I believe that's the same philosophy Neville Chamberlain used with Adolph Hitler in 1938. It was okay for a while, but it cost everyone badly in the end. I don’t know about this contingency marriage thing. I agree both parties should commit unconditionally, but it appears your husband isn’t coming to the table with anything approaching that kind of dedication. Perhaps your MC would be so kind as to outline for you which of the directions you want your marriage to go is out of line with what other marriages have going for them?

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