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I've certainly had great sex in dreams, but not to the point of O...gee, maybe I need to sleep longer!!!


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Twice while sleeping, once waking up on the pull out couch at a family reunion party weekend at Grandma's, yes the whole family was starting to get up and move around the house and the next one was at home in the middle of the night. Thank goodness I am not really noisy! OH - a side note, this is perfectly normal. See Dr. G. - http://www.thriveonline.com/sex/experts/drgardos/drgardos.07-14-00.html
Been on the puter WAY too much today. Feeling highly sexed. wonder why???

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Is this all there is? I was hoping for a little more response here... Hoping to get some ideas on how to fire up my libido w/o serazone prescription/female viagra.

How can you fire it up?, when you still think you are being compared or wondering if she was better, even though you've been told she was not better, just different, and trying so hard to imagine what she looks like, other than smaller than yourself. She is small, I guess that helps in the wiggling ability department!

Maybe this should be another thread, but what shall I call it? Schizzo and Kathi help me out here, give me some hints on how to get my GROOVE back!!!! Great thread title, How to get your GROOVE back...Somebody else start it, ok!!!

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[ February 08, 2005, 07:59 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]

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I am with KristyAnn on the "wet dream thing" and to add to that, I have been able to achieve orgasm without ANY stimulation whatsoever whilst fully awake....I was in my office, listening to my (now x) husband um, "entertaining himself" and totally got into it myself, without me touching myself in any way. I truly believe it's a mind over matter thing......I was a late bloomer, didn't start having O's til I was 30 (am now 35) but now I can achieve an O any time I put my mind to it. I think it's sad that people automatically assume if a woman is so in tune with her body that she can make that happen, that she must be faking it. I'd be striving to make it happen in my own love life instead of discounting it!!!

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This is a joke my brother told me recently:

Why do women fake orgasim?......

Answer>...They think we care...

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My wife is 29, I'm 28, and I can say that she has had only 1 O through intercourse. I do, however, manage to get her there every time we are together through other stimulation. I thank god she can not get it through intercourse, as the OM did not give her an O the one time thay were together.


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Well, here's a topic!
Age of first O: 8 years old, in bathtub, "investigating" things.
First O w/partner: 13, with friend "Tammy." We started practicing kissing for boys at a sleepover (just us two) and wound up making out. She knocked my socks off!
First O w/boyfriend: 15 w/H #1. I married him when I was 17. O was pretty much a regular thing after about 2 months of "doing it."
I have to say I have been blessed. If I'm really aroused before we start (doesn't have to be foreplay - sexy talk, dancing, flirting, etc. works) I sometimes climax upon entry. That's the icebreaker, then more follow. I've made it into double digits on a few sultry occassions! Other times, it feels nice, but no fireworks. I think it might have something to do with my monthly cycle - ovulation and such.
As far as the size factor being a turnoff - I've had lovers who hurt at first, but that really seems to intensify the erotic sensations. Sometimes the pain is what sets me off at the start. Of course, you adapt quickly and the hurt goes away.
Yes, just like the OW, I've had sex with a man and made it to the O the first time with him. Others couldn't drive me there in a car!
Just one more input for the embarassing question of the day!

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OK, Before I cough up my personal info here, ahem, I have to say that this is NOT a silly (dogbert!) or dirty or shameful conversation.

Ok, well, maybe it is a little embarrassing. Some of this stuff I never even told my H!

I finally 'got there' when I was about nine or ten. Bathtub faucet. Quit laughing or I'll kill you, J.

As for the little 23 yr old chippie, I too am among the enlightened bunch who believe in our hearts that she must have been faking. In the rare possibility that she isn't, women who O that easily don't have them as strongly. Lots of little ones that aren't real earth movers.

Personally, I prefer my one hard earned, neighbors-calling-the-cops ones.

Justthewife, you sound like me, lololol thought I was just plain old difficult. Thanks for helping me feel normal.

One last thing, I have been known to fake orgasms (pre H) just to get the poor guy off me! It was like, let's end this already, Prince Valiant! You ain't got what it takes, and I don't want to hurt your feewings, so here ya go. My present to both of us. Phew, glad that's OVER.

Sheesh

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quote:
Originally posted by Khyra:
I finally 'got there' when I was about nine or ten. Bathtub faucet. Quit laughing or I'll kill you, J.

Personally, I prefer my one hard earned, neighbors-calling-the-cops ones.

One last thing, I have been known to fake orgasms (pre H) just to get the poor guy off me! It was like, let's end this already, Prince Valiant! You ain't got what it takes, and I don't want to hurt your feewings, so here ya go. My present to both of us. Phew, glad that's OVER.


Khyra, thanks for starting my day with a chuckle!


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Khyra -
That is funny! I think we are for the most part normal. My directions last night sounded like the new electric slide song - hop three times, stomp left, cross right, stomp right twice, that's right, now how low can you go, wiggle it just a little bit, lemme see you wiggle it - Wait wrong song, but hey it worked!!!

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Glad someone else feels the way I do!

