jamup,
Another reply from the male perspective. My wife is an "a" cup and has the typical "mama belly" from having two children, yet I adored her body. I wish to God I was holding her now.
She has a history of breast cancer in her family and I thought before we were married "what if she were to have a mastectomy?"
I realized then that it's not what you carry on the outside of your chest but what you carry within it, in your heart.

Jamup, I am sorry- I did not mean to make you feel bad about mentioning that my h wants me to lose weight and I think I can do it.... if your H really wants bigger breasts you can do that too! In my opinion... but he told you he does not....<p>So, I do not think it is the breast issue... my H is actually telling me what is wrong with me... not just the weight... other issues.... oh I missed a hair on my leg... he doesn't like my hair "striped" as you call it... highlighted as I call it.... what else is in his list? He thinks I need to brush my teeth more often because sometimes I have bad breath (who doesn't) and it is a major turn off to him... I even tried buying some super sexy lingerie... but got a lecture.. that that is not what he likes..he likes demure women in white cotten panties.... <p>what else..? He is sooo picky, and when we married he thought I was the most beautiful woman on earth... what happened? I guess 2 kids... I am not sure what else I did wrong... gained weight... got angry at him when he was irresponsible or mean... etc etc...<p>At least your H doesn't have the long list of changes desired in you? right?<p>Hugs to you, I bet you are
beautiful, sexy, intelligent and wonderful... now say that to yourself in the mirror 3x a day! K?<p>Honey

Jamup, I am sorry- I did not mean to make you feel bad about mentioning that my h wants me to lose weight and I think I can do it.... if your H really wants bigger breasts you can do that too! In my opinion... but he told you he does not....<p>So, I do not think it is the breast issue... my H is actually telling me what is wrong with me... not just the weight... other issues.... oh I missed a hair on my leg... he doesn't like my hair "striped" as you call it... highlighted as I call it.... what else is in his list? He thinks I need to brush my teeth more often because sometimes I have bad breath (who doesn't) and it is a major turn off to him... I even tried buying some super sexy lingerie... but got a lecture.. that that is not what he likes..he likes demure women in white cotten panties.... <p>what else..? He is sooo picky, and when we married he thought I was the most beautiful woman on earth... what happened? I guess 2 kids... I am not sure what else I did wrong... gained weight... got angry at him when he was irresponsible or mean... etc etc...<p>At least your H doesn't have the long list of changes desired in you? right?<p>Hugs to you, I bet you are
beautiful, sexy, intelligent and wonderful... now say that to yourself in the mirror 3x a day! K?<p>Honey

Well, I'm the big-breasted one, and my H is a breast man, one among the many things I don't understand about this. He also says my genitalia is far superior and told of this in detail as to inner anatomy and how disappointing it was the first time with OW, as soon as he was inside his first thought being, "This is not at ALL what I've been used to."<p>Before the A, all this talk about my attributes was very encouraging because my H's number of partners before meeting me was in the triple digits, so to be told that you're the best out of so many is very flattering. And he still says the same things, that none of that has changed.<p>But I'm left to wonder if I was that attractive and had all the right parts and do everything better than anyone else, then why discard me? Hard to believe any of that stuff anymore.<p>His answer is that he thought he had already lost me, was convinced that I no longer loved him. The fact is that I also felt that he didn't love me anymore, but I valued what we once had with each other enough to not risk permanently throwing it away by having an A. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I think we have to just reach into ourselves to find the beauty there. My guess is that you have beautiful breasts, and that they have given you and your H more pleasure than anything he got while slumming. Sometimes it helps to focus on what our body parts do and what they are capable of rather than what they look like.

Honey, you are so sweet. You sure know how to make a girl tear up!!<p>And thanks to the rest of you for your encouragement. <p>The only physical changes he suggested were ones I prompted out of him. I just want to be sure I'm doing all I can do to keep his eyes, thoughts, etc. from wandering again. The physical changes were not "undoable" things either. He likes my hair better long, likes me to wear perfume, etc.<p>The only change he has ever requested from me is to "want him." Not just sexually, but as a friend. Therein lied the ruit of our problem.

I think small boobs are sexy as hell. especially under a soft sweater.

You guys make me laugh...<p>Sitting here feeling miserable and sick and I read wat Mon wrote...I understood it...then to read Jamups confusion, then Resilient trying to sort it out...<p>Thanks guys...just something small I know, but I'm smiling!!! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>DANCER

Oh, all that laughing made me forget to add...<p>I dont need to wear a sports bra...usually...well, I'm breastfeeding at the moment. But even tho I'm breastfeeding...I dont even need to wear a bra at all...like, right now I'm wearing a singlet top, no bra...do this all the time and no, I'm not afraid of sagging...wish I was, it would mean I'd have something to worry about.<p>My H told me all the time he likes mine, but I still neva believed him...it was how I saw myself. Still do. <p>Dancer

Dancer,<p>My suggestion: Believe your H. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Us guys know what we like and will be honest about it.<p>God Bless,<p>JL

I think this is the first time in my life that I've ever wished for bigger breasts. In high school I played basketball and ran track, so I was thankful to not come home from every practice with 2 black eyes. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] I've always been glad that men did not gawk at my chest- wanting to get to know it instead of getting to know me. I've also always been glad (in hindsight) that I didn't have those pesky teenage boys constantly trying to paw me. Oh they tried, but not nearly as much as if I'd have been bigger chested. I've always accepted my size until now. Even if I could "pick a size", I would not want them as large as hers are. No need having back trouble. And she's old enough that gravity has already taken control and she's had a lift job. I guess you have to take care of your best assets.

