I have not done "this"... (WW) has done this to the kids. The truth is what it is.

When you told SIL's son about SIL's EX being an alchaholic or other truths about him... were you hurting SIL's son... no he did.

The boys need to be taught about right and wrong. Keeping silent only allows the cycle to continue.

Great answer! It is amazing how your WW is portrayed as the victim, when the real victims are you and your boys. At least now the boys can protect themselves by understanding what is going on here. They will be able to come to you now and talk openly about their concerns about their mothers behavior.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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