JTW, ROTFLMAO! Yep, that't about it! Only with me it's "ok, that's good, but I need a break, let's do this now. Ok I'm ready to try again - oops, nope not yet, sorry. Ok, go back to that thing again - NO wait for me - OK - now, I THINK I can I THINK I can ...

Sheesh, when did those police cars pull up front?


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quote:
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One last thing, I have been known to fake orgasms (pre H) just to get the poor guy off me! It was like, let's end this already, Prince Valiant! You ain't got what it takes, and I don't want to hurt your feewings, so here ya go. My present to both of us. Phew, glad that's OVER.

Sheesh

Khyra


rotflmfho!!! Well said! Thank you for the reality check, Girlfriend!!!

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PamO,
I agree with your stress factor view...kids, bills, dinner, appts., just everyday life can get in the way of a simple hello...not to mention sex.
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Not *man bashing* here, but I know that when my H is attentive emotionally, I enjoy the sex a lot more, and find it easier to have an O....feels so good and complete . But if he isn't emotionally with me, I can feel it....feels so much like a chore, and empty, without any O.

Faking it...tried it once after seeing that movie with Meg Ryan...and I ended up laughing. My H took it personally, so I never tried faking it again. (wanting to never hurt him, but if I do, I'd rather it be with the truth).

First awareness....1st grade on the school monkey bars. I remember some of the kids watching me, telling me how good I was on those bars....I wonder if anybody had a clue as to why I liked those bars mmmmm Have you ever noticed how the boys don't show as much interest in the bars as the girls? (Just a thought).

First time with a partner....I remember there being Jello involved, but I was too scared to remember anything else I was 19, and loved him with all that I had at that age, but I kept thinking that sex with him was going to be like all of the times it was with my brother, (my brother molested me from age 5 til 12) and it was never enjoyable.

I belive that for a female, sex is more mental than physical, so maybe the *slut* did have an O every time....she has already showed her mentality by not just persuing a married man, but actually having sex with him. If she had the ability to *think*, she would have stopped to consider not just your H's feelings and life in general, but her own as well. Just goes to show you how deep her love for him goes....too shallow to measure.

As for your H, I can't say for sure, but I'd bet my life that his alter ego is envolved more than he his. (No....not just his pee-pee).

As for you, I wish you the best...


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Just one man's experience after 12 years of marriage and 15 years of sex with my STBX.

I can count the number of O's she's had on both hands and both feet. I would say half were from her manual stimulation during intercourse and the others were during oral sex.

She had an "inhibition" to having orgasms and frequently would not allow me to perform oral sex even thought that was what made her tick.

She is a tightly wound person who has the anal retentive Felix Unger cleaning habits. Does this have anything to do with it?

All I can say, is that it was a definite inhibition she had and something she did not like to discuss. In hindsight, it definetly was a void in my life not having a W who enjoyed O's.

Anyone else seen this?


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I will have to say this is one interesting thread.

For me I had great O when I was younger. I had a older boyfriend when I was in HS and we had great sex. He wasn't very big (if ya know what I mean) but he was really good. We did alot of stuff I haven't done since.
I used to have multiple O with him.

I met and married my stbx when I was 19. Sex was good until the kids then it was fake city and he never relized it. He just thought he was that good. Don't get me wrong he was big and that was good but he just wasn't as good as my first. Maybe that is why I never O as much.

I guess I think maybe at 23 she could be O as much as H says but I'm sure there is some faking going on there to.

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hey, dazed...

teddy bear here, too...

stressful home life drives babies to use it as a sedative...


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I think being orgasmic is largely a matter of how well the woman knows her own self, being free from mental or emotional hang-ups, and communication skills. If WE don't know what it takes to get us there, they obviously won't have a clue. If WE don't have established communication and intimacy, it ain't gonna happen.

I have heard that there are some women in their 40s that don't achieve orgasm through intercourse. I am sure that is true, but for me the first orgasm through intercourse was about the third time. However, it doesn't happen every time because there have been times when I just wasn't present and was just going through the motions. It is always better when I am "involved".

Anyway, I think this "every time orgasmic wonder" is either a fabulous communicator with a wonderful sense of self and confidence (hard to come by in 23 year-olds), or she is a great actress. My guess would be the latter since they just met and she *is* 23.


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quote:
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by justthewife:
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It is really easy to fake one


Then what are those contractions?
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Anybody with the slightest bit of muscular control can do that at will, on beat, quick, slow, strong, weak, standing on their head. That means nothing. I still say she's faking it. While that may feed the H's ego, it certainly is doing nothing for her satisfaction.

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Ok - I have to fight back on the age thing (I'm 24)

Usually I do O each time with my H. However - going to popeye's last post - not recently (a few weeks) because I've got a few hang-ups and haven't really been interested. I'd rather do it myself (sad isn't it).

Other point - Resiliant - I have 2 different O's too! One O is totally more intense (oral/manual) and penetration O is different (don't know how to best explain it).

But, I hate to say it, Miss Thing may not be totally faking all of it. Depends on what kind of 'wigglin' she does. Plus - this is a totally different age, Miss Thing may have had quite a few partners (sorry I know that doesn't really help) I don't quite understand that myself especially since I've only had 4 partners since I was 17.

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