I know! I know!<p>I have really big ones, and want to have cute perky little ones, soooo<p>I will give you one of mine! You can cut it in two, and that will be more than sufficient! Then I'll take my remaining boobie and cut it into 4 quarters. 2 of them will be my nice new perky cute boobies, and then I will buy a sweater and wrap the other 2 parts in it and send it to Easy E to use as sort of a woobie, a comfort item.<p>All solved.<p>Thank me later.<p>Elizabeth<p>PS Maybe SNL will do the surgery for us, he is kind of a mad scientist with all that biology stuff...... [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Have you ever watched an implant surgery? Esp. the types they do nowadays so that there are no scars left? They go through the belly button and push the empty implant all the way through your tissues until it goes in place, then they blow it up. OMGosh! (cringing) Not worth all that pain... IMO<p>But if you truly want bigger boobies, then do it. There IS a way... However, I don't think changing your appearance this drastically will prevent your H from having affairs tho. He needs to be willing to start protecting himself from his own weaknesses.<p>OW really has nothing to offer your H, which is why he remains with you. Relish in that instead of allowing OW to be superior to you in any way in your thought-life.

From my perception, this is one of those things where the grass always seems greener. I am a 38D and life isn't all it's cracked up to be. I don't remember the last time in my life that my breasts were "perky". Forget about finding a really good, supportive, pretty bra in the local department store. Buying shirts is no picnic. Most of the time I have to go up a size just so the shirt won't gap between the breasts. And don't get me started on the back trouble; the seemingly constant ache between the shoulder blades. Yes, men to tend to notice and at times that isn't the most flattering thing in the world. I have considered breast reduction but cancelled that idea after watching one of the shows that actually shows the operation. 36B doesn't sound all that bad to me. I don't consider that too large or too small. <p>Jamup, I don't know what to specifically tell you. We all have our own hangups about our bodies. But rest assured that there are those of us out there that would love to have breasts the size of yours.

I guess it comes back to trying to protect myself from him ever having an A again. My breast size is the one thing I can't "fix." (Even though he's not requesting it).

Believe him....bigger's not always better. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

Look at it this way, the space is in her head for brains was replaced by air. Her "brains" were put in her breasts, that's the only thing she has to offer!!!<p>By the way, I'm a 36B too, I've always heard that more than a handful is just a waste!! LOL!!

"OK"..........Question.........been killing me for years!<p>Flat, small, medium or large.......anyone else out there ever wish they were unzippable and removable (just through them right on up on the dresser for the night, so you can sleep on your belly all night)........ [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Me: I'm 40 (look about 35), 5'1" 115 lbs. 36C, flat backside though, blondish-red hair and blue eyes. Fair skin (in spite of this mess for last 3 years, I have very few lines)...... (I am FAITHFUL, loving and WH once told me that he loved me for having a forgiving heart.........I'm an Officer.<p>OW: 50's+, leathery skin, tons of wrinkles, wears make-up like a clown or Cleopatra, marinates in the perfume......puts her make-up on with a trowel or road grator...she is short, maybe 4'9? Big caboose and is built very mis-proportioned, big head, little trunk, short legs and big caboose. Urine yellow eyes (freaky). Nice house, van, reeks of money........acts like a teenager...go figure..... She's an LPN.....<p>3 years ago, I deliberately put my makeup on like her and flopped up on the counter on my belly and swung my legs in the air like I would see her do at work........should have seen his face....WH "OBVIOUSLY" was disgusted and told me to go wash that "S**T off my face........go figure.....<p>AND my WH long before this used to "tease me" that he was going to find an older woman, take her for everything she's got and come back to me forever........."USED TO BOIL ME"......<p>Wished I'd been faster on my feet and responded:<p>And what makes you think I'd want you???????<p>Sorry Lord........I couldn't help myself.......Headed to PRAY!!!!!!!

velcro. that way you could put them in differnet places.<p>E

Jamup, believe your H. If he had a fascination with big ones before, maybe he has satisfied himself that they aren't so great afterall. Anyway he isn't making a big deal, so don't obsess on it, and focus on meeting his EN's, and you will be fine [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by jamup:
<strong>Yes I've seen her. Still do see her. A whole lot more than I wish I did. She's bigger than a cantelope although not as big as a volley ball. I guess I could imagine them looking like cantelopes! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Might give me a more humourous outlook on them when they cross my mind. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] </strong><hr></blockquote><p>
Dear Jamup,<p>About the 'canteloupes', my grandmother (very reliable source) says those can turn into 'watermelons' if you don't take care of them. So picture these elongated, droopy watermelons. At least that's what happened in the olden days when women didn't wear bras!!!!<p>How about this??? The bigger they are, the harder they fall?!?!?!? <p>Whatever, remember if it is body parts he wants, you can always get him body parts. But it is much more exciting to have the entire body including the one with the Brain! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>L.