Please try to practice stating your stuff. You're worth it.

"I believe I have been tricked, deceived and mislead."

"I feel frustrated. I wanted guarantees. I wanted my wife to live up to her commitments."

State what you are thinking, feeling, believing and perceiving...this information is left out of describing what you/she said. Give us all of the information, inside and out, 'k?

Sharpens your focus to where you have control.

You've been doing great with stating your fears. Expand on that, 'k?