Yeah, Joseph's letter would have to be modified. Thought it might give you an idea.

TFC, true affection is going to be one of the last things to come back to your marriage. There are still a lot of issues between you two and they're getting in the way. The only advice I've seen on the board is that one just has to grin and bear it as long as one can. You've got to fight the depression with any device you can find. Get extra hugs from your daughter, play with the dog when your husband is gone, talk to your sister, Mom, whatever you can do to get positive feedback when you're feeling down. Your best friend and IC are good sources to talk to also.

I'm not entirely sure what he said was a rejection, btw. The door has been opened on the subject. What can you do to turn it in your favor?

Hang tough, TFC. There have been a lot of good things happening over the past few weeks. Stay with it, okay?