute and then, very angry the next!

People like you inspire me! Makes my situation seem easy.

Ali~

<small>[ March 20, 2005, 09:25 PM: Message edited by: Ali88 ]</small>

So Sauron...How am I doing???

Ummm, that Texas Killer Margarita will do just fine if that tells you anything! Gees, I was just at the store, should have picked up some of the goods. Yeah right..me with a buzz with two cranky kids. And by the time they go to sleep, I'd be so tired that nature has taken the cheap way out for me. Naturally drunk. Kinda like where I am now! Humm!

Hey Wallace,

My Border would find ways out! He had a screw loose according to the vets, pet therapist, behavorist etc,. He hated to be in a crate. If we left him out, he'd pee every where. Pretty gross. Severe separation anxiety. Even on meds he was nuts. But he was so lovable. When we would leave, we'd had to put him in the garage or in the back yard. But when we lived in our townhouse, We'd put him in the garage with all the goodies. Radio, big fluffy pillow, toys, kongs stuff with treats. Even stuff with my scent on it. He didn't care. He wanted out! So he learned how to open the garage door. Yep! He would paw at the button until it opened. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Got a call at work that he had escaped. Very smart dog. He also learned how to roll down the car window. Thank God for child locks! LOL. I loved that dog and I miss him soo very much. I still hate myself for putting him down.
So what color is your Aussie? My new dog needs a friend. Want him? He is half Chessie and golden retriever and black lab mix! Great dog. So why do I want to give him away? The biggest animal lover advocate for animals needs and against breeding when there is so many animals out there without a home. That is a whole new thread.

Anyway, I am soo tired I have no idea what I am typing. I have to go make the bed or I am going to be just sleeping on the mattress. I had bought a sheet set that is 600 thread count. I don't want to sleep on any other than those. They're in the dryer. Talk about soft! So I have to go put them on the bed and I am posting this why???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

buh bye and nite nite

Ali~