I had quit snooping for a bit ... obviously that didn't last. I am giving him opportunities to earn back trust by telling me the truth. I have given him all my passwords to snoop as he pleases as well.

I know I can't kick him out of the house ... but I can ask him nicely to leave if he isn't going to commit to the M. I am trying to be as nice as possible about everything, but I thought I made it clear that I will not tolerate an ongoing affair in our marital home - just as he wouldn